Neighbours children?

[worried23xxx]

The past couple of weeks the neighbours children about 6 girls have been playing out outside our house screaming loudly all day going up and down on their bikes. They have no road safety and are weaving in out in front of cars. They are loud all day until about 8 o clock at night and you can hear them shouting even if the windows are closed.

AIBU to mention something to their parents?

Sorry @worried23xxx I though you said 8pm? Not late at night?

I find it hard to believe this "faux" it's not that I'm a nosy neighbour, it's for the sake of the children and all you parents, I presume 2/3 sets of families need to be told. You've no idea of the dangers.

How is it nosy? I've explained that its both disruptive and dangerous. 8pm is late for children of that age it doesn't take a genius to work that one out... @understandmenow

@worried23xxx you DON'T know how old they are!!

And is 8pm late for children on lockdown, who may or may not be 6/7?

I don't know, I've never parented a child in such strange circumstances but I'd give leeway to anyone who is currently trying.

YANBU. Far too many lazy parents around who can't be bothered parenting their children and think everyone else should have to put up with them. Definitely speak to their parents.

@understandmenow They look too young to be out at that time without parental supervision I don't need their birthdays to verify that. I'm not saying their britain's worst parents I'm saying what they're doing isn't right even in this current climate and they need to keep an eye on their children.

@Footywife Thankyou.

YANBU. Far too many lazy parents around who can't be bothered parenting their children and think everyone else should have to put up with them. Definitely speak to their parents.

@Footywife whilst home schooling and trying to WFH, has the pandemic escaped you?

@understandmenow Are you pissed? Or are you one of those lazy parents I speak about?

@understandmenow They are clearly not home schooling if the girls are in the street all day on their bikes and not being checked on. And it is children from different families mixing so it appears the pandemic has escaped them.

I sympathise OP. My NDN have two young kids who seem to only operate at one volume - which is full-on screaming. The fine weather means a lot of time spent outside, and sadly their parents (although nice people) seem to have become so accustomed to the unholy noise that they just tune it out.

They are great kids (when not screaming). I am gritting my teeth and putting up with it, but am glad the next few days are due to be cool and damp!

I know what you mean OP, it's the same around here. I don't mind kids having fun, but when they've been screaming and being a nuisance hours on end, for weeks, it starts to grate on you.
One of them was even sat in the actual road on w duvet the other day
If the parents seem approachable then it might be worth speaking to them.

@Tappering It's hard isn't it because they're only kids but yes you're right its difficult to tune out! Lets hope so.

@Footywife are you unable to read the full thread?

It tells you many are grown up? To lazy to read? Or are you like OP and and unable to understand the current issues?

@understandmenow You can't understand that 24/7 isn't always meant literally so not sure you can educate me on 'the current issues'.

@understandmenow Oh dear. Put....the...gin....down.

A pandemic is no excuse for parents to absolve themselves of parental responsibility and let their children annoy the hell out of others. Everyone is entitled to peace in their own home.

I think there's two ways to handle it.

1 is to write a nicely toned note saying, I don't know if you realise but from the angle of my house (or whatever excuse) I have seen a couple of bear misses with your children and cars on the blind corner. And then almost add as a footnote, oh and I'd really appreciate it if they could keep the noise down by X, because xyz excuse.

2 You tell the children themselves to keep the noise down. If you say it nicely but firmly then at 6 or 7 thru should take heed from an adult unless they are little brats, in which case you're unlikely to havd much luck with the parents unfortunately.

they have been doing it for weeks and as a responsible adult I am concerned they are putting themselves in danger

How incredibly fortunate that despite this highly dangerous conduct for such a long period of time, nothing untoward has happened to them.

Still, you probably should raise it as an issue, that way the noise would stop, which is what the actual problem is.

@mintymabel Is it a crazy idea that they aren't mutually exclusive and I can be both concerned by the noise and their wellbeing....

@understandmenow As I've said I'm not saying they're bad parents or I'm better I'm just pointing out that it's not right. I presume this is your parenting style and that's why you're so irate.

Understandmenow is clearly just being goady and trying to get a rise out of posters by being deliberately argumentative/ obtuse - as people often say here, don’t feed the trolls!

OP, in theory of course it would be reasonable to report dangerous behaviour to your neighbours and explain that their children are being a bit noisy, but honestly, if parents are happily to let their children play out on a dangerous road unsupervised all day and mix with other families in the midst of a pandemic they don’t sound like the best parents and I doubt anything you say will come across to them as helpful - it’s likely to just make them think you’re judging them and criticising their decisions as parents. Even if what they’re doing is risky and inconsiderate they could surely see this for themselves but have chosen to ignore it, especially considering this is happening with children from several households, meaning several sets of parents have seen what their kids are doing and decided it’s okay. Your lone voice is unlikely to be enough to stand up against their group decision as they will likely all be validating each other’s view that it’s fine. So in practice it’s unlikely anything you will say will change the situation, it’ll simply create tension between you and several sets of neighbours, so regardless of whether YABU or not I personally wouldn’t urge you to mention it.

@Footywife maybe you should try some gin it might make that broom stick stuck up your arse break free?

@understandmenow Your rambling posts sound like the ramblings of a drunk.

And resorting to foul language. Classy.

Are you my next door neighbour by any chance?

@billysmybunny Yeah you're right that's why I'm in two minds because I only want to raise it if it would actually have an impact and don't want to cause tension.

understandmenow you seem a little hyped up tbh. I honestly am the first to say people are being ridiculous to complain about children and their noise. But if the children look young enough to pass for 6/7 and are outside at 8pm screaming and at risking an accident yeh I see no issue asking them to pipe down.