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To think this is a really thoughtless message?

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Isobored · 16/06/2020 22:44

A good friend is a MLM hun. She is constantly preaching about how lucky she is to have said MLM in her live which allows her a great lifestyle and to work around her school age children (no mention of her 6 figure earning DH contributing to her lifestyle)
Anyway, not heard from her in a couple of weeks then get this message ...

Hi hun - saw XXX event on social media at the weekend that must be really hard for you.

Anyway I know ages ago you said you'd host an online party and I never got my shit together. But I'm need to meet some major milestones this month. Can you host for me?

AIBU to think this is a really thoughtless approach (plus terrible sales approach) or I am being a grump and should show her some support?!

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MrsHarveySpecterV · 16/06/2020 22:49

Terrible but doesn't surprise me. I had a grandparent pass away who I was very close to, and a family friend (now ex family friend) who didn't get in touch at the time, messaged me four months later to offer condolences...and try to sign me up to her utility warehouse team. These people have no shame!

ComtesseDeSpair · 16/06/2020 22:51

What was the “event” she saw? If something major like death / illness in the family then yes, a terribly thoughtless message and nobody would blame you for ignoring her message. Otherwise, I suppose if you agreed you’d host a party then you can’t really blame her for trying to get the wheels in motion on that whilst everyone’s social calendars are pretty free.

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Isobored · 16/06/2020 22:52

I'd agreed to host 2 years ago .....

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TheThingWithFeathers · 16/06/2020 22:53

Yep that's thoughtless. I wouldn't be hosting any party!

LeGrandBleu · 16/06/2020 22:54

Just reply “ hi, hosting is no longer an option. I hope you are all well and can’t wait to catch up and chat soon”

pictish · 16/06/2020 22:54

“Hi there. Thanks but no thanks. I’m not interested in hosting now or for the foreseeable. Hope you find another solution, good luck!”

Will do.

Original poster
Isobored · 17/06/2020 01:35

I was thinking of sending her a screen shot asking her if it was spam ?!

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Goosefoot · 17/06/2020 01:39

Yeah, it's kind of off-putting, isn't it? But most of these MLM things are.

Whataloadofshite · 17/06/2020 01:40

I wouldn't enable any MLM crap for anyone.

Thisismytimetoshine · 17/06/2020 01:43

What happens to these people when they've sold to all their friends? Confused

justilou1 · 17/06/2020 01:47

I would write back and say that it is not your responsibility prop up her lifestyle with fake statistics or fake targets with any business that advocates predatory and manipulative tactics such as this, but that’s me.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 17/06/2020 02:00

"Haven't got my shit together."?

I don't know much about business and PR but even I can see that this isn't a good start.

Zoflorabore · 17/06/2020 02:16

Tell her that you will not be having people in your house as are still following lockdown conditions. Cheeky mare she is and not your problem.

TehBewilderness · 17/06/2020 02:48

A simple "no thanks, hun" ought to suffice.

That is such a mercenary message it is hard to think how the friendship could survive.

THEDEACON · 17/06/2020 03:11

I don't even know what a MLM hun is but certainly wouldn't be hosting anything

Durgasarrow · 17/06/2020 03:12

What a horror! Some people feel entitled to ask for anything they want"Nothing ventured, nothing gained,"but that doesn't mean that venturing gains anything, either. You aren't her job.

Durgasarrow · 17/06/2020 03:12

I mean, she isn't your job!

Thisismytimetoshine · 17/06/2020 03:13

What sort of crap is she selling, that she thinks people will buy over Zoom?!

Lego5678 · 17/06/2020 04:04

It sounds like what any mlm huns do. Just send out loads of messages to get any interest. Go to you tube search for anti mlm and there are loads of you tubers who post about mlm tactics. Things like having team meetings online and spend an hour cold messaging people.

Fromage · 17/06/2020 04:22

Depending on what XXX event was, I would be tempted to say that yes it was hard for me, and whilst I am coming to terms with it, I am in no position to offer hosting for her gloopy shite flogging business. I would then say that it was 2 years ago that I offered and I am no longer in a position to offer hosting. Only if she asks why, say "personal reasons" and don't be drawn further.

PurpleDaisies · 17/06/2020 04:24

How bad it is depends on what the event was, ranging from out of order to friendship breaking.
I’d send a very firm no to hosting the event.

StartupRepair · 17/06/2020 04:39

I had the reverse version of this. I rang a former colleague to offer condolences on the death of her she. After a long chat about what she had been through she suddenly switched tacks and started trying to book me in to host a mlm event. It was hard because of course I was letting her lead the conversation and it was difficult to switch gears from sympathy to no thank you.

StartupRepair · 17/06/2020 04:39

Her dh.

chickadeedeedee · 17/06/2020 04:50

Ugh...

Block. Delete.

TehBewilderness · 17/06/2020 05:11

@THEDEACON

I don't even know what a MLM hun is but certainly wouldn't be hosting anything
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