To want to but my baby a jumperoo?

[farmertom]

I have a 4 month old. We got his older brother a jumperoo when he was a similar age and he liked it, it also gave me time to do a few things.
I know my baby would love the jumperoo even more than his sister as he enjoys just hanging out and playing with toys.
Unfortunately we gave away our first jumperoo as hadn’t planned on more kids.
I bought the first one new for over £100.

I said today to my husband ‘it’s about time to get baby a jumperoo I think he’s enjoy it’ and husband said he’s fine he doesn’t need one he has a door bouncer. The door bouncer is a pain to get baby in and out of and I don’t like to put him in there for long.

Anyway he basically said no and I’m not buying one you get it if you want it. I pointed out I’d bought the previous one. He’s now in a mood for some reason. I could afford it at a stretch but I’m on mat leave. He could afford it without a problem.

Sorry longer than I meant it to be

TLDR; I bought a jumperoo for first child (no longer have it) I want one for my second and DH said no and got in a mood.

I'm getting more annoyed the more I think about it.
He said he doesn't "need" one and that they are too expensive and annoying.

I bought mine second hand, is that not an option?

Oh but they are amazing, if you can afford it, I don’t see why you can’t buy one, they also resell very well on eBay.

Buy a second hand one, I bet loads of people are flogging them after their covid clear outs. We got one for a tenner.

Why not get a second hand one? Just disinfect / wash before use?

Get one secondhand, they’re all over the place and are only used for a few months!

Your husband sounds like a bit of a twat though. Are child related expenses not shared? What’s with all the “I bought this, you buy that”?

They are annoying and take up too much space, but I’d still get one. A neighbour of ours gave one away a fortnight ago. My mum bought one second hand and then sold it on later. They’re not bad to clean. I wouldn’t spend £100 on one.

So you’re on mat leave and your husband won’t contribute financially to something which would be great for your baby. Is he usually this selfish? How are finances split otherwise? He sounds like one of those charmers who thinks anything to do with the children ought to come out of the mother’s salary, rather than being split fairly.

Sell the door bouncer.

Get a second hand jumperoo off Facebook for £20-£30.
Tell your DH to sod off.

£20 on second hand selling sites..

We picked one up a few weeks ago for 10 quid from facebook market place. Surely that's what most people do as they only use them fpr- such a short amount of time?

Got ours last year for £20, second hand from FB marketplace but excellent condition..

Yep we got a second hand one for £30, they don't seem to hold their value well. We've stored ours on case we have another kid though. Our DS loved it!

Full price sounds extortionate for something with a short use time. Why not buy second hand and clean it?

I don't get the 'i bought this, you bought that' approach to child expenses, but I'd be wary of DH wanted to do a big purchase on something expensive that wouldn't be used long and gets in the way.

Only suckers buy new! Got mine for £20 I think from a nearly new sale. I know 2nd hand is tricky at the moment but most of it is washable or wipe clean and bound to be people selling them.

I bought one for £20 then sold it for £20

His attitude is ridiculous, though so is buying one new if it would be a stretch. Most people but then second hand and then sell them on in a few months for about the same price.

Don't you share finances?

I agree with the majority, definitely buy one second hand. They're used for such a short amount of time, and the retail price is ridiculous.

How do you share finances? You're married with children, you're not working at the moment, so this means he has money and can afford things, and you can't`?

The jumperoo is an easier problem to solve (facebook marketplace) than the financial inequality in your marriage. What else is he tight and controlling about?

Jumperoo is way better than a door bouncer. We used ours so much. Pretty sure is supposed to be from age 6 months though so that their neck is strong enough not to ache from bouncing.

I don’t understand why there isn’t a joint budget for child related expenses or why he has more money than you. Hopefully we have misunderstood.

You can get a second hand jumperoo for about £40 on ebay/gumtree usually.

They are annoying and yes expensive if bought brand new. But they are so handy!!!
Just buy a second hand one and then you can sell it on after they usually hold their value.
I bought mine for £35 4 years ago and it's been used by 2 of my children and 2 of my friends children. I sold it on Friday for £25, probably could of got £30 but wanted it out the way.
It's only for a short period that they need it and the benefits in that time outweigh the annoyance in my opinion.

If you don't have equal say over money, you've got bigger issues than a toy.