To wonder if anyone knows any gay men who fell for a woman?

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I love my best friend who is gay. He's amazing and we click so well. I'm pretty sure he feels the same way but because I cant be 100% certain, I can't do anything about it.

Does anyone know of any gay men who've ended up with women?

Just to say, am in no way implying that he was a bad person because of his sexuality. Those were his words. I see now that he has always been confused. And I have been caught up in that.

A gay friend of mine once told me that whenever he has erotic dreams, they are always about women.He said he just couldn't explain it.

If he's truly romantically interested in you, he'll make a move when he's sober. He knows you're straight and he knows your phone number.

He's a happy drunk and he's drunk texting you. Don't read more than that into it.

Haven’t RTFT so this may have been mentioned but Russell T Davies maintains that it happened to a friend of his, and he wrote about it in the very lovely, very funny and very good (but largely forgotten) Bob and Rose. This lovely Daily Motion user has uploaded them all and they start here.

As I recall Rose tells him how she feels after they have a drunken shag.

There was a gay man, who I had a joint friend with, and he used to be very flirty with me. Just me. I always thought I could have him if I wanted. At the time I was dating DH, and I didn't want to blow it with my now DH.

@AllTheWhoresOfMalta Bob and Rose is sweet, I love Alan Davies

Antoni from Queer Eye and me. In my dreams...

@Knucklehead101 Antoni is lovely!

Thanks for all your replies everyone. I'm not going to do anything about it. If he ever wants anything further than friendship, it's up to him. I'll get him very drunk and hope his innermost feelings come pouring out.

I know the phrase fag hag has been touched on here, can anyone explain this type of friendship?

It's not about friendship it's a frankly misogynistic term and I've reported it.

No. And I know a lot of LGBT people. Unless he is actually bi rather than gay. Sorry.

My life is a mess and my friend doesn't love me in 'that' way

I do think I could fancy / fall in love with a woman (I am a heterosexual woman) so I don’t know why a gay man would . Unless he’s bisexual but I’m not hearing that this man is.

We had a gay friend in our youth. He married and had a child who is now doing postgraduate study. They are still together. I have no idea about their personal life but it was very odd at the time, he almost gave up his previous gay life completely - friends, job, house, everything.
We made contact again after a few years and was married.

Did you raise the issue OP?

If so that was brave and it must hurt like hell but you can begin to move on

OP I am guessing you had a chat and know for sure now. Your life is not a mess. Alot of people will have unrequited feelings for someone at least once in their life, whatever the other person's sexual orientation. He could have been straight and not feel the same kind of love for you that you feel for him. Such is life sometimes. At least now you know and can begin to move on.

I haven't told him. I can't and that's why my life is a mess. He just gets me, he completes me and I'd marry him tomorrow if he was straight and felt the same way. He's so truly lovely.

A lot of good looking gay men are very flirtatious and charming to women, so it's easy for some confusion to happen from the woman's point of view, especially if she doesn't know he's gay.

This is a homophobic post. Imagine if a man posted this about a lesbian woman.

I have no experience but surely it depends how you define sexuality. It is only relatively recently in human history that we have defined ourselves by a fixed sexuality - and now it seems to be moving to become more fluid again. In previous ages, people didn't restrict themselves so much by labels and just saw sexual behaviour. So someone might have partners who were both male and female but that wouldn't necessarily be seen as strange, depending on the context.

It might be better for your mental health if you distance yourself from him for a bit. It's really hard to find a partner when you have an unrequited lover in your life.

My life is a mess and my friend doesn't love me in 'that' way sad It sounds like you are confused looking to be saved, if you think you life is a mess lay it all out and see how you can improve it.
What is going wrong? Everything is solvable.
Don't get romantically involved with him you'll end up like Mrs Schofield.

I knew a gay man who shocked everyone who knew him by getting together with a woman and having a baby with her. It's rare. Though. I think you need to take a step back from this friendship for a bit. Unrequited love is hard to cope with if you keep seeing that person.

I know someone who married her gay best friend. They have a baby now and are very happy. We were all surprised as her husband had always been adamant he was gay and only ever had boyfriends. Bisexuality was never mentioned.

I'm embarrassed to admit this but I had a strange experience with my bbf DP. My oldest friend is a gay man but came out quite late (married with 2 grown up kids) and his DP is much younger and has been out since his teens and has never been with a woman.
One drunken night we were dancing and being our usual touchy feely selves and my friends DP had a "reaction". I put it down to a one off and we both laughed it off but it has happened again. I can't tell my friend about it because I don't really believe it myself but I have had to distance myself from friends DP and luckily lock down happened so I only see them from a distance now.
I feel awful because we are all very close and friend and me have known each other since we were kids, so this was very unexpected. Also they are the only friends I have and can't afford to lose any more.
I need female friends desperately .