To ask your experience of workplace bullying?

[IntheHeartofTransylvania]

Can I ask if you’ve ever experienced a form of workplace bullying and if so what form it took and how you addressed it (if at all)?

YABU = never experienced
YANBU = experienced

@goatsgalore no, why?

By an old manager, she used to always give me undeserved bollockings in front of other members of staff, never any one to one constructive feedback

I just left life the company life is too short to be stuck in a toxic work environment

Anyway she got sacked a month after I left because she started bullying my replacement

Why do you want to know?

Yes, I have. I took it up with the leadership and they sorted it out.

I’ve witnessed it but not experienced it

@GreyGardens88 glad to hear she got sacked! She sounds awful. Agree with life’s too short.

1, as a waitress, the head chef had a problem with anyone who didn't stroke his ego constantly. I did nothing until I'd been on antidepressants for months then told my manager.

My complaint was one of many and he was let go

Oops. Forgot to say he wouldn't let me take a lunch break or send me help when I was running the cafe alone.

It was stressful

I have, made my life absolute hell because I got the job over her friend. Luckily she went on maternity leave a few months after I started and I became good friends with a lot of the other staff. When she returned she hated that I was on good terms with ppl, she changed departments soon after and was always off with me. Left the place now thank god.

Yes. My boss. It was as bad as to be akin to an abusive relationship. Everyone knew how awful he was to me but I couldn’t bring myself to go to HR. He handed in his notice as he “didn’t like the way the company was going”. He managed me for three years and in that time I took an overdose, and started self harming again.

I don’t care if this outs me. I wish someone could have spoken up when I was too...done in to do so.

Yes, in my last job.
Whatever I do was wrong and I was made an example of.
If I agreed with her I should have offered constructive criticism, if I did that I should have been more supportive. If I kept away from development ideas and just focused on my patient facing role that was wrong, but if I tried to get involved with projects my patient facing stats were criticised.
Supervision was always about her, no support for me.
I’ve since moved on and it’s like a breath of fresh air!

Agree with other posters re: couldn’t do anything right. Once I put a meeting in and I said “I saw from your calendar that your meeting with X was cancelled” and he bellowed in my face “stop fucking looking at my personal documents!”. He then put his calendar on private which made diary management for us both hellish.

@Lifeisgenerallyfun

I’m sort of weighing up a situation at the moment, not a dilemma as such but just interested in others’ experiences. Wondering also what might be considered by others to be bullying.

In a retail post in a department store, two women in the same department would always leave all the heaviest work for me on delivery day, undermine me in front of customers and often could be found gossiping in the back room about other members of staff. One was confronted by a team member she burst into tears saying what a nice person she was and this is unfair to her. The other lady was given an undue level of respect as she was well past retirement age.
I'm ashamed to say that I left without confronting them myself, although I do still have the occasional daydream about what I should have said. I was a lot younger then though, now I would nip it in the bud.

@RubyWho Jesus that’s shocking and horrible :(

A new manager. He took mu from someone due to be promoted to a wreck undergoing a pip. He said himself ‘I don’t know what you do!’ So how could he know it was wrong. He also hit his 2nd in in and to belittle me and ‘mentor’ me and she spent all day belittling me and picking me apart. Other staff members complained about how she spoke to me but he basically put a stop to that. I ended up suicidal.

I got out and he ended up badly injured which he hated as he was really active and the 2nd in Command lost her marriage and home. I think karma did hit them.

@Muchtoomuchtodo yes it’s incredible what a difference it makes when you go. All the wondering, questioning yourself, etc. Then you realise it doesn’t have to be like that!! Glad you managed to move elsewhere.

@IwishIhadaMargarita that sounds like an absolutely horrendous experience, sorry to hear you went through that.

I had a Manager bullied me, was very dismissive of all my ideas and input, put me down constantly, criticised me a lot. I had had such a brilliant relationship with her predecessor that it was a horrible contrast. Every day I went in I mentally strapped on my armour for another day of arguing with her and defending myself. Luckily my old Manager wanted me to follow her to the next company so I got out. I told HR how difficult she was to work for and gave lots of examples but nothing happened. My replacement had a nightmare with her and left fairly soon because of her too. His replacement got signed off with stress because of her too and left. Lots of people complained to HR about her in the years after I left but she is still there, no doubt bullying other people. I don’t know why they were protecting her.

I started working with a woman and she was absolutely great. I was a temp at that time. The job was advertised so I applied and got it, so was a grade below her. That’s when the bullying started. She just turned.
Nothing I did was right. She picked at every little thing. I actually started making mistakes because she had me so nervous.
Luckily she then had an accident and was off sick then took retirement. Horrible woman.

Badly bullied by a group of women. It never got better no matter how much I spoke up. I left and went somewhere new, nearly a decade at my old job and no ones ever asked me how I was getting on.

It's business, don't get emotionally invested. You work, they pay you. If you don't do it they will pay someone else.

@chateaudekaleidoscope

That is so ridiculously childish and petty.