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iamtheoneandonlyyy · 03/06/2020 21:16

I'm not the one and onlyyyyy as my name suggests. I've had another name on here for a while. I would change it from time to time for advice then hide the thread and ignore it.
When I first joined Mumsnet I thought a lot of posters would ask relationship advice and get told there partners were abusive and to leave. For what I considered fairly common things. Then I started to take it in a bit more. And I started to tell my partner that actually no. I'm not going to accept being called names, being criticised, being told off, not allowed to do anything my way. Because it's abusive. And the more I stuck up for myself, the far worse it got. And over the last while...really bad.
It's taken a lot to arrange and I won't say much but this morning I took barely any of our things and removed my children and me to safety. And here I am. Got beautiful kids in the room with me fast asleep and I'm here stressed to the hilt but relieved.
Long way to go. But, if u hadn't been on here reading posts for so long I honestly don't think I would've realised properly what was going on before it got too bad.
So, Thankyou
Thanks

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iamtheoneandonlyyy · 03/06/2020 21:17

And I know it's not an aibu but it's the section I read the most so I got a lot of information from here

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Cheesypea · 03/06/2020 21:21

Thats amazing op and your amazing. Im so happy for you and your kids. This is a truely special place Flowers

AmericanAdventure · 03/06/2020 21:26

Well done. Flowers

Chandler12 · 03/06/2020 21:30

From one stranger on the internet to another - I am so fucking proud of you.

AJGranny · 03/06/2020 21:30

Wonderful news, well done. Stay safe and enjoy.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 03/06/2020 21:30

Oh op that's wonderful. I'm in bed reading this and I'm really welling up! Well done, you are very brave and better days are coming your way. ❤️

ProudMarys · 03/06/2020 21:30

Well done op you are so brave and not allowing your children to grown up to see their mum being abused. I hope you never look back. Flowers

Wishforsnow · 03/06/2020 21:30

Well done! You've done the right thing

Ginkypig · 03/06/2020 21:32

That's great iam

It's going to be hard but focus on an image ten years from now when this is officially your past and the kids aren't kids anymore and are content and happy.
You will be doing well whatever the hell you want because you are in charge of your life!

iamtheoneandonlyyy · 03/06/2020 21:32

Thanks 🥴I'm a bit wobbly and worried but it's moving forwards. Kids come first, always.
They may not thank me now or ever but I know what's ok and it really wasn't ok.

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JackiFazaki · 03/06/2020 21:34

Oh what a star you are!
Well done you, that's taken lots of courage. Be proud of yourself.
You are all safe and sound, and that is thanks to you.
Better days to come for you Flowers

bridgetreilly · 03/06/2020 21:34

That's amazing, OP. Well done for realising what was happening and doing the hard thing of getting out safely.

WooYa · 03/06/2020 21:36

You're amazing Star

MilleniumHallsWalledGarden · 03/06/2020 21:37

Well done, OP BrewThanks

LookingForward6 · 03/06/2020 21:40

You are so amazingly strong and brave. Well done Flowers

eyeoresancerre · 03/06/2020 21:43

I'm super proud of you - blooming well done. Get some rest tonight and tomorrow lots of snuggles with your children.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 03/06/2020 21:43

Well done. You have stood up and said no more. Your children will love you all the more for it. Sending strength and love...

MustGetOutofBed · 03/06/2020 21:44

Well done OP, delighted for you! I'm sure it took a lot of courage, you're very brave. Onwards and upwardsFlowers Flowers

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mon15 · 03/06/2020 21:55

Sending you virtual hugs op. You are amazing for being so brave. Your babies are so lucky to have you xx

Iwantacookie · 03/06/2020 21:56

Well done op enjoy your new life

Jezebel101 · 03/06/2020 21:59

Congratulations OP. I hope the rest of your life is relaxed, serene, and free from fear. You did a great thing for yourself and your kids.

CanofCant · 03/06/2020 22:02

Good for you OP Flowers

BlueSuffragette · 03/06/2020 22:02

Well done OP. Enjoy tomorrow as the first day of the rest of your life. Don't look back. Smile Flowers

PlanetMJ · 03/06/2020 22:06

You are braver and stronger than you know OP. I am so full of admiration for what you have done.

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