Annoyed by your personal pleasure.

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I don’t know why but I feel irritated when my bf tells me has had pleasures himself. We work different shifts, nights days etc and so we get intimate when we can which isn’t always often. I know when he gets off he usually watches porn, so he tells me. I know most people masturbate but I feel a little irritated when he tells me how he did it to get off to sleep! I am silly to find this annoying ?

Yes.

Do you pleasure yourself? And are you annoyed at him doing it or the fact he is telling you?

I think it’s The fact he tells me.. I don’t think I really need to know

Why don't you start telling him every time you do it? Of course this might backfire and he might love it.

Tell him openly, you don't want to know?
I know my dp does it, but I dont like being told either.
I do it, and I certainly don't tell him when I have.

Why is he even telling you this?
Every time he starts on, just shut him down.

Yes I think I will shut him down. It’s so immature. Why on earth he thinks I need to know I really don’t know!

Hm for me personally mentioning once in a blue moon is fine from either hubs or me. Constantly banging on about it, I would ask what is his point? Is he deriving some pleasure out of telling you( it's his kink to tell you), or is he trying to say it's because you don't give him enough sex, or wth?

Ewww I get that everyone does it but I don't want to hear when my husband does it and he's never told me either!!

Absolutely grim. Yuk. Can't stand the description "pleasures himself" either.

YANBU, there’s no reason why he should need to tell you every time. Just tell him to get on with it and keep it to himself.

I’m now intrigued to know why he tells me. When he next says it I’ll ask him why he’s telling me.

If you don't like it and it's annoyed you enough to make a post why have you not shut it down? As soon as he told me I'd have said "I don't know why you're telling me this. I don't need to and more importantly don't want to know. Is there a reason you're telling me you've wanked?" Either he's very immature (does he tell you when he's done a big poo?) or he's trying to tell you he thinks you're not having enough sex so he's having to sort himself out more regularly than he'd like.

It’s normal to do it, if you don’t want to hear about it just tell him.

Another one who doesn't get why he's telling you?

Taking a shit is also normal but I don't announce it to people.

Sometimes I'll mention to dh that I've had a wank that day but most of the time I wont.Its personal yes but you should be able to mention these things to a partner.

Yeah, why is he telling you? That's weird.

Just tell him you no longer want to know.

I wonder if its because he thinks you would react as he would if you said you had had a bit of "me time"

If I remember once when I told BF that I got fed up with waiting for him to come home from work so I sorted myself out. It was because I knew what would happen, and it did. Within minutes we were in bed and he was ready for action despite claiming to be exhausted. A lot of men get turned on by the thought of women masturbating, so maybe he thought it would get your motor running. Misguided (when will they realise...?!) but I wouldnt consider it to be in anyway weird or having a dig at you.

Would you write this if your real name was published?

It does seem odd that he tells you, also that he has no self control to wait for you. Anticipation in itself is very exciting. I think he is immature and rather basic but he hasn't done anything wrong. Too much information though.

@yesterdayschild stupid comment. This is the point of an anonymous forum.

Probably not @yesterdayschild, but that's the beauty of platforms like this, it allows us to ask or vent with a certain degree of anonymity.

Ask him why he is telling you and how does he want you to respond.

Does he want you to tell him about when you pleasure yourself, to use your turn of phrase?

@yesterdayschild this site would be almost empty if everyone thought like that 🙄