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WIBU in Lidl queue

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GimmeAy · 09/06/2020 21:22

So, this happened yesterday and I'm over it as they say, but at the same time it has just crossed my mind again today as the whole shebang caused me much annoyance at the time as I dislike conflict.

For the purposes of a fair hearing, I'm not going to say which party I belong to just yet.

Basically it all went down in a queue for Lidl.

So Man called Bob joins the end of the queue.

Woman called Mary joins the end of the queue behind Bob.

1 minute later Sue and Karen join Bob at his place in the queue in front of Mary.

Mary states that there's a queue and that they should go behind her.

Sue and Karen state that they are with Bob and they're family and that they're not jumping the queue.

Mary won't let it go and states that regardless of who they are they should join the end of the queue behind her.

Heated argument ensued with both sides exchanging 'pleasantries'.

Was Mary wrong or were Sue and Karen? Bob kept out of it.

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GimmeAy · 09/06/2020 22:02

I like to think that Rita behind me who kept out of it was secretly cheering me on. Cheeky fuckers.

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GimmeAy · 09/06/2020 22:07

More likely Rita was rolling her eyes and saying to herself 'Fucking Irish - have to be fighting' Grin
I do pick my battles, but it was just their attitude that annoyed me.
I've accidentally gotten off a bus and joined the middle of a veeerrrryy long queue as I didn't look behind me. When I asked the meek looking man beside me whether he was queueing, he said yes - the queue is behind you. I immediately apologised and went to the back of the queue.
I practice what I preach. I don't jump queues. I would never have the balls to do what Sue and Karen did.

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BatShite · 09/06/2020 22:07

Mary is right. But I would be with Bob personally.

Longdistance · 09/06/2020 22:08

Mary should’ve grabbed Sue and Karen’s baskets and threw their shit across the other side of the store.
Bob was a placid lap dog 🐶

JayAlfredPrufrock · 09/06/2020 22:13

If they were only letting one person in at a time then they were totally CF. I’m with you Mary.

sauvignonblancplz · 09/06/2020 22:18

I totally get it- space jumping is so bloody annoying, but they knew each other , they just wanted a chat. I would’ve just let it go.

But you are not wrong to challenge it if it annoyed you .

Mrsmadevans · 09/06/2020 22:28

Mary was wrong if they WERE all together and not buying separately it was one transaction & had just the one basket/trolley between them.

GazingAndGrazing · 09/06/2020 22:36

I’m with Bob and his crew who were most probably shopping on the same card to deliver supplies to the needy.

Mary needs to think out side of the box for a change

lucyintheskywithcz · 09/06/2020 22:38

That would kiss me off. yANBU

Flibbitygibbit · 09/06/2020 22:41

This is like a maths O level question. I need a calculator and a pen and a paper

SoloMummy · 09/06/2020 22:43

@GimmeAy

Unless Bob was a polygamist, they were not all the one household (or not a conventional one). All approx. 40-50, two women, one man. Bob takes the place in the queue and the two 'ladies' arrive 1 - 2 minutes later and join him at his place.
But in your opening post you say they're saying they're one family, they don't say one household - you've inferred that's their meaning. If I was shopping with my sibling or mother I'd have done the same for a queue into the shop.

Though I readily admit I've not been to a shop for over three months so no idea of how extensive this queuing is...

HugeAckmansWife · 09/06/2020 22:44

Under normal circumstances it wouldn't matter but if its one in one out then the two late comers effectively added two more people to the queue in front of the op. I wouldn't say anything because I'm a wuss but it would annoy me

EustaciaPieface · 09/06/2020 22:44

Mary - you - were totally right!

Gingerkittykat · 09/06/2020 22:45

@1forsorrow

At my local Lidl it is one out one in so I wouldn't be happy at having to wait longer while two people went in front of me. So you are right Mary.

I had similar happen once in Sainsbury's, two women chatting in front of me assistant started to serve them. Another assistant came over and I thought she was going to serve me but one of the two women said, "I'm next, we aren't together." Fair enough, I stepped back. Got to checkout and one of them was in front of me. Nearly at the till and the 2nd woman went to go in front of me, I said, "There's a queue." She said, "We are together." I said, "You weren't at the deli counter." They got quite nasty and were making signals to each other and I thought this is going to get nasty when we get out. My order went through and I said, loudly, to the cashier, "Sorry I don't seem to have my card, could I write a cheque and show you my police ID you will have my details if there is a problem." She said yes and I saw the one who had already gone through look at the 2nd one and shake her head. I thought yes, I was going to get roughed up outside but they don't want to mess with the police.

I hate queue jumpers.

You would actually abuse your status as a police officer over queue jumping?

I don't think the supermarkets accept cheques anyway so this sounds like bullshit.

Cornishclio · 09/06/2020 22:46

No family trips to supermarket so I am with Mary. They either get their baskets and go after Mary or wait in the car for Bob.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/06/2020 22:49

For clarity, this was the queue to get into Lidl, not the queue for the tills. I don't think I'd get that upset about being let into the store two people further behind tbh. They're altogether, I'd find them talking through me in the queue more annoying.
Different at the checkout as it obv adds a lot more time

Grandmi · 09/06/2020 22:50

Karen and Sue in the wrong. Agree with Mary

Habbyhadno · 09/06/2020 22:53

What is it with Lidl? Pre-lockdown I had a row with someone who left her basket on the floor near the end of the checkout, but was nowhere to be seen, it was in the way of me getting past the checkout with my buggy, so I moved it out of the way and queued up, then she thought I was out of order for stealing her place in the queue. I told her that SHE wasn't in the queue when I got there. Idiot.

Spacepocket · 09/06/2020 23:10

@Habbyhadno wouldn’t happen in Waitrose Wink

Habbyhadno · 09/06/2020 23:13

@Spacepocket it definitely would not Grin

TARSCOUT · 09/06/2020 23:14

You were in the right as they all had their own baskets or two and as such, obviously weren't from the same household.

Potnoodleforbrains · 09/06/2020 23:14

Rita sue and Bob, and fat fucking mavis 🤣

somm · 09/06/2020 23:21

'you have to wait longer if two people go in front of you even if they are together' - and,
'having to wait longer while two people went in front of me.'

This is the part I don't understand about 'one in, one out'. In my mind, if two people (or more) go into the store together, provided they're only doing one shop together (this is the crucial part), then the two or more people who go in will exit the store, and two or more will be allowed in.

Temporarily you might be held up by there being, say, two lots of shoppers queuing front of you with more than one person, but then the queue will quickly move on when those people come out of the store. I can understand people objecting to shoppers who've come into the store together and huddle in front of counters (very annoying), but if they're from the same household and came in separately, or at differing times, they won't offer a lesser risk.

DressingGownofDoom · 09/06/2020 23:25

I am actually mind blown at the amount of people who need a posse with them to go to the supermarket. Mary YANBU.

LEELULUMPKIN · 09/06/2020 23:29

But where was Rita?