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AIBU?

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To be worried about my baby being too chilled?

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needanewusernameplz · 03/06/2020 19:44

Not wanting to jinx anything, but we have a two week old newborn who is literally what I believe to be an absolutely chilled baby.

She hardly cries, breastfeeds extremely well, healthy and well, no real wind issues, and she's just lovely.

But I'm so happy and content with her that I'm now absolutely terrified something bad will happen to take this all away. I had quite a number of miscarriages before she arrived so have done the hard slog to get to where we are, and now its lovely, and I'm so so scared something is lurking around the corner.

Is this a common fear? AIBU to be scared? Pic for cuteness

To be worried about my baby being too chilled?

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Icebreaker99 · 09/12/2021 08:38

Tricked me into a second pregnancy and now its like wtf have I done!

I was about to comment that I've heard them described as "sucker" babies, in that they are so chilled and easy that they convince you into having another. Glad you have been able to relax OP and best of luck for the new baby, I wish you another "sucker".

justmaybenot · 09/12/2021 09:13

Congratulations on your beautiful baby. I had one that was completely chilled out after one with horrific colic who didn't sleep through the night until they were 3 or 4. I was so worried that the second one seemed so relaxed and slept so much (up to 19 hours a day) I went to our GP about it! I ended up travelling a fair bit with chilled baby when on maternity leave as they slept absolutely anywhere and didn't mind changes in routine, new people or anything really. Same baby is now a highly active and happy pre-teen who still takes their sleep very very seriously and is an absolute ray of sunshine. Enjoy your first Christmas with her - I can understand your fear, especially after miscarriages but remember most new parents worry whether their babies are ok so maybe just feel lucky to have a chilled out one, and if you feel you haven't fully processed the losses you suffered maybe seek out some counselling.

Justcallmebebes · 09/12/2021 09:14

My first was just like this. Brilliant kid from day 1 but became possessed by God knows what at around 15 and then started the nightmare years. She's a mum of 3 now and back to how she was originally

3scape · 09/12/2021 09:15

She's adorable.

Blackmagicqueen · 09/12/2021 09:19

She is beautiful op, congratulations! Hate to put a downer on it but dc2 was like this and was so sleepy from birth for the first couple of weeks. He was literally an angel baby, weaned like a dream too and ate everything, slept through the night from 6 months! Then 18months happened and he changed over night, night wakings, tantrums, my sweet angel baby morphed into a defiant rambunctious little monkey over night! I'm sorry but the hard work may be to come so enjoy the early baby days!

Tomselleckhaskindeyes · 09/12/2021 09:22

i had a boy with colic who cried and then two very chilled twin girls. i swear the twin girls were so much easier than the boy! Go with the flow and enjoy it. You won't get this time back,

Stuckhere2021 · 09/12/2021 09:23

@Lockeduporknockedup

This sounds like mine. He was an absolute dream - slept through the night from the first month, never found a food he didn't like, breastmilk from the boob or expressed (from the fridge or warm), like baths and swimming, never cried etc. I only have the one at the moment but I've heard rumours that it means that baby number two will be pure evil.

I can confirm this to be the case! I used to say it’s mother nature’s way of keeping the human race going - give you an easy one first so you think “hey, this is great, let’s have another” then number 2 comes along and you want to build a time machine and go back to calmer days 🤣🤣🤣

Deadringer · 09/12/2021 09:26

I was terrified with my first, i thought everything was too perfect, she was so easy i suppose i felt i didn't deserve such happiness, i used to worry that she would get some awful serious illness. She is 30 now! By the time i had my second, (he was very easy too) those thoughts had long faded. Enjoy your lovely baby.

RocketPanda · 09/12/2021 09:36

I had two dream babies who were horrifying toddlers. Fine now as young adults and were fairly uneventful teens. I had one absolute nightmare baby who turned into a nightmare toddler and am happy to report the most chilled out teen ever. She's just so zen and a pleasure to be around.

Starcup · 09/12/2021 09:39

She’s gorgeous. Some babies are easier than others

Blackmagicqueen · 09/12/2021 09:54

'I had one absolute nightmare baby who turned into a nightmare toddler and am happy to report the most chilled out teen ever. She's just so zen and a pleasure to be around.'

Dc1 was nightmare baby with colic and silent refux then a challenging toddler who didn't eat well, didn't sleep though in own bed until 2.4! He is however now the most lovely well behaved child, a fantastic sleeper and eater (as good as a 4 year old can be anyway!) Hopefully will be a zen teen too! There is definately hope as they can change so much!

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