To be exhausted with the relentlessness..

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We are healthy and have no imminent financial concerns.. but I just feel burnt out with the relentlessness of full time work, homeschool and childcare at the moment. DH also works full time and does 50% of everything. But I feel there is no rest from 7:30 when once of us starts work to 11pm when kids (primary school age) are at last asleep and have stopped demanding drinks; chats; cuddles etc, and I’m finishing some work (often to 10-11 or 11:30). We Sit down for 1.5hr of of a tv programme on Friday and Saturday. I try to go for a walk or jog most evenings (before dd1 is asleep and before I do some catch up work) and wonder how people with kids manage to have their feet up relaxing watching tv at 9pm (As it appears to me when i pass a window !) Right now I have a load of dishes to wash; cake to ice; two kids to put to bed (DH is mowing the lawn). Just fed up with the ongoing daily Jobs and hassles. And feel guilty as I know I’m unreasonable given that so many Have significant problems - are unwell, single parents, abusive relationships; carers etc. I don’t know how people manage. Huge respect to you if you are in that situation.

Ok I’m moaning. Bring it on. Tell me Iabu and I will get a grip!

Don’t bake
Don’t mow the lawn

Ie lower standards. But yes, it’s hard.

I feel it too.
As of last Saturday though I’ve decided to stop drinking as I realised that I was looking forward and depending a little too much on my daily 6pm glass of wine to get me through the hump of teatime, bath and bedtime.
I’ve also started to take super complex vitamin B tablets too.
I just feel exhausted and a bit low with it all.

Same here until start of last week. Thankfully our school opened for all years on monday, and judging how tired the parents looked (haven’t seen many, and obviously from a distance, but everybody looked beyond exhausted), its fairly normal for households where both parents work fulltime

I have days where I do loads and loads then that means I can do slightly less the next day. So you might see me sitting with feet up at 9pm but that'll be because I was working until half 11 the night before. Not every day is the same.

Also I don't make my own cakes let alone ice them

Recognise all of this, even though I achieve only half.

I’m a single mum and I’m struggling but the best thing about 2020 was getting a dishwasher installed about a month before we went into lockdown. I can’t imagine how much more grim it would be if I were up to my elbows in dishes daily.

I pay someone to cut the grass, he only charges a tenner and I’m sure there’s a teen out there would take your hand off for the job.

Lower your standards. Kids love noodles. Ironing? Wtf for? Where are you going? Icing cakes? The cake which goes down best around here is a Victoria sponge with a layer of jam - I had big plans to make a birthday cake, but the supermarket is still selling them.

I don’t like dirty toilets, but the rest of the house is disappearing under a film of dust and crumbs and I don’t have the energy to even see it, never mind deal with it right now.

I’m a slow burner to make friends and I’d only recently made some friends in my new-ish area, I don’t know when I’ll see them again.

I’m in Scotland too and if they don’t loosen the reins I’ll be dishing out BSc’s in the name of mummy.

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Recognise all of this, even though I achieve only half.

I’m a single mum and I’m struggling but the best thing about 2020 was getting a dishwasher installed about a month before we went into lockdown. I can’t imagine how much more grim it would be if I were up to my elbows in dishes daily.

I pay someone to cut the grass, he only charges a tenner and I’m sure there’s a teen out there would take your hand off for the job.

Lower your standards. Kids love noodles. Ironing? Wtf for? Where are you going? Icing cakes? The cake which goes down best around here is a Victoria sponge with a layer of jam - I had big plans to make a birthday cake, but the supermarket is still selling them.

I don’t like dirty toilets, but the rest of the house is disappearing under a film of dust and crumbs and I don’t have the energy to even see it, never mind deal with it right now.

I’m a slow burner to make friends and I’d only recently made some friends in my new-ish area, I don’t know when I’ll see them again.

I’m in Scotland too and if they don’t loosen the reins I’ll be dishing out BSc’s in the name of mummy.

LP here too. My dishwasher broke the other week. Unfortunately, the oven also appears to be on the way out so I am having to save my cash for that.

OP - just to add my voice to the others saying you're not alone. It's really hard. I agree with others that say you need to be ruthless about carving out some time for yourself where you can. Keep checking childminder and holiday club availability too, you may possibly be able to get something booked for a bit of respite over the summer.

Really relieved to hear all these perspectives, and some tips. Yes I think I need to put the foot down in relation to bed times .. as well as my own!). Am going to take a few days off next week. Again major respect to all those with much more concerns - keep well. bring on autumn or some form of childcare so Our heads can focus on one thing at a time for a change! Thank you ladies for your understanding.

My kids are grown up now, but I remember when they were younger and when I was working full time with a long commute--I honestly don't know how I did it. You aren't crazy. It is relentless, and exhausting, and repetitive, and overwhelming. You will be so proud of yourself later in life, I promise you!