To not cut my sons hair?

[Jeleste]

DS is 6 and he wants to grow his hair.
He usually gets quite sweaty on his head, so we compromised and i am allowed to cut his hair short on the sides and the back. He wants to keep it long on the top. His goal is to eventually have hair like Rapunzel

At the moment his long hair at the top reaches down to his chin. The problem is that its wavy and quite wild and its always hanging in his face. It doesnt seem to bother him at all, but it bothers everyone else, because it looks very untidy. Everyone keeps telling me to cut it already (DH, grandparents etc.)
The thing is, i think it really suits him, i just wish he would let me tie it back for school at least, so he doesnt look untidy. He looks really cute when its tied back and he lets me do it at home. It doesnt really bother me that he looks unkept at school when i dont have to look at him But DH thinks it doesnt reflect well on us to have him walk around looking like he's homeless.
DS let me tie it back for school once. He said most classmates were really excited about his new look, but his 2 best friends didnt like the attention he got and started telling him he looks like a girl, so now he refuses to tie it up again.

AIBU to let him get on with it, since it doesnt bother him and he really doesnt want it cut?

It's his hair, let him do what he wants with it.

My ds has always had long hair, we did get comments when he was younger but didnt take any notice. He caved into peer pressure when he started senior school and had it cut short. As soon as he got home he broke his heart and said he no longer felt like himself. He is now 15 and 6ft and has not had it cut since, his hair is to his waste and looks amazing. I would say leave your son to it if he is happy.

There may be a point in the future when he has to compromise his hairstyle because of secondary school uniform rules or future career choices so let him have wild/free hair when he's young enough to get away with it.

That should say 'waist'

As long as he's able to look after it in my hair 'rule'. If you want hair, you have to brush it and be able to put it up for school etc.

Have you given him a mullet?

No, not a mullet the opposite. Sides and back are shaved (well not completely shaved, but quite short) and the top is long. He can easily tie it into a man bun, which would be my preferred style, but he finds it too girly.
Im not too worried about secondary school or jobs yet, since hes still small and his preferred style can change.

I agree let him be who he wants :)

Poor lad, let him choose!

My little boy is nearly 5 and loves his long hair. He has wavy hair past just his shoulders and it suits him. Stupid people make stupid comments but he likes it and that's what matters.
As long as your sons happy then that's all that matters :)

Mine is 6 and has shoulder length hair. It's how he wants it.

Let him do what he wants. No teacher (and I speak as one) is going to judge your family because he has long hair even if it's slightly knotted.

Judgements about care tend to be based more on; do his clothes smell (bo/unwashed)? is he physically dirty (not daily diet but ingrained)? Are things like his fingernails cut?

Diet should say but

Bit of a nit risk having wild hair at school. Will he allow nit combing when that time comes?

@KaTetof19

There may be a point in the future when he has to compromise his hairstyle because of secondary school uniform rules or future career choices so let him have wild/free hair when he's young enough to get away with it.

If a secondary school rule said he had to cut his hair while girls, presumably, were allowed to keep theirs long I'd be challenging this very strongly. But similarly, I made my feelings known at my daughter's (primary) school when they requested that 'girls with long hair' tie it back.

Try persuading him to wear it plaited like a pirate. Find pirate pics...
Or let him catch you watching this film
MasterandCommander:TheFarSideoftheWorld

My ds has the same style and it's reaching his chin. He looks ace. I make have a short back and sides every few months

Hes 12

My brother had long hair (down to his shoulder blades) from the age of 6 until he was about 16. One boy made a comment about it at secondary school so DB flattened him on the rugby pitch (he's never been violent off the pitch), and nobody ever said anything again!

Its good to hear this, because i kept DH nobody would care about his hair. But when both sets of grandparents started commenting on it and a friend of mine too i thought maybe people do judge.
I do want him to be able to choose and he does wash and brush himself, although he would probably never brush it if i didnt remind him all the time.
Its just at a weird length now i think. Its not long enough to just hang down and with the waves and curls its just always awkwardly poking him in the face/eyes.
I try to brush it behind his ears sometimes, but as soon as he runs around its all over the place again.

Maybe if anyone could suggest a hair style thats not a man bun but would keep it in place? I have tried clips, but they dont really hold.

I think for school it being up shouldn’t be optional, I think anyone with hair long enough to be up should have it up in school. If nothing else to slow down the spread of nits.

Beyond that it’s his hair and his choice if he is able to look after it.

@2bazookas ive tried plaiting it. His comment "Why do you want me to look stupid?"

Its not a requirement to tie long hair up at our school. Not for girls or boys.

How about a topknot style? It's a compromise

Only point I would make is the inordinate amount of time kids with long hair spend faffing about with it - annoying in school when they should be paying attention - so would prob tie up for school, otherwise as long as it’s clean and brushed, no issue.