MIL

[RachelGreen5]

Not AIBU but posting for traffic.
NC for this! So I think I’ve posted once before about MIL watching my kids and how uncomfortable I am with it, I stated my reasons and majority of you agreed you’d feel the same. Without going into it all again, one of my main reasons is that she’s never been the best mother to DP never made the right choices for him and never really put him first he was mainly raised by grandparents. Now despite this he really can’t see why I don’t trust her with my children. It’s becoming a bit of an issue, we argue about it a lot.
I’m wondering if anyone else has been in this position? How did you handle it?
I’m getting sick of giving in and letting her do things that I’m not comfortable with just to avoid an argument with DP.

I wouldn't trust your mil. At the end of the day, you are the mother and if your instincts tell you so go ahead with it. I have a mil who has diabetes, high blood pressure and also millions of hernia in her back and she tried to carry my DS on steep marble stairs in his car seat. My husband was drinking and when he drinks I never trust him to hold the baby so I do all the carrying. I turned around to say goodbye to everyone, next second I see my mil holding the car seat going down really steep marble stairs (outside stairs btw and it was wet that day) I ran down and grabbed the car seat off of her. Is she nuts? I would never take that sort of responsibility for someone else's baby and especially with a broken back, what if she falls? Some people don't think.

And now she decides to go on holiday next week (booked recently) to a COVID hotspot because she is bored, btw she has a outside pool and her and the fil are both in the vulnerable risk group being over 65 and with all these illnesses they have. Then my husband wonders why I don't trust them to ever look after the little one. They are so blunt and lack common sense.