Neighbours children?

[worried23xxx]

The past couple of weeks the neighbours children about 6 girls have been playing out outside our house screaming loudly all day going up and down on their bikes. They have no road safety and are weaving in out in front of cars. They are loud all day until about 8 o clock at night and you can hear them shouting even if the windows are closed.

AIBU to mention something to their parents?

Might I add, I'd have no problem with a parent who called to my door or stopped me in the street if all I said was you need to more care. One neighbour did & said thank you....

SionnachGlic the problem is that people dont see the danger until it is very real and directly affects them.

Our neighbour happily left their front door open so their three year old would run in and out into the road. I explained about our DD's accident a couple of times. Each time she would look at me like this: and keep the front door shut but it would last less than a day then the front door would be left open again.

@GnomeDePlume

Hi...well then she should speak with the parents. But I am not understanding all the handwringing over it...say it to the kids if it happens under your nose, if they keep it up then say it to the parents if it is a safety issue. The noise, let them at it if it is just play. Or if v v bad, go out a shush them. They are what, 6 yr olds ?

A pandemic is no excuse for parents to absolve themselves of parental responsibility and let their children annoy the hell out of others. Everyone is entitled to peace in their own home.

This. There are a few people in this site who seem to think that their children are the centre of the universe and should be allowed to run riot all day without any thought for the rest of the community.

The standard response on here is usually that if you don't want to hear children then move to someone remote. However the response should be that if you want your children to act like wild animals then they should move somewhere remote. God help some of these parents as those children grow into teenagers.

@SionnachGlic isnt this the place for checking stuff out before talking with the parents? I wouldnt call it handwringing.

Ask yourself honestly OP... Which bugs you more? The screamy, shouty kids, disturbing your peaceful evening? Or the fact they MAY get run over because there's a blind bend? In all honesty, I imagine it's the disturbance to you that annoys you more than the potential danger to the children. You've just hooked onto the "dangerous behaviour" because complaining about THAT aspect, would achieve your main aim of getting the kids indoors and shut up.

Kids play out, kids are sometimes noisy. Don't tell me that you, or none of your friends, ever played out and were sometimes noisy.

OP I sympathise completely, where I am a neighbours children and sometimes other children from other houses, all primary school age, are outside every time it's nice. Goes on all day from morning until 9 or 10pm, occasionally up until 11pm. Constant shouting and screaming, playing in the road on bikes or scooters, kicking and bouncing balls at other houses and front doors, playing with water and spraying parked cars, and trying to spray moving cars by running after them all with water and spraying, knocking on doors and running away. The list goes on. Parents are well aware and don't seem to care too much. And no it's not just because of lockdown it's been the same since they moved in. Every time it's nice out.
Fair enough children need to play and must be bored especially at the moment, but I'm 100% against this playing out. I hate it. I'd never ever let my child play in the street, just as I was never ever allowed to myself. Play out back ot go to a park where it's safe.

Or go to a park

@GnomeDePlume

Hi...maybe you are right, maybe OP needs much positive reinforcement before being sble to make a decision about saying/doing something/nothing.

To me, it is not a huge issue as to whether to say something or not. I wouldn't be observing & thinking about it for a couple of weeks. It is quite clearcut (to me)..if there is a risk to life & limb, then say something & the sooner the better....to the kids next time you see it happen or to parents if their kids pay no heed & risky behaviour continues.

As for noise... shush them if it is too much but let them play...

@SionnachGlic I cant speak for OP but my concern for my neighbours DC playing in the road was that I didnt want to be responsible for knocking one of her DCs. I saw how distraught our neighbour was when she ran into my DD.

If it were me, I would be fed up with the constant noise outside my house and I would magic up a 'near miss' involving a fast car and report back to parents. Then I'd sit back and see if anything changes. I wouldn't mention the noise at all but I'd go BIG on the safety of the little darlings.

@GnomedePlume

Hi...I'm with you there totally. It would be devastating to injure a child, even if no fault of your own. Your poor neighbour. Terrible that it happened but lucky it wasn't so much worse. I rem when I was young, a child a few roads away for a dare did a scutch jump (?) ...hopping & then standing at back of delivery truck/van.. the way you sometimes see bin men do it. I didn't witness any of it nor did I know the child other than who he was...but my Dad told me he slipped off & was killed instantly. That vandriver (local man) didn't know he was there but was devastated, my Dad mentioned many times over the years that the poor man could not get over it. Not to mention the friends who saw it all.

If safety becomes an issue, then intervene. No questions.