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Colleague took credit - would you say something?

121 replies

Corporatejargon · 15/06/2020 11:11

Just that. Passed off an important piece of work as their own pretty much, no acknowledgement of the fact I had done the bulk of the research and work. Received all praise. Was so shocked and due to circumstances there wasn’t the chance to say anything when it happened.

Would you say something, or not, to either manager/the colleague for fear of being petty/bitter?

For context - male colleague, about 10 years older but no more senior position wise.

Vote yes - say something
Vote no - leave it, petty

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Corporatejargon · 15/06/2020 11:12

Confused myself with voting there!

YABU - don’t say something, it’s petty
YANBU - say something!

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Chinesetakeawaay · 15/06/2020 11:14

Definitely say something. What if this results in a pay rise or promotion for him??

QuestionableMouse · 15/06/2020 11:14

I would totally say something! Fuck that noise!

HollowTalk · 15/06/2020 11:14

Definitely say something to your manager and produce whatever evidence you can. Do it asap, too.

Angeldust747 · 15/06/2020 11:15

Can you make them aware without raising it as an issue? E.g. Email the person and say how glad you were that they were happy with the piece of work as you spent a lot of time on it, and see if there is an opportunity for you to work on/ complete another project?

LillianBland · 15/06/2020 11:15

I would send him an email, saying how disappointed I was that he took the credit when he knew that you did XYZ. If he confirms that, then I would ask those that are praising him, why they haven’t thanked you for your work on the project. If they try to access you if not being involved, then show them the evidence.

StatementKnickers · 15/06/2020 11:16

I don't see any voting buttons, but you should say something - as long as you have proof.

Thingsdogetbetter · 15/06/2020 11:18

Get sneaky! Find something in your research that you think may need 'clarifying' etc Then go directly to the boss to make sure he understands it - 'when I was doing x, y and z, and I think this might need to be changed slightly to make it clearer'. Or 'when I was doing x, y and z, I found z quite challenging, have you any suggestions for making the process more efficient next time i do it?'. Make it bloody obvious you did the work, disguised in you being helpful/wanting to do better.

Thisismytimetoshine · 15/06/2020 11:19

It speaks volumes that you're wondering if this is petty Shock
Of course you raise it, how could you not?

letmethinkaboutitfornow · 15/06/2020 11:21

I would say something.

How? That would depend on my line manager / task owner / company culture.

But I am confrontational like that 😂

AtaMarie · 15/06/2020 11:22

Yes say something!! Do you have a manager or someone higher up that you trust? Start with them.

SierraOscar · 15/06/2020 11:22

Please don't be sneaky.

I would talk to your manager, and say you that you were disappointed that your colleague didn't acknowledge your work and you would like your work to be recognised, be prepared to show the evidence of your work.

Good luck.

LannieDuck · 15/06/2020 11:24

YANBU - I would have to say something. Not sure exactly how, it depends on the specific context of the project and your organisation.

LakieLady · 15/06/2020 11:24

Fucking right I'd say something. I'd have said it at the time, too, or butted in and explained why I'd written what was in it.

Corporatejargon · 15/06/2020 11:29

Thanks posters! The company is quite a ‘nice’ creative environment IYKWIM so people don’t tend to be too competitive or confrontational so this has somewhat thrown me - I’ll have to be careful. We have the same manager....

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Walkerbean16 · 15/06/2020 11:31

i pressed the wrong voting button as your first post confused me. absolutely say something.

SummerDayWinterEvenings · 15/06/2020 11:32

I'd go to your boss or line manager. I'd actually be after clarficiation to the entire team and an apology from him to the team that he took credit for all your work -I'd want them to make it clear that you were not a contributor but the author. Why on Earth would you say nothing and let the man take all the credit...............??

Dear X

Regarding the meeting on Y. I am extremely frustrated that Mr W took the credit for all my research, ideas, paper, essay or whatever. He did this knowing this was my sole work (and Mr W only did this bit.....). This is pure plagarism and when he received all the praise -he neither corrected anyone's mistake.Working as part of a team is one thing but someone claiming my work is theirs is simply on no level acceptable. please could you let me know a good time today or tomorrow where we can discuss this' Ms Y

And make sure it goes to his boss and your boss (if they are different send two emails) -this is plagirism / theft at best. Arsehole

BetteDavisWeLuvU · 15/06/2020 11:34

Definitely say something.

Embracelife · 15/06/2020 11:36

Absolutely say something
Either go above him or say something directly to him.

Corporatejargon · 15/06/2020 11:38

The slight complication is we did work together on it towards the end - so it’s not solely my work but I wasn’t even acknowledged. I’m sure he’d be thinking ‘well it’s my work as I added x into it’

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CyclingShark · 15/06/2020 11:41

Be sure that you can back up that it was your work before you say anything.

Crinkle77 · 15/06/2020 11:42

Don't your managers know what you're working on? I just wondered why they didn't realise you were involved.

Nanny0gg · 15/06/2020 11:43

A bloke wouldn't think twice! (and in fact, didn't)

petrocellihouse · 15/06/2020 11:43

Say something before this becomes a regular pattern. I have been where you are now, and I hated it and resented my boss hugely for doing it. I wish I had had the guts to say something straight away. However, I did have a smidge of schadenfreude, when I pointed out during a different very important meeting that the tiny bit he had done, was actually wrong!

Haenow · 15/06/2020 11:45

Definitely say something! I know it’s not always easy to be assertive but you did this, you deserve the praise and recognition. :)

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