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To think that men who send pictures of their genitals are predatory?

69 replies

Lightnbreezy · 19/06/2020 22:56

Unless such pictures are mutually agreed and requested of course. I'm not referring to happily married / committed men where the wife or partner actively encourages it.

I'm talking about the type of men who jump at the chance to send these pictures without being asked, so long as they think there's a chance the recipient might be interested.

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k1233 · 19/06/2020 23:37

You can always write back "is the park closed?" When they respond with "what?" write back "that's usually where creepy flashers hangout..." Might get the message across.

Endless11 · 19/06/2020 23:39

I always wonder what they think we should do with it.

Print it out?

Grin
Lightnbreezy · 19/06/2020 23:39

I've just googled mole rat to familiarise myself, dear god it is uncanny Grin

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PotholeParadise · 19/06/2020 23:41

Send a past dick pic back to all men who send dick pics to you.

Lightnbreezy · 19/06/2020 23:42

@Endless11

I always wonder what they think we should do with it.

Print it out?

Grin

They think women will masturbate to them I think, such infantile minds
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IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 19/06/2020 23:42

I don't know about predatory but they are certainly deluded !!

IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 19/06/2020 23:45

Mole rat 😂😂😂

Vodkacranberryplease · 19/06/2020 23:45

I done loads of OLD and never had one! As in an unsolicited one from someone I'm not sleeping with. I think it's bordering on abusive actually. Of course it's probably no big deal but it's a pretty shit thing to do. They deserve to be named and shamed - to have it posted on their Facebook. But that would be a dangerous game as suddenly they would become all sensitive, 🙄

xxlostxx · 19/06/2020 23:49

Grin Just googled mole rat images, never knew such a creature existed! Grin

SquashedSpring · 19/06/2020 23:51

Virtual flashing. At least they are creating evidence though if you want to make a complaint. Does anyone know what the law is on this?

Samtsirch · 19/06/2020 23:54

Men are taught to be proud of their ‘member’ whereas women are taught to be ashamed of theirs.
Or is it more complicated than that?
Genuine question. Just thinking of the porn revenge culture, women are shamed for it, but men seem to flaunt it.

jamandtonic · 20/06/2020 00:01

The deluded twats think that a picture of the last turkey in the shop will be a turn-on.

Nope.

And I agree, it is the modern version of flashing. Yuk.

recklessruby · 20/06/2020 00:14

Send a thumbs down back.
Or 'sorry that s way too small to see without my magnifying glass ' Grin

BruceAndNosh · 20/06/2020 00:26

@ZolaGrey

I always wonder what they think we should do with it.

Print it out?

You might need to magnify the image
NinkiNonkiNikau · 20/06/2020 00:55

Send a pic back of a dick ‘here’s mine since you love dick so much’

Lynda07 · 20/06/2020 00:55

They certainly are predatory, Lightnbreezy.

A few years ago I knew a young woman, single parent in her thirties, who was sent emails at work by a much older man who worked in maintenance. She was very upset by it and is by nature rather shy. She did go to HR who were most unhelpful. Despite being encouraged to take it further, she gave up because the whole business was making her feel ill and eventually she left to do something else.

It's disgusting.

Rocaille · 20/06/2020 01:10

Unsolicited dick pics absolutely are the digital equivalent of flashing in the street and should definitely be illegal.

Agree 100%

Rocaille · 20/06/2020 01:11

They think women will masturbate to them

Lol

WeirdAndPissedOff · 20/06/2020 01:15

YANBU - as pp have said, they're definitely the 21st century equivalent of flashing. And tbh, even when they ask first they seem so desperate to send them to you, as if you should be thrilled...

I've got my response planned in case I get another unsolicited one, ever since YouTube decided I absolutely must watch a video of Korean women snipping the ends off of "penis fish". If it makes them squirm half as much as I did, maybe they'll think twice about sending another one. Grin

On the other hand, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who finds nothing at all attractive about male genitalia - especially when they seem to be so proud of them!

BusyProcrastinator · 20/06/2020 01:18

I remember when Bluetooth first came about and random guys would send dick pics in pubs and clubs. It’s flashing.

tobee · 20/06/2020 01:19

They definitely tend to be pretty odd funny looking, but even if they were aesthetically pleasing it's still wrong to send unsolicited dick pics!

BusyProcrastinator · 20/06/2020 01:20

By the way the best response is to reply with the blue waffle. Don’t google the blue waffle unless you have a strong stomach

StormBaby · 20/06/2020 01:21

I used to use their over willingness to send the pics as a handy key to whether they could be trusted. I'd state very early on that I did not want dick pictures at all, ever. If they sent them anyway, I instantly got rid. If I've specifically told them no, and they're doing it anyway, so I want to be in a vulnerable position with this man? Absolutely not!

FannyCann · 20/06/2020 08:06

Send a pic back of a dick ‘here’s mine since you love dick so much’

Call it your lady dick and accuse them of transphobia if they object.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 20/06/2020 08:14

I think it modern day flashing

Unfortunately I think for teenage boys and younger men it’s become so normalised that o don’t think their intentions are always the same

I too went to an all girls school we had many men who would walk about apparently not noticing their dick was on show Hmm we used to laugh at them but then I was walking home alone and flashed at (in school uniform) I was scared then that was the intention