I want to send DD's back to school but DH doesn't.

[Frume]

More of a WWYD in this situation. We have 2 DD's, one in Reception and one in Year 1. Their classes went back on Monday.

We both have vulnerable family members (Both sets of parents) who we see.

He said he hasn't done any research in to why it is or isn't safe. He has just said that as our parents are vulnerable he doesn't want the children going back. He also thinks it's just too soon and the children who have been sent back are being 'used as an experiment' to see what happens.

I was originally against sending them back as I too thought it was too soon. But things seem to be heading in the right direction and everything is opening up far quicker than I expected. Friends who have sent their children back have said how much they have all enjoyed it and we are (in our household) very low risk.

Obviously our parents being vulnerable is a concern to me and at the moment that is what's keeping me from sending them back. The toss up between them being in school for the rest of the term of being able to see their grandparents - They have been cuddling them, so not really sticking to the 2m.

I'm torn here. If he says no, I need to respect that, right? Even if he has done no research and has no solid argument on why we shouldn't send them back?

WWYD?

Luckily my partners job hasn't been disrupted at all, so he has still been working full time. I'm struggling teaching the 5 year old. I just can't hold her attention for long enough!

What a totally unsurprising response!

'They are on my watch during school hours so I'll be making the decision to send them back. I completely understand if you feel you need to take time off to continue to homeschool and care for them full time instead, as I've had to do for the last three months'.

I think it was either break rules of SD with vulnerable people and keep them off school OR abide by the SD rules and send them back, not both.

Are you not concerned that your children could have transferred the virus to your vulnerable parents?

You're not sticking to the legal requirements to socially distance, so in my opinion you should not send your children back to school. However, this us for the reason that by your selfish actions you will be putting other children in their class at risk who ARE socially distancing.

Are you married?

If not, your personal ability to earn money is vitally important.

Thanks for all your replies.

We finally agreed to send them back and not see grandparents until the holidays.

They had their first day back today and came out beaming!

Great news.

Just came back to check & that's great news. They can see grandparents in a few weeks when it's school hols.