To think this is a really thoughtless message?

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A good friend is a MLM hun. She is constantly preaching about how lucky she is to have said MLM in her live which allows her a great lifestyle and to work around her school age children (no mention of her 6 figure earning DH contributing to her lifestyle)
Anyway, not heard from her in a couple of weeks then get this message ...

Hi hun - saw XXX event on social media at the weekend that must be really hard for you.

Anyway I know ages ago you said you'd host an online party and I never got my shit together. But I'm need to meet some major milestones this month. Can you host for me?

AIBU to think this is a really thoughtless approach (plus terrible sales approach) or I am being a grump and should show her some support?!

Those MLM huns drive me nuts. I repeatedly ignored this acquaintance who I agreed a year ago to sign me over to Utility Warehouse. She has since bombarded me with fake messages to see 'how I am'. I have told her at least 3 times that I have no intention of signing up to be a sales rep. It is like she can speak of nothing else. Her holidays are free through the company and she borrows her dad's car since she does not possess her own one. I fail to see how she perceives herself as successful. She is renting and is very careful with her money. The last straw was about a month ago she emailed me to say 'she was worried about me' . WTF. Can these people not take the hint! Cultish or what lol.

I finally snapped and emailed her back telling her she must have put many people off in the past and can she please desist and stop contacting me altogether.

I must say though the customer service are on the whole quite organised but boy is it hard to get rid of their sales people once you have signed up! I am quite capable of contacting customer services direct and have no need to be 'worried about' as I am a grown woman in her mid fifties and can function quite happily as an adult....!

Recently even their emailing system has gone bonkers as approximately twice a week I am receiving emails about going on to their home insurance. I must have had 4 emails by now and they just won't stop....!

@Zoflorabore

Tell her that you will not be having people in your house as are still following lockdown conditions. Cheeky mare she is and not your problem.

It’s an online party zoflorabora.

I would just reply, yes xxxx was hard for me. Hope you’re ok.
Just ignore her request, if she asks again just say sorry not my sort of thing.

‘Thanks for thinking of me, Bettina. Regarding the mlm hosting, I’ll make you a deal. Leave me out of your business, and I promise not to nag you into coming to my work with me, OK hun?’

I mean really!

I’ll never forget my mum’s MLM friend. She came to my father’s funeral, and tried to corner all the family one at a time, to sell them ENJO cloths. Was the last to leave. Like she’d promised herself a ‘sale’ before she’d go. She skipped me, cos she may be shameless but she doesn’t have a death wish!

I would tell her to piss off. MLM bots use so many predatory tactics to lure more victims in. MLM is a vile business model which should be banned.

If you REALLY want to shoo her away, tell her you have major health anxiety and won’t have anyone in your house until 2025 or until the vaccine has been used by humans for ten years, etc...

What is MLM ?

What an asshole.

I’d be a twat and respond only to the comment about “that must be hard for you”. I’d say “ahh hey Hun, thanks for getting in touch, yeah it’s been so hard. (And then go into why- depending on the situation) You’re so good to be thinking of me. Take care xx” and completely ignore her party request. Make her realise what a dick she’s been.

I have just the thing! This was shared on Facebook at the weekend, for a lady asked to post MLM adverts for her 'friend' in similar circumstances...

MLM REPLY!

Absolutely! My marketing rates are pretty affordable.

Text only post: $20
Text with photo: $30
Text, photo, and recommendation to a link to your website: $50

I can make sure the post is up within the next 48-72 hours, but I do require payment up front. Which marketing package do you want and would you like me to send the money request via Facebook or Venmo? 🤗🤗

And just so you know, I’m running a special right now! I can make a post including text, photo & your link once a week for a month for only $100! Just let me know girl!!

Just say no to hosting and you are fine. Nothing has happened really has it?

@pictish

“Hi there. Thanks but no thanks. I’m not interested in hosting now or for the foreseeable. Hope you find another solution, good luck!”

Will do.

That's it.

If she pushes (you SAID you would, a year ago). 'Things change with time. I'm no longer available to do this and would appreciate you're not pushing me on this. My answer is no.'

I was thinking of replying ....

Sorry COVID has affected so many people really negatively, I would feel very uncomfortable asking people to a party where the expectation is to spend money. Good luck with your milestones though. Sorry I can't help .....

I think that would be a good message

depends what the event was? "i broke a fingernail" or " my beloved pet/relative died"

(mlms are shit anyway)

It is a good message. I'd go for a straight "No" myself. But then I'm a little light on the social graces in the face of obvious piss taking.

I wouldn't even dignify this with a response. Ghosting and blocking should suffice.

If you want to be polite, just say No. That isn't going to work for me. Ever.

I think she’ll come back with, ‘Oh but this will give everyone a lovely chance to get together and my fabulous products will make them all feel sooo much better.’

Don’t engage. A straightforward, ‘No, I’m afraid I can’t do that, ‘ is plenty. If you decide to answer at all.

It’s thoughtless because she’s losing money, so she’s trying to get all her friends involved in losing money with her.

She’s drowning, and trying to save herself by drowning others.

Definitely thoughtless. I had similar except my 'best' friend wanted me to do some fundraising for her to do another overseas charity, this was the 5th or so she'd done, one after the other and definitely think it was just another excuse to go abroad. My mum had died only a few months before and I'd barely heard from her. I've not spoken to her since and that was nearly 2 years ago.

Don't engage - if you give people like this any fragment of hope they just try to twist things to get what they want. Saying that you don't want people to feel they have to spend money = it will give them a little affordable treat! Coronavirus has hit people hard = this will cheer everyone up! And so on and so on.

Just say it's no longer possible for you to host, and leave it at that.

I don't know anyone who does a MLM and, to go by the posts here, I feel like I'm missing out on the entertaining bat-shittery it brings about...

I don't even know what a MLM hun is but certainly wouldn't be hosting anything

Multi Level Marketing

New title for pyramid selling, but the same shit.

If it was her own business I would be there with bells on.
But it's vegan skin care and make up that is more expensive than a high end products (MAC, kiehls' Nars, Liz earl, Eve Lom... etc)

Sorry COVID has affected so many people really negatively, I would feel very uncomfortable asking people to a party where the expectation is to spend money. Good luck with your milestones though. Sorry I can't help .....

Noooo don't send that, you have left that right open for "oh no pressure for them to buy." (She will move to hounding guests to sign up) or a further request in 6months time.

No doesn't mean No, it just means "not now"

"I am unable to help. Please do not ask again."

Surely it is well known that the MLM huns would prostitute their own granny for a sale.

I am not surprised OP.

Block and ignore.

I'm just surprised that she has been with them for 2+ years. Most struggle to get past a few months when they run out of friends and family to pity-buy their overpriced crap.