NC for this.
I normally speak to my sister several times a day, but I haven’t spoken to her for a week now. She’s a year younger than me, and we both grew up in a abusive home. Both parents were emotionally and physically abusive, we left home as soon as we could. We both got married and have kids, I moved to the UK, my sister is still living back home (Scandinavian country) we’re both NC with our parents. I speak to my brother, she doesn’t. The only person she has is me and her kids. She got divorced last year, her husband was abusive. I help her out as much as I can, I always listen to her and her shoulder to cry on.
Every few months she won’t take my calls or reply to my texts saying she feels down and doesn’t want to talk. I leave her alone and give her the space she needs, then she’ll call me saying she had an argument with her ex and he won’t leave her alone etc.
Then everything goes back to normal, we speak as usual. Then again same thing happens, she cuts me off for a week or two, saying she can’t speak. I’ve told her several times to just tell me why she can’t talk and I’ll leave her alone. But she refuses, always saying she can’t speak and to leave her alone. Then after a few weeks of not talking, she’ll call me again saying this and what happened. I just don’t understand why can’t she just tell me in the beginning why she can’t talk? It frustrates me but I’m also worried, because she doesn’t speak to our brother and she’s NC with our parents so nobody will know if something did happen to her.
She did the same thing again last Friday, saying she can’t talk. I’ve asked her 2-3 times to just tell me why so I don’t have to worry. She said she can’t talk until the 18th June.
I sent her a text saying I feel like she has no respect for me, and just expects me to just sit here not knowing what’s going on etc. I feel horrible for sending the text, but at the same time I’m frustrated and don’t know how long I can take this.