Is this the sign of a narcissistic mother?

[ThisNarcLark]

1. Getting drunk when you have a primary school child even if you know said child doesn't like you drinking.

2.When said child is an adult, hating the e.g. daughter's partner and trying to make daughter feel guilty,

1. After daughter has been in relationship with partner for a while - saying to daughter "I'll emigrate - if daughter announces were to announce a pregnancy even though daughter is 25 and lives independently.
2. When daughter lived at home as a young adult, making daughter cry over constant pressure because she hates daughters boyfriend and then in response to her daughter's tears says "I may as well go. I'm just upsetting everybody.

5.Mum, her husband (daughter's dad) and (now adult) daughter live in city. While they live in the same house - mum suddenly announces "I want to go back to the rural area (60 miles away) I come from. I want to be on my own," this is said not within any discernible context

1. Kicks cat - family pet across kitchen floor
2. Hits 4 yr old daughter across face repeatedly.
3. Finds flimsy excuse to throw 17yr old daughter out of house in clothes she's stood up in (with nowhere to go) to 'teach her a lesson'
4. Mum openly says she wanted daughter to be an only child as she didn't want any jealousy between siblings.

These events were not in chronological order, just to clarify.

For the cat treatment alone I’d buy one of those books on narcissist mothers and beat her to death with it.

To me it reads like you have failed to leave up to her expectations- a levels and then university away. And that she doesn’t like your boyfriend.
She sounds blunt and tactless. But as someone who has worked with young people who have been in care, I wouldn’t say it was anywhere near on that level.

The cat thing isn’t good- what age were you when you witnessed that??

How many threads like this have we seen? A mature adult trawls through every aspect of their childhood and can not recall a single positive aspect.

OP, a diagnosis of narcissism is very complex and requires months of analysis by a trained psychiatrist. I know nothing about your mother and neither does anyone else. I don't know whether she was the monster that you have painted or someone who just muddled through, trying to do mostly right but sometimes doing wrong. But what I do know is that you're an adult who is in charge of her own future. Move on.

Sorry- missed the hitting child across face. That isn’t on.

@Disquieted1
Do you perchance have grown up children who are not falling over backwards to congratulate you on your parenting skills ?

@Disquieted1
Or are you in fact OP’s mother ?

@samtsirch

Neither of the above. But what I am is mature enough to know that I'm in control of my life. Any baggage has been discarded years ago.

@Disquited1
That’s good to hear but be respectful that not everyone is where you have managed to get to, it doesn’t make them immature or deserving of scorn just because they’ve not yet discarded their baggage or are not yet « in control « of their life. 😊

How and when people process abuse/trauma has little to do with maturity @Disquieted1. Clearly the OP is still processing, so what's the point in being so dismissive?