Marking what should have been our wedding day...

[JorisBonson]

DP and I were due to get married next weekend, obviously not happening now. I'm surprisingly ok about it but know I'm going to feel a bit blue come the actual day.

I kept the booked weekend off work and asked DP if he'd plan something, even if it's just something in the house (for context, I plan 95% of what we do, have had his birthday in lockdown, done theme days in the garden which sounds shit but was a good laugh).

Yesterday he got the right arse about having to plan something, as he hoped a restaurant we like would be open so we could go there. He suggested we would got for a walk - I fucking hate going for walks. He proceeded to take saying we would just get a takeaway, when I countered that I'd tried to make lockdown easier with fun things and managed to give him a pretty good birthday, he moaned that he's not good at stuff like that. So I left it there 🙄

WIBU to tell him to fuck off and spend the day drinking prosecco in my best friends garden, seeing as he obviously doesn't give a flying fuck?

(Can you tell I've woken up in a bad mood about this?)

[IwishIhadaMargarita]

I’m crap at planning the kind of thing you seem to want and your response would make me feel like shite. Your poor fiancé.

[ittakes2]

YABU - it sounds like you are setting him up to fail. Marriage is a two way street - if this really meant something special to you I think it would make more sense to come up with some ideas together and then allocate tasks.... like how weddings are meant to be. Boy you came up with an idea, tasked him to think of things and when he did mocked him. He’s not you. It’s nice you have come up with ideas for his birthday - but it sounds like you are approaching this tit for tat. You’ve done something nice for him so you expect he has to do something nice for you. Honestly, I am wondering if you two should be getting married if this is how your special day has started? Are you sure you want to marry him? It sounds like you might be trying to sabotage things.

[TranielleRadcliffe]

My birthday (I know not the same as a wedding day) was mid lockdown. My DH and I were both WFH but for the evening, he organised a FaceTime call with my family and we all got takeaway. We’ve done a few FaceTime craft days or Task Master activities with my family. Takes a bit of thinking ahead but possible to do.

As PP’s have said, some people aren’t good at planning exciting days when you can’t go anywhere. I think YABU to demand he organise it all.

[Fattyboom]

It was our 'should have been' wedding day on Saturday. We got in nice food, plenty of bubbles and had a takeaway