To be worried about my baby being too chilled?

[needanewusernameplz]

Not wanting to jinx anything, but we have a two week old newborn who is literally what I believe to be an absolutely chilled baby.

She hardly cries, breastfeeds extremely well, healthy and well, no real wind issues, and she's just lovely.

But I'm so happy and content with her that I'm now absolutely terrified something bad will happen to take this all away. I had quite a number of miscarriages before she arrived so have done the hard slog to get to where we are, and now its lovely, and I'm so so scared something is lurking around the corner.

Is this a common fear? AIBU to be scared? Pic for cuteness

She’s beautiful!!
Enjoy your calm & content baby.

My baby is like this. I’m convinced he’s going to ‘wake up’ somehow and become incredibly hard work because so far he’s just wonderful and placid. I’ve taken comfort from your post @needanewusernameplz

I had a difficult pregnancy and an extremely traumatic birth resulting in the most chilled baby I've ever met (and I've met a lot of babies!) She barely cries, she spends all her time smiling, laughing or cooing

Sorry posted too soon! She's 19 weeks and an absolute delight but I agree that I may overlook anything challenging as I'm so grateful to be here to bring her up! She's currently teething and aside from dribble everywhere and an obsession with biting my knuckle, you'd honestly never know

Both of mine were pretty chilled, I still to this day can't work out if they were any different from a normal newborn and I just ignored the tricky nights or occasional grouchy days?

They both bottle fed, slept well, tricky but fun toddlers and preteens and are now just such great funny DS, I was pretty strict with them both, really clear boundaries and that was hard work as most parents were so much softer on their children.

I do wonder if it maybe your attitude to your baby that's different?

My first was super chilled. He was a delight ❤️ . The newborn phase was super easy. He fed like clockwork and barely cried. I had plenty of time to watch Netflix and drink tea while he was sleeping. I remember that maternity leave was brilliant with him, cooked all his baby food from scratch, did all this baking and home cooking as he was such an easy baby then toddler!

My daughter....well, not quite so blissful! There was no time for baking or making her own baby food! She was a velcro baby that screamed for no good reason and hated being put down! Dinner times were stressful as she would be screaming to be held while I was in the kitchen trying to cook dinner for my son! Everyday! Sometimes I would be holding her and she would just scream at me! Nothing medically wrong with her! Took her to the doctor's several times! My maternity leave was not as blissful as I had hoped! But she's still perfect in her own way and love her none the less ❤️

@FairyDogMother11 same, I was sick for the entire pregnancy, and when she decided to arrive we had a 2.5 day labour with epidural and hormone drip, she came out needing help with breathing, had an infection from being in ruptured waters too long, spent 3 says in Neonatal Care and another 4 in the ward with me. Wasn't the birth we planned but maybe its adjusted to attitude to what difficult really means.

Glad to see you're well and your baby is great after all your struggles.

@Beldon the health visitors said your baby had learning difficulties? How do they know what when they're newborns? Seems a bit unfair to worry you like that. Was your baby gaining weight?

God I hope they don't start worrying me with this stuff.

My DD was very placid up until the age of 3.

Now at 4, she's very confident, articulate and sociable. It could be a good thing.

@needanewusernameplz how is ur baby?

Ds was like this! Enjoy it while it lasts, get sleep while you can. They may stay fairly chilled or at any point might develop into a real arsehole, so be prepared.

A second child also has a fairly high likelihood of being "high needs" 100% arsehole - the universe loves karma.

Many congrats on your beautiful baby.

My DS was such an adorable, placid baby, he’s 20 now and still is. DS2 was opposite in the extreme, nearly 19 now and still is, love them both to bits, but they are polar opposites in personality, but best friends too, they get on so well.

I wouldn’t worry at all if I was you, just enjoy your baby.

Congratulations

That’s because he is a thumb sucker. Enjoy your beautiful child and chill out. Don’t let anxiety set in.

We jokingly talk about dream babies and trauma babies in my house! My daughter was an absolute trauma baby - colic, reflux, wouldn't be put down, wouldn't feed, wouldn't sleep. It felt like she was never content and just cried for most of the day and night. We absolutely will not be having another one.

My friend on the other hand, had a dream baby like you! At 8 weeks old she was bored and telling me her house had never been so clean

They just come out with their own personalities I think. My trauma baby is now a very happy, clever, well behaved and cheerful nearly two year old. They grow and change, grow and change. Enjoy your beautiful baby.

My first born was a dream. Slept well, ate well rarely cried unless very obviously hungry/cold etc. A word of warning the second isn’t necessary the same. Enjoy it.

@BeanyBops

We jokingly talk about dream babies and trauma babies in my house! My daughter was an absolute trauma baby - colic, reflux, wouldn't be put down, wouldn't feed, wouldn't sleep. It felt like she was never content and just cried for most of the day and night. We absolutely will not be having another one.

My friend on the other hand, had a dream baby like you! At 8 weeks old she was bored and telling me her house had never been so clean

They just come out with their own personalities I think. My trauma baby is now a very happy, clever, well behaved and cheerful nearly two year old. They grow and change, grow and change. Enjoy your beautiful baby.

I can empathise if my DS2 had been born first, I never would have had another, a 3rd DC was totally out of the question! I don’t think we would have survived without my absolutely fantastic (late) MIL, who helped us so much. She was an angel and had such a strong bond with DS2. MIL had vast experience of babies & young children, she said she had never met one like DS2! DS1 lulled me into a false sense of security, he was an absolute dream baby, so contented. What a shock DS2 was!!

Roselily I am told that this is what happens - people tend to stop with the trauma baby! I always thought I would have more, but turns out that one is enough for us. Your MIL sounds like a superstar, what a wonderful lady.

Beautiful!!

Both of mine were very chilled, happy babies. Just enjoy it!

Beautiful baby, congratulations. Mine was like that. I remember getting worried, because he literally only woke up when he needed feeding and changing, then went back to sleep. I swear he slept 20 hours a day for the first few weeks. He is a teenager now, and still pretty easy. I am still terrified that at some point its going to become hard work.

DS was a lovely, easy chilled out baby, and now he's a feral toddler .

Ridiculously cute baby!
Congratulations! And I hope your good fortune holds with regards to her being chilled

Some babies are just happy little things. My first was not a happy newborn but as a 3/4 month old basically didn’t really cry. I remember googling and freaking myself out about all sorts of issues but at that age she was just very chilled out. A few months later she was basically desperate to move and my peace was shattered so enjoy it while it lasts!

Our little one was like this for a few weeks, she was so easy we were bored!

Got to be honest all hell broke loose soon after But they are all so very different!

[quote amankaura]@needanewusernameplz how is ur baby?[/quote]
Lol, yep, she changed. 18 months and tantrums beyond belief. For the record I did chill out and enjoy. Tricked me into a second pregnancy and now its like wtf have I done! 😅