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To be so happy that we can now meet up to 6 people in our garden.

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1981m · 28/05/2020 18:17

I am so excited at the increased relaxation of the rules. I did a little dance in the kitchen and was straight on the phone inviting my sister and her family and my friends (on separate occasions) around for a bbq. At last!

I just hope people don't take the mick and force us to go backwards. Although I bet people do.

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oblada · 28/05/2020 20:20

To the large families - I don't think you need to count your family in that way but I think we need to see further guidance. We're a family of 5 too so such restrictions would mean we could only meet 1 person which is bonkers. Lets see what further guidance brings.
As for the kids and social distancing - I don't think anyone expect stringent social distancing from kids, it's quite clear that it's not expected in schools or nurseries so it's about common sense here too.

FuzzyPuffling · 28/05/2020 20:21

We need to not get carried away though and also be mindful of those still shielding. This bit's going to be really tough for them, as everyone else is starting to get back to normality and they're still trapped inside.

Thank you. It's lovely (and pretty rare) to see someone remembering us. Every loosening of the lockdown for the majority makes us feel even worse. Yes, it is partly for our own health, but also so we don't bung up the NHS. Imagine, if all 1.5m of the shielders went out and got ill and wanted an ICU bed at the same time!

Paperfeet · 28/05/2020 20:21

I am actually crying with joy as I can now see my DD this week, she's 25.

I'm wondering if she could sleep in a tent in the back garden?

BarbedBloom · 28/05/2020 20:22

We are still in lockdown and me and my mum are still shielding. Not sure if Wales will follow England anyway.

But I am also not in a rush to see anyone to be honest. There is one friend I miss but we go to the cinema and can't see us doing that for a long time.

Considering it is the same 6 people you are supposed to see (I think) I can see it causing issues for some people with large families or friends who may want to see their family

Boulshired · 28/05/2020 20:23

I just have this horrid feeling that where I am it’s going to be a few weeks of more freedom then it’s going to be lockdown again. The figure are really low at the moment, but I am really not sure people are good at visualising 2 metres, so when the virus does come it’s going to spread.

bigchris · 28/05/2020 20:24

will have the potty out for the kids. We have a side door that leads to our utility room and in and out into the garden. I will allow people in there only and make them wash hands and thoroughly clean afterwards with bleach and probably say it can't be used for 72 hours

I'd sooner not bother Grin

Mine all live 3 hours away so we're still waiting

Drivingdownthe101 · 28/05/2020 20:24

It doesn’t have to be the same six people BarbedBloom

Porcupineinwaiting · 28/05/2020 20:25

Cant get to our garden except through our house so for now will be visiting parents at home.

PlanetMJ · 28/05/2020 20:25

The wait until monday, which officially coincides with back to school for a fair few kids seems really strange.
We are going to my parents tomorrow as husband has to work from home sat and sun. We have been very careful with distancing and both work from home. DD is back at school on Monday and it seems obvious that our household will then be much more at risk of getting the virus and passing it to my elderly parents than we currently are so waiting until the official date makes no sense to me.
I can imagine this is the same situation for many families with children in R, Y1 and Y6. Better to see family this weekend than wait.

AgentCooper · 28/05/2020 20:26

I’m delighted for folk to whom this will make a difference. I mean that kindly and sincerely.

But my DS still can’t see anyone because he’s 2.5 and isn’t going to be staying 2m from them unless strapped into a buggy. Which means I am not seeing anyone either.

DontStandSoCloseToMe · 28/05/2020 20:26

It's my birthday at the weekend and I am.so happy I can see my parents! My only slight reservation is how do I make an 18 month old social distance and will it just upset him?

CherieBabySpliffUp · 28/05/2020 20:29

Those planning BBQ's did you all hear what one of the scientists at the briefing said about touching plates etc??

awishes · 28/05/2020 20:30

I live in what I assumed was a cul de sac of sensible intelligent people, unfortunately they have been doing this since a couple if weeks in to lockdown I dread what this relaxation will bring.

OneForMeToo · 28/05/2020 20:37

I'm just glad it's not mandatory as I have no desire to meet anyone!

Kinda liked covid as a good reason not to see anyone. I can’t see my parents anyway as my brother lives there and his job requires living on site X days home for Y days and if he so much as goes to a shop he cannot go back to work for two week and has to self isolate. He works with very very ill People Who pay a heavy fee for private live in careers.

CoodleMoodle · 28/05/2020 20:37

I'm so happy for everyone who can do this! And, admittedly, a little jealous as well. It's not going to work out for us as my DC are only little and won't understand that they can't go near DM and give her a hug. I could go to her one evening and sit in the garden, but she lives an hour away and I wouldn't be able to stay for long. Same with PIL, and my best friend. They're the only people we really want to see, so the new rules won't make much difference to us.

But I'm so pleased for everyone who can!

jomaIone · 28/05/2020 20:41

I am being relaxed with my 2yr old hugging her grandparents. If she were at nursery, there would be a lot more social mixing going on so hugs from young grandparents who are working from home anyway and very low risk is a no brainer for me. The benefits to her socially very much outweigh the risks to us all medically. The adults will stay 2m apart though.

Wondergirl100 · 28/05/2020 20:42

@EyeDrops I don't understand - I've seen a few people say they are sad because under 5s can't socially distance - but surely this is better than not seeing your parents / them only seeing the kids online?

The risk increases over time - so just going near someone very quickly is lower risk than sitting closely indoors talking face to face. It's not a problem if small children go near someoone - you just make sure they don't slobber all over them.

Why would you not see them now you can? Genuninely don't get why people are sad about this - I have a 3 yr old nephew and he sort of gets that you can't touch people....

It doesn't have to be completely rigid that the little ones never go near granny - you just need to generally stay apart as much as you can,

Abbccc · 28/05/2020 20:43

@modgepodge

Nope, any 6 people, any time you like. Can’t wait!!
No, not any time you like. They did say that you should leave a period of time between seeing different people. You are not meant to see different people every day.
Wondergirl100 · 28/05/2020 20:43

For those with very little ones - can't you say -granny has a sore arm? Or something ? Just point and say ouch don't' touch or similiar. By about 3 I think you can say it's a bug that makes us sick so we aren't touching...

CocoR · 28/05/2020 20:44

@Porcupineinwaiting You're allowed to walk through a house to access the garden.

Abbccc · 28/05/2020 20:45

@Paperfeet

I am actually crying with joy as I can now see my DD this week, she's 25.

I'm wondering if she could sleep in a tent in the back garden?

They said no to that.
Drivingdownthe101 · 28/05/2020 20:45

I agree Wondergirl100. My 6 and 4 year olds understand that they can’t get too close. My 16 month old obviously doesn’t but if he gets too close the odd time... 🤷🏻‍♀️. I won’t be expecting my mum to feed him or change his nappy or anything like that, so unless they’re licking each other I can’t really see any harm.

ShirleyPhallus · 28/05/2020 20:46

I’m so glad about this, but let’s face it, the government has fucked themselves and so many people are ignoring the advice anyway

CocoR · 28/05/2020 20:49

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To be so happy that we can now meet up to 6 people in our garden.
thaegumathteth · 28/05/2020 21:00

I don't know about this - I'm kind of nervous that so many people are so excited because I hope they realise it won't be like normal. If it is then that's surely a sign you're not doing it right?

Re BBQ etc in Scotland we were told not to share food, utensils etc so if you attend a bbq you've to take your own and everything you need. Chris Whitt's cut in on Boris today to point out the dangers of bBQs

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