Buying alcohol for adult children

[Santana100]

When it was Christmas I asked the adult 'kids' in our house what alcohol they wanted and bought it with the groceries. They've asked for the odd box now and then since then on the shopping list but since the lockdown I'm buying two boxes of alcohol a week. I 'm not really fussed as they pay me board each week and don't eat sweets or snacks like their siblings, but dh says they should pay for alcohol themselves.
Do other families treat alcohol as part of the weekly shopping?

My adult child bought her own/gave me the money when she was still living at home. Apart from anything else, it's far more expensive than most items on the normal shopping list.

I buy our "usual" drinks, wine, gin, vodka, and my 20yo is welcome to it, but if she wants something different she has to get it herself. She rarely ever has a drink so it's not much of an issue anyway.

I add a few beers into the shop for ds and share wine with him if I'm drinking it.

Ds 20 likes things like bud or corona in bottles which I never bought him before lockdown but since, I pick one up if they're on offer but equally he does the same and we just help ourselves.
He doesn't drink much at all so it lasts a while! Def drinks more than before lockdown though, when he's back to his hobbies and work I doubt we'll buy them anymore

I would expect them to be paying for it, yes. At Christmas, maybe not, but certainly if it's a regular thing.

They drink about a can a day each at the moment.

I only buy the 'drink in the garden' everyday wine, if they want something expensive like a special wine or spirits they will buy it themselves
They are welcome to help themselves

Yes I include it in the weekly shop. I’d certainly not ask my daughter to pay for it. Just like the food in the fridge. Shes part of my family and she can help herself.

At Christmas, maybe not

Is that due to lack of finances? I can’t imagine another reason you’d consider refusing to buy your kids a drink on Xmas.

When I was living at home I'd buy my own alcohol except for Christmas, special occasions and to go with Sunday dinner.

Bluntness - I read that comment to mean adult dc buy their own drinks except at Christmas.

If they're paying board and you would include snacks if they did eat them then it seems strange not to include alcohol if it's all the same to you...

My DS doesn’t drink but DD and I will share a bottle of wine on a Friday night. I do drink at other times (to the point I need to cut down!) and DD herself would admit that she would overindulge if it was “on tap” so for that reason I wouldn’t buy them alcohol generally. Although they don’t pay me board and buy their own food so really it should come out of their money if they want it.

Perhaps buy some for every one to enjoy, if they want something different or want more they buy it themselves.

I’d be buying wine etc for Sunday lunch etc, but if my ADULT child started asking for bottles of spiced rum to be added to the shopping, I’d be encouraging them to buy their own.

If we are having beer or wine with a meal then it's free. But if they want a bottle of spirits they have to pay for it.

I wouldn't be buying them it maybe the odd time if your all having a drink together or Christmas then yes but not a regular thing even if they give you house keeping money that's for food an bills roof over there head you wouldn't expect to pay the moblie bills or car finance so why pay for alcohol

I buy my 19 and 21 years old approximately 4 bottles of cider each a week. If they want more they buy it themselves.

We tend to get alcohol that ds and dd will drink when we do the weekly shop, sometimes they’ll buy extra themselves. Both are home from uni and not working so don’t pay board. Ds is still paying rent on his uni house share at the mo.

Drink is included to a degree. When that's gone, they buy. Luckily my son isn't a drinker, so he's cheap

I buy my own if they go shopping and I can’t go then I repay them what I owe. When I go to the pub my dad buys the first drink but it grates me as it’s my luxury

They add what they want ,including alcohol,to the shopping list and I pay for it all

TBF I bought their (shared) car and their mobiles

We don’t drink loads as a rule I’m 28 (just moved out) my sister is 20 still at home, my mum would generally get something she thought we might like if it was on offer, she gets my sister a box of ciders once month(ish), but then I’ll buy a bottle of special gin or sparkling wine, any alcohol in the house is for anyone. Saying that I did buy mostly my own food, definitely my own snacks, would generally have a meal cooked for me 3/4 times a month & I would normally treat 1 take away a week. It’s give and take tbh like if me and my mum go out for the day I might buy the coffee she might buy lunch and vice versa!

My parents buy some alcohol for my adult siblings, like cheaper wines, a couple of beers etc but if they want spirits or anything fancy they have to pay for it. Dad's rule is if it's more than he'd spend on his own beer he's not buying it unless it's a special occasion.

I just add some beer and wine to my shopping. If they want something specific they buy it themselves.

When the adult step kids visit we just offer it like we do everything else. It seems petty to ask them to pay, I just add it to the groceries. That said they do usually bring a nice bottle or two of wine when they come.