Not to send y10 DD to school

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If she goes back she will need to go by bus.

She says she doesn't feel safe.

She is working really hard on home schooling

She is very anxious child anyway and is anxious about school although felt better after video explained social distancing.

I'm not comfortable with her getting bus - this will be public bus not school bus at peak time in morning.

Two days a week in school- half days following homeschooling timetable rather than actual lessons, so nine kids in a room potentially working on different subjects, not actual lessons.

I am wary of feeding into her anxiety and her missing teaching?

Genuinely don't know what to do - she breaks down every time school is mentioned. She is normally an enthusiastic student but is very much a loner so happy at home.

Up until covid, loved schools and her teachers.

If it wasn't for the bus I'd make her go

I would forget school for the moment but focus on getting her out of the house every day. I'd be very concerned about her not leaving the house, which I'm sure must be increasing her anxiety levels. The world outside is a lot less scary than she thinks! Fresh air and exercise do wonders for mental health.

YABU, and you are reinforcing her anxiety by not making her go, which will create further mental health issues in the future

Because forcing her to do something which is going to set off her anxiety right now is going to great for her mental health in the future? She's obviously got anxiety issues which need to be addressed but sending her in to school on a bus right now isn't the way to do it.

The risk is incredibly low. Time for her to acquire some resilience, OP.

You need to talk her through the statistics/ the risk to her age group, unless a medical condition is absolutely tiny. Sorry but I don’t think you are helping her or setting a good example.

YANBU at all, OP. It doesn't sound like there would be a significant benefit to her attending.

I also have a year 10 dd. She will be going back for one day a week from next week. Luckily, she can walk to school, so no bus travel. I have zero expectations of any educational benefit, as she is actually doing really well at home with Google classrooms. However, I think there will be some benefit to her mental health, as she needs a bit of face to face interaction with her teachers and her peers. If I felt that the experience would be damaging to her mental health, I wouldn't send her.

I do have some anxiety about her going back, as I am in a "vulnerable" category, but I trust dd to be sensible and I trust the school to do what it can to keep everyone safe. DD really wants to go back, so it's a risk I have to accept. In your shoes, that risk does not seem worth it.

Send her off with a cheery wave and tell her to have a nice day. We have to get back to some normality

As if it was that simple- they make them wash hands several times, line up on spots, in different groups with staggered starts etc, it is far from normal

We had the tutor ring and talk us through it in advance.

Ours is just PSHE one morning a week,

We've been offered one day a week for year 10 dd.

The school have offered transport however as I'm furloughed I will be taking her and picking her up as her nerves were more about a public bus than actually going into the school.

Our school has set up four seperate pods in areas of the school and my dd will be in a group of 7.

She's a really high achiever and has been so regimented with coursework and work at home however I really think she will gain from going in one day a week.

If they offered two days she would go for two.

I think for wellness it will help. I will be sending her with a mask,hand gel tissues and anti bac wipes so she feels safer and I also think integrating a little will lift spirits.

If I felt for one minute it wasn't safe or organised enough I would t send her.
She trusts me and her dad and knows that although she will be nervous it will be good to see her friends and teacher.