Annoyed by your personal pleasure.

[Joginthepark2020]

I don’t know why but I feel irritated when my bf tells me has had pleasures himself. We work different shifts, nights days etc and so we get intimate when we can which isn’t always often. I know when he gets off he usually watches porn, so he tells me. I know most people masturbate but I feel a little irritated when he tells me how he did it to get off to sleep! I am silly to find this annoying ?

Women seems to find blokes wanking gross but men seem to love woman doing it, maybe hes hinting to hear from you

Does he want to tell you so it makes you feel guilty so then you would iniate sex. Trying to think in the context of a man.

Plenty of men find thinking about women masturbating very arousing, and they do not understand that women generally don't feel the same about guys wanking. Perhaps try explaining this to him?

Ask him if he wants a pat on the back. Such a clever boy. What an achievement. Congratulate him on what a good sleep he must have had as a result of playing with himself. I'd be far happier with a report about how successfully the dishwasher was emptied, or how well the house was hoovered

Start telling him every time you have a shit.

@missmouse101

Absolutely grim. Yuk. Can't stand the description "pleasures himself" either.

I know. It knocks me sick too.🤮🤮🤮

YANBU. He doesn't have to tell you or give details.

My Dp tells me before he has a wank . In lockdown 24/7 so we agreed if either of us needed some alone time we would just say. Sometimes the other person will say "do you want a hand ". Sometimes it's a yes and sometimes it's a "no thanks".

He probably thinks you will get all horny at the thought and jump him because that's probably how his mind works!

Why does he have to share that with you ?. Bizarre !.

He sounds immature, do you have any decent conversations with him at all.?

I think he's trying to make you feel guilty that he's 'having' to sort himself out, ie that you are somehow not trying hard enough.

Either that or he's like a little boy who is proud when he does a poo poo.

Neither of which is good.

Yes, what CrystalTree said - I was thinking the same thing!

I'd tell him bluntly that you neither require nor desire this information. Or ask him why he thinks you need to know. As PP have said, I suspect it's either because he wants to guilt you into "servicing" him more often or because it's a turn-on for him.

But I agree with you, it's gross. I wouldn't be impressed, and I'd be sure he knew it! I'm surprised you haven't already put a stop to it either verbally or by making a face. I don't think I could control my facial expression, in that situation, and it would be very clear that my reaction wasn't positive.

I'd be intrigued as to whether he's telling you because it's his kink, or if he feels guilty if he doesn't tell you, or if he's telling you to make you wish you'd been involved... ooh you need to ask

Yeah, it's not very sexy is it? If he was wanking over you, then told you, it'd be different.

But "babe, I just finishing pleasuring myself over someone else", isn't what any women wants to hear lmao

least hes not going to another woman like some would do

My partner and I talk about it, but if you're not comfortable with it then you should tell him.

I don't understand all this 'oooh it's gross' - it's really not. It's perfectly natural. Maybe he wants to have an open and honest relationship with you where you can talk about all aspects of sex? It's fine if you don't want that but it doesn't make it 'gross'.

Some people are so strange!

I know it happens, it's human nature and I have no problem with it but I wouldn't like to be informed of it.

YANBU, it's awkward!

It's not gross but it's not something that needs a report back either! The OP actually said it's 'annoying'.

Do you think he’s initiating some dirty talk?
Perhaps he would like you to tell him about those things too? Alternatively it might be his way of including you/feeling close to you whilst apart?

Yep I think hes trying to get you in the mood. Thinking that a women telling him all about her adventures would be arousing to him. Not realising it rarely works the same in reverse.

Maybe he wants to have an open and honest relationship with you where you can talk about all aspects of sex?

Then why doesn't he do that instead of talking like a schoolboy who just discovered porn and wanking?