To not know what a narsassist is?!

[CBaskin826]

I am in need of some help with my marriage that's desperately down the drain.
I've been told a few times before my husband may be a narsassist - but I think I'm so unsure and lack so much confidence I just don't know if I'm right or not.
Here's some examples of what he does - he will turn everything wrong around on me.
If I bring any issues up to him, he will make sure to twist it round so I'm the one who ends up in the wrong.
He doesn't help me much with parenting or any household tasks, even though I've asked him so many times.
He doesn't see when I'm burning out or ever offer to take over or support me.
If I ask him a question, no matter how small, he will snap and tell me I'm trying to control him by knowing everything about him..
He moans about literally everything and everybody, nobody seems good enough in his books..
He's not romantic/affectionate but will have a go at me when I'm not affectionate to him.
He sits in his pc or his mobile all day long, if I'm talking I have to ask him to actually look at me and not his screen..
That's just a few things. I'm really unhappy and just think understanding what's going on with him may help me, just a little.

Thanks for taking time to read.

Thank you all for your support I know I've said it a few times but I do appreciate you taking your time to advise me.

Things are tough, I'm definitely almost at rock bottom.

OP, I just came out of a 3 year relationship with a narcissist. I read the book ‘Why does he do that’ by Lundy Bancroft before I ever knew what a narcissist was and a lightbulb went off. Since then I’ve read everything I can and had CBT therapy. It took me a year to leave him properly, it was so hard as I loved him (or at least the man I thought I met early days). He was a text book narcissist like your DH sounds as if he is. There is nothing you can do. I tried modifying my behaviour, accepting his NPD, being nice to him despite his abuse. It only got worse. It was all my fault in his eyes and I had to say sorry for his despicable behaviours. Once I realised that he was incapable of change even if he wanted to, that he would destroy my and my DC’s lives I left. I had to do it gradually by becoming more and more distant, more independent and by learning not to care anymore. He is no doubt in another ‘relationship’ now but it won’t last I can guarantee you. These people are incapable of a partnership, they will rinse out your very soul if you let them.
You are almost finished your degree. Start an escape plan. You will be entitled to government benefits if you leave. He will have to pay you maintenance. You will get a settlement of sorts from him. So now you need to go to see a solicitor (first consultation is free). Start making a list of what needs to happen. Start thinking that you can have a wonderful, happy and abuse free life without him. Look at the plan long term but with a goal of being independent from him. It will give you more and more hope.
These people are incapable of change. It’s not a life being with them.