To report neighbour for constantly screaming at kids?

[heartyhope]

A girl (early 20’s) moved in with a neighbour with her 3 kids who aren’t his. They now have their own baby together but everyday I hear him screaming military style at her kids. Never her always him.

I can understand that it must be hard having that many young children under one roof but I would never allow my DP to scream at our children in this way let alone a step parent.
He’s a vile man as I’ve had altercations with him myself.

Should I be reporting it?

That's just horrible. I'd report

Report your concerns. Not only are the children at risk if she’s recently had another baby and he’s abusive (sounds like it) she and her children are at even higher risk statistically.

I would report, it sounds way beyond everyday losing of your rag and into abusive bullying. Definitely phone SS.

You didn't saying you think she is being controlled, you said that she's "the type" to be controlled. If you think there is a "type" of people who are controlled then that's incorrect and is a prejudicial mindset.
Her being younger than him does not make her a "girl". She's no less of a woman whether her partner is 20 or 50. I'm much younger than my parents but I would find it disrespectful if they called me a "girl". It is disrespectful to call a woman a girl - and it makes zero sense to justify it by saying she's younger than her partner... it's completely illogical.

I would be reporting it. If the authorities decide there is nothing to be done, at least you know you have tried. Child protection is everyone’s responsibility and it sounds like these children are being emotionally abused from what you say.

Blanca87 but she is allowing it!

This is intersas there was a thread the other day, exactly the same except it was a woman shouting all the time. The OP was told to do one

Urgh. Yes, I would report. Those poor kids.

The thread the other day didn’t mention swearing did it just a raised voice?

I would personally. That would disturb me massively.

What type likes to be controlled?

@aquashiv You really don't want to ask that question on the internet... hahaha

That sounds horrible. Please do report. The problem is she probably won't want to leave him & it will continue.
Why do women have a baby with someone who isn't even nice to their older children?
Poor kids stuck with that day in day out. Do they even go out for walks or are they stuck home all day?

Some people have just taken this out of context now 🙄 This isn’t about her age it’s about what I’m hearing. I said she was young to give an idea of the situation because if she is allowing him to scream and shout at her kids SO yes she is clearly they type to be controlled because someone who can stand up for themselves could also stand up for their own children. If she was 50 I was still say she seems like the type to be controlled.

I don’t know why people are acting like age differences in abusive relationship doesn’t play a part in the power dynamic because they most certainly do!

This is intersas there was a thread the other day, exactly the same except it was a woman shouting all the time. The OP was told to do one

Yes its rather an odd thread tbh

Major drip feed

A mum barely met but whom is apparently a certain "type"

Military style to me would just mean particularly strict. Which given lock down "pick that up" " get off your sister" "leave the cat alone" wouldn't really be that unusual.

No mention of ages or what exactly is being said/done to start so could have been anything from a 12 year old who wouldn't stop kicking the dog ( where its understandable that harsh and immediate discipline would be needed) to a toddler just being a toddler.

Would have been helpful of ages and language was in the op it kind changes everything really.

Do you have a link to the other thread?

@SarahTancredi If you took the time to read the whole thread before replying you would see that I did mention ages and language used!

It's emotional abuse and should be reported. Perhaps record it if you can too so that you can share it with the relevant authorities and let them decide what to do about it.

There are definitely many young women out there who are vulnerable and allow themselves to be controlled by men. As a SW (now retired) I have come across loads. I would report this as it is possible the family/woman has history of moving between homes and men and not acting in the best interests of her children.

Imagine being aged 3 or 6 and moving in with someone new who screams and swears at you regularly, daily. And your mother does nothing.

I cannot believe anyone thinks this is just lockdown stress or normalised rudeness.

@heartyhope please, please report. And keep reporting. This is a horrible life for those children. They deserve so much better.

Also, I fail to understand why people are picking the OP apart on the thread for her use of language (esp when she has already admitted she could have worded it better). The issue is whether those children are being abused emotionally or not. The OP is expressing concern/seeking advice here.

Yes, report it, I think the age is relevant as it's the lack of assertiveness that is the issue. The dynamic sounds fucked up and frankly focusing on the bit of the post is distracting from the point which is whether the OP should do something about this- yes she should!

Military style to me would be complete arsehole but maybe I'm just not keen on grown men bullying 6 and 3 year olds!

OP - Please report to SS