To report neighbour for constantly screaming at kids?

[heartyhope]

A girl (early 20’s) moved in with a neighbour with her 3 kids who aren’t his. They now have their own baby together but everyday I hear him screaming military style at her kids. Never her always him.

I can understand that it must be hard having that many young children under one roof but I would never allow my DP to scream at our children in this way let alone a step parent.
He’s a vile man as I’ve had altercations with him myself.

Should I be reporting it?

Yes I absolutely would report this. And keep on reporting if ever you are concerned by what you see and hear.

We suspected a neighbour was neglecting her babies and it took 3 calls before they took it seriously (child was later taken into the care of a relative).

I would say yes, please report it. What you've described sounds like verbal abuse.

Report it.

I will report it tomorrow. Thank you for the helpful replies.

please report

@mummabear777

Some people have just taken this out of context now 🙄 This isn’t about her age it’s about what I’m hearing. I said she was young to give an idea of the situation because if she is allowing him to scream and shout at her kids SO yes she is clearly they type to be controlled because someone who can stand up for themselves could also stand up for their own children. If she was 50 I was still say she seems like the type to be controlled.

I don’t know why people are acting like age differences in abusive relationship doesn’t play a part in the power dynamic because they most certainly do!

Name change fail?

I think there's been a name change fail here op but anyway I would also report. The kids are more vulnerable if they are not attending school at the moment as most are not.

Poor kids. Definitely report.

Oh and I would advise the same if this man was the natural father. Abuse is abuse and he could be doing those kids serious mental damage.

Report,

OP,

I think your post is being extremely unhelpfully picked a part.

I honestly wouldn't be bothered my arse coming on here, asking for well meaning advice, from some posters who have little to do but look for offence, when clearly none was intended.

Living in the real world, as I do, I regularly describe my friends as girls.

I do not say I'm playing x sport with the women, I say girls.

I don't say I'm going out for dinner with the women, I say girls.

I have coffee with my girlfriends...horror of horrors and nobody has died.

In my extremely large circle, women describe women often as girls and none of us have died because of it.

The OP has described someone very young.
About early 20's...yes definitely a girl.

In my early 20's with an excellent professional career, I thought of myself as a young girl, I was super confident too.

With a big age gap between her and her mean shouty partner, and if she is a soft gentle soul, I can well imagine a "type" that could be bullied buy some Sargent Major prick.

OP, it sounds awful for that mother, who may now feel stuck, and those poor children.

Definitely call SS.

Tell them you do not wish to draw the nasty twat on you and do NOT wish to be identified.

Make it clear you are concerned for her.

You sound like a nice person OP👍

@billy1966 you simply wouldn't call a man in his 20's a "young boy", you might say young man but not a boy, we shouldn't be calling women young girls into their 20's.

@billy1966

I wholeheartedly agree!!

@raspberryk

She said a girl, not young girl. And what about all those men who talk about going on a lad's night out etc, or describe an old man as an 'old boy'. It just detracts from the real issue. I don't see why the OP should get roasted for seeking advice about whether or not to contact the authorities over potential child abuse.

@TiddlestheCat
Thank you.

Too old to be arguing semantics with pedantic's.

So tedious.

@heartyhope @mummabear777 how did it go reporting them? Did they visit?