To eat marmite when I want to?

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Had a few glasses of wine last night and a drunken craving for marmite on toast. DH doesn't like marmite, I eat it occasionally. Maybe twice a year. But I do like to keep a small jar in the house for such occasions.

I asked him to fetch the jar and I'll spread it myself, which is when he got really moody. So I asked if I should just fetch it myself then, because it's what I want and I'm having it.

DH objected to me eating it because of the smell. I object to his farts being in the same room as me constantly but somehow this is different. Anyway, I'm hungover and apparently we're still arguing over last nights marmite.

He says I shouldn't have ate it, and gave him no choice. That I forced him, and 'other people wouldn't allow this kind of thing'. I've used my fart logic again, because I've never ever once said, 'that fart smells lovely, do another'.

AIBU for very occasionally enjoying marmite? Or should I be more considerate and only ever indulge when he's out of the house?

I feel neglecting to mention you wanted to eat it in bed was a bit of a drip feed.

Do you brush your teeth after because that stench from your mouth all night would be grosse and I would take his side

(I do like marmite and eat it sometimes)

I totally get the whole love it/hate it thing with marmite. I suppose there's no food in that bothered about the smell of, so struggle to relate on that front.

To another poster, we both often eat in bed and I was already drunk after a zoom call. I'm disabled and so unfortunately full meals in bed is also a regular feature in our family.

And I complain all the time about his farts Not just the godawful smell but the way he does it. Like it's a fart train and he needs to squeeze out one more carriage, despite the associated risks. He'll be ranting about something and then to punctuate his argument, he'll drop one as an exclamation mark. He's taught DS the fart cannon and I'm often presented with an 8 yr old bum in the face, just for a laugh. So yes, I get grumpy about the farts.

@WaffleCash

I feel neglecting to mention you wanted to eat it in bed was a bit of a drip feed.

Indeed.

I was at the "fetch the jar & I'll spread t myself" & thought WTF?

He might as well eat it for you as well you lazy bugger!

So was he also in bed & had got up to make you toast & would then be going back to bed?

In which case I think that him refusing to fetch the marmite as well was fair enough tbh.

Yes I brushed my teeth, after I had a cup of tea to help dilute the wine.

@diddl not lazy, just disabled. Apologies for another drip feed.

To avoid any more drips, the house is 3 storey and our bedroom is at the top. I have a kettle, toaster and fridge in the bedroom for all my snack making needs. DH offered to make me toast because he is a lovely kind generous person. I asked for marmite because I was drunk.

I live marmite. Others don't. The whole love / hate is a dream for their marketing department. I hate celery - somehow that doesn't wind people up as much. Now farting on demand - that I could get upset about! Poor you.
Wine, marmite on toast then tea - I like the sound of that!!

EnidB Adore Marmite! lovely salty savoury spread also very keen on Bovril. Also never met anyone at all who likes Celery! Is this a thing?

Tell him he’s just damned lucky he didn’t get a marmite fart in his face.

And then have marmite on toast for breakfast.

My DH doesn’t eat Marmite.
Does he complain when I eat it? No way.
Does he sometimes bring me marmite toast in the morning? Yup.

Sometimes your partner eats foods you think is rank but you like them so shut your damn mouth and let them enjoy their disgusting food choice because your not the one eating it.

Keep eating it & in fact have some for me while you're at it.
I adore Marmite but have a yeast allergy which means it's off the table 😧

@TeddyIsaHe

He’s mental. It’s not like you’re eating dog shit on toast. Tell him to go sit in the garden if it bothers him that much.

You are right, it's not like she was eating dog shit on toast - marmite is even worse than that

The trick with Marmite is to spread sparingly, not a lot of people know that so they think they don’t like it. Unless of course they just prefer plain food.

I once heard someone say that their farts smell quite appetizing.

He's acting like he's severely allergic to it.

Hes being over dramatic. Its marmite

Eat whatever you like. He needs to get over it.

I’d go mental if my bf ate bananas in bed.
However yanbu as he subjects you to his farts. If you have to stop marmiting in front of him you should at least start farting.

@Queenoftheashes "If you have to stop marmiting in front of him you should at least start farting."

I wish I could fart on demand so much! Petty I know, but there have been so many occasions now where the only correct response would be to let one rip.

Well it seems the obvious compromise is "I'll only eat marmite around you when you fart around me"

You're gonna need a bigger jar of marmite.

YABU if you didn't also have peanut butter on the toast with the Marmite.

Yum Marmite & peanut butter together 😋