To eat marmite when I want to?

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Had a few glasses of wine last night and a drunken craving for marmite on toast. DH doesn't like marmite, I eat it occasionally. Maybe twice a year. But I do like to keep a small jar in the house for such occasions.

I asked him to fetch the jar and I'll spread it myself, which is when he got really moody. So I asked if I should just fetch it myself then, because it's what I want and I'm having it.

DH objected to me eating it because of the smell. I object to his farts being in the same room as me constantly but somehow this is different. Anyway, I'm hungover and apparently we're still arguing over last nights marmite.

He says I shouldn't have ate it, and gave him no choice. That I forced him, and 'other people wouldn't allow this kind of thing'. I've used my fart logic again, because I've never ever once said, 'that fart smells lovely, do another'.

AIBU for very occasionally enjoying marmite? Or should I be more considerate and only ever indulge when he's out of the house?

He’s mental. It’s not like you’re eating dog shit on toast. Tell him to go sit in the garden if it bothers him that much.

I used to have a Marmite-hater. I hardly ever got to enjoy marmite on toast because I’d have to go through elaborate moves of eating it far away from everyone, brushing teeth etc. My DP now doesn’t like it but lets me sit next to him eating it without huge shows of how disgusting it is.

I know people don’t like the small but every now and then, is it really the end of the world? I don’t like how plenty of things smell but in a family house you’ll encounter random smells sometimes.

What a bizarre thing to argue about , maybe if you were eating it in bed that might be inconsiderate so is farting but quietly minding your own business eating marmite on toast is hardly a crime.

There are certain things that my DH eats that I really don't like the smell of, or I just think is revolting- brown sauce on toast - gross, but I don't comment. Equally he hates the smell of leeks but I love them. We just leave the room if the smell is unpleasant.

I mean you could eat it in another room (the kitchen maybe rather than the living room) and then brush your teeth. Sort of treating it like a curry or a tuna sandwich in a crowded office? I think it’s a bit extreme the position taken on both sides. Find a compromise.

Is it because he was expecting sex and the marmite put him off?
Many of these things usually boil down to men and their sex expectations.

Yes marmite is rank, it stinks the house out and makes your breath stink of it for hours even after you brush your teeth 🤮

@Ragwort I was in bed and he offered to make me toast. That's when I asked for marmite. Sorry, didn't mean to drip feed.

What's actually wrong? It isn't the marmite that's kept you arguing into a new day.

I feel the same about anyone eating salt and vinegar crisps anywhere near me. The smell makes me heave. I leave the room if anyone is eating them and I refuse to buy them for anyone.

@Muh2020 no I don't think he was expecting or hoping. I'm on my period and he knows it's a no-go zone at the moment.

I am eating Marmite on toast right now and DS2 has already walked in, retched, fake-fainted, been chased around the room by me hissing 'you wanna marmite kiss, baby' and when I've finished I'm going to go upstairs and do the same to DH

It's just the icing on the cake.

@carexfairex maybe I should ask him that. I was surprised to find out we were arguing about it still.

In my opinion, marmite should be eaten as often as possible. In fact I’m just going to go and get some now.

So if I eat it more often will he grow to respect my right eat marmite? Or is the consumption of marmite something that is to be negotiated in a relationship?

If he really hates it that much, should I consider stopping?

And he doesn't do the fake retching thing and make a joke out of it.

Literally can not stop laughing at "that fart smells lovely, do another"

If he can fart in the same room as you, you can eat marmite

Hell you can eat durian fruit if you wanted to!

Actually eating it in bed doesn't sound very thoughtful if you really don't like marmite. I wouldn't be impressed if my DH bought a pack of chicken crisps (his favourite) to bed and personally neither of us would ever eat in bed anyway (& we have separate bedrooms ).

I really want some marmite now! He was abit over the top, you can eat what you want, you don't need to ask for permission.

As a Kiwi, as long as you aren't gobbling it in globs from a spoon, you're doing fine.*

*international expectations may vary 🇳🇿

I hate marmite, my boyfriend likes it. He also drinks coffee which I also hate. I'd never tell him he can't drink it when I'm not around. I just joke (and it is a joke) that I can't kiss him after he's had those things.

Your DH is being VVU. Eat more marmite.

I was surprised to find out we were arguing about it still

If you're not arguing it's not an argument, is it!

My sister is a vegan and I can eat meat in front of her because she is not a twat, and, you know, I can do whatever the fuck I want.

I've never ever once said, 'that fart smells lovely, do another'.

Honestly crying

Yes marmite is rank, it stinks the house out and makes your breath stink of it for hours even after you brush your teeth 🤮

I love marmite, DH hates it, but he doesn’t even notice the smell and is perfectly happy to spread it on toast for me. Is there some special super strength marmite I don’t know about and if so where do I get it?

Dp eats marmite despite me hating it. He just doesnt get a kiss after because he stinks of it. Not worth an argument.