do you give yourself the best looking food?

[greeeen1223]

I do all the cooking (i love it), my husband cleans up after (a mammoth task because I use everything in the kitchen).

When im dishing up I tend to take the best looking bits e.g. crispiest roast potatoes, best looking veg etc.

My husband would never notice to busy shovelling it in haha.

Do you do the same?

It depends
For instance we like different levels of bacon crispness DP and dd like it to be just shown the oven any crispness is not acceptable 🤣
I am the other extreme, I like it snappable, and really crispy.

So I give them 2 whats best for them and I keep the actual best bits.

We each give each other the best bits!

I usually give DH bigger spuds because I prefer smaller ones but they aren't necessarily better looking. I do sometimes snaffle a bit of extra crackling if I'm doing roast pork however. Cooks privilege and I'd tell him so if he noticed!

I give it to whoever pissed me off least that day. Unless it is a pie of some kind. I can only eat unsmushed pie. The others can fuck right off.

I dish out the best bits to my DH or guests. Personally for me cooking is a way I show love, it makes me happier to see DH/family enjoy it.

No I do the opposite - always give others the best. Gives me pleasure

Yep I certainly do haha.

In most cases no, but I am particularly enamoured with roasties and do give myself the pick of the bunch where they are concerned!

Always children first/ best for me. Otherwise it varies I would take the cracked egg for example but I take the leanest meat unless there is a child present. Dh always gives me the best of everything so I try to be fair. He is a dear, lovely mam.

Damn right I get the best bits, usually shared with DC.

DH is not a foody, and is really a food for fuel type person. Cooking for him has been soul destroying at times with no appreciation of effort, flavours or time taken. This is much better now the DC eat well, it motivates me to carry on.

DH just appreciates big meals, fish fingers, chips and peas etc. And he doesn't do the washing up.

Those who appreciate the good bits, get the good bits!

We share out or give the other one the best bits. Sometimes we prefer different bits, he prefers his bacon crisper than I do while I prefer roast potatoes crispier, so then we serve that way. If one lasagne serving looks slopplier than the other I take it, because I'm not bothered. Usually guests got the most attractive food, back when we had guests...

Yes because I ive cooked it so chefs perks.

No I always give myself the worst! I thought everyone did that??
Give DD the best looking as she is the fussiest. DS and DH in the middle.
And if I've not made enough then I get the small portion.

Not that there would be anything actually wrong with the food really. Just about how it looks.

No I would never think to always give myself the worst bit. I’m not subservient to everyone else!

Of course

However my children don't often eat the same food as me. I'm one of those pathetic mothers, despised on MN, who cooks separate meals for each child so it's not often an issue.

I usually share out all the best looking food among the plates. But if there is an uneven amount/ some left over - then I'll eat it in the kitchen. I call it "chefs bonus" and I dont feel guilty about it as I did all the cooking!

@Daisydoesnt

No I always give them to others - I’m no saint, but cooking is how I show love to my family.

In fact I very clearly remember the moment I noticed I now give all the juiciest steaks, best roast potatoes Etc to my step son (and not my DH) and realising that I must love him! He is an absolutely darling boy to be fair

That’s a lovely story

Lol this tickled me

Me and DH often have different preferences, but I still feel a bit weird taking all the stuff that looks “best” to me!

E.g:
Air fryer chips - I like the fat soft golden ones, he prefers the thinner crispier corner bits. I still feel cheeky dishing my face type up on my plate

Oh I should say;

Feeding me well is one of DH’s Love languages

If he overcooked a joint he’d try to give me the bits he perceives as the “best” and I’ll then swap them as I don’t care about overcooked meat as much as he would.

If I was cooking fried eggs and split a yolk I’d hope he took that one and if he was cooking fried eggs and split a yolk he’d always take that one himself 🤣

DP has an ED bubbling under the surface at all times, so I always make sure if I cook that his plate looks the most Insta-friendly, as the chances are that he'll leave most of it if it doesn't look pretty. He doesn't expect or demand it, I do it out of wanting him to be happy to eat.

Mine always has more looks good, though, and if there are a lot of potatoes, for example, I will make sure that I get some of the best, especially the larger ones, as I don't want to give him all the nicest, only to see them left on the plate after being pushed around until they are cold.

Yes, to be honest there isn't that much difference in most of our food apart from the 'crispiness' ( or burnt bits ) but yes, I would give myself the 'nicer' bits. My DH and DS have huge appetites and go for quantity so I am happy to select the 'nicer' bits for myself as I eat a lot less. I am sure DH does the same when he cooks.

Can't stand the martyrish attitude of giving yourself the worse bits. It looks that you don't value yourself .

I’m the opposite. I always give my husband the one that looks better when I cook (I think he does the same for me when he cooks). It’s just a little weird way to show affection for me, but I also think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with keeping the best bits for yourself if you’ve done all the work of cooking it!

Changes daily.

I give the best looking food to whoever deserves it that day! I have always done this as I am dishing up - a quick mental tot up of everyone day/behaviour and they are secretly rewarded or punished without be aware. Sometimes I win the best looking plate not often.

Just asked my husband as he does all the cooking. Apparently he always gives me the best bits
I’ve pointed out that I would have no idea if I’ve got the good bits so to stop wasting them on me

Yes I absolutely take what imo are the best roast potatoes. Dc couldn't care less about roast potatoes anyway. As taste in general is personal, me taking the best bits doesn't mean others have rubbish bits anyway, they might think the bits they have are best . DD lives the fat on meat where as I do not so I'll give her the fattier steak for example