AIBU and a grumpy pregnant woman

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Or is everyone else around me being an annoying fucker.

Pregnant with first baby, I'm due a week today.

Every day for the past 2 weeks my partner and in laws kept asking if I'm getting any twinges, then acting really pissed off when I say no.

I get there excited but I'm not even at my due date yet.

I've been doing hypnobirthing to ease my anxieties around childbirth and she stayed herself that I shouldn't rely on baby coming on or before due date as it can cause stress. Partner knows this because I've mentioned it, dp has no interest in actually doing the hypnobirthing with me as suggested.

I'm sick of it, I'm sick of the telephone calls and the questions. Why can't I just be allowed to enjoy the last week or 2 of pregnancy.

Now dp is sulking because I've told him to stop banging on.

Maybe I am grumpy but it's all day every day, telling me to do this, do that to encourage labour. SIL ringing to ask if I've gone for a walk and if not, why, dp passing me raspberry fucking leaf tea throughout the day.

I want to scream

*they're excited

*stated herself

Grr

They are just excited and are probably trying to help. But I found it annoying. But by 8 months pregnant I found everything annoying!

If there's a next time, just say you're due in whatever month, don't specify a date! They shouldn't be encouraging you to try bringing on labour, it'll start when it starts, it's been 39 weeks, they can wait a couple more. I'd be annoyed too, tell them all to leave you alone.

Tell them about the other pregnancy symptoms they don't wish to hear- diarrhoea, maybe baby's on way! Piles and heartburn, maybe baby's on way!

Or just say I'll tell you when there's a baby here, thanks for your concern. Repeat ad nauseum and they'll get bored of hearing it.

And you're not being grumpy, in fact you are perfectly reasonable in your feeling and DP should get that!!

SIL just asked again if there is any sign, said no. Her reply was " FML he is gonna be overdue" and now suggesting I ask for a sweep at midwife appt next week.

Voiced my frustration at dp who thinks I'm being unreasonable and in laws are just excited

I hated it when I was pregnant. I refused to answer calls or texts as they were too often. People will find out when you have the baby. They don't need to know every twinge etc.
My second was a planned section which did make it easier.

Just reminded me I must have been in early labour at my mils. She had been driving me mad for weeks asking if any signs yet. Only when I got home I thought something felt different! Was in hospital a couple of hours after leaving her house without any of us realising I was having twinges!

Your DP needs to understand that you are allowed to be pissed off at this stage and that the very least he could do to support you right now is to stop the thing that’s pissing you off!

I’d just not respond at all to the in laws. Block their numbers for now if you have to. You need headspace to try to remain as calm as relaxed as possible and they are either with you or against you on that. If they keep pestering you then they are against you.

Tell DP their feelings are not your top priority right now.

*I’m demented at 32 weeks and irrationally very pissed off on your behalf OP!

A watched pot never boils! (though obviously you are going to go into labour at some point ). Tell them that the more stressed out you are, the less likely it is that things will start happening, so you won't be answering any more questions about it. DP can sulk all he wants. He's not the one giving birth!

Say you’re not sure if you just had your bloody show and ask to send a photo for their opinion?

But of course YANBU- I was ready to scream at 10 days over!

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YANBU! This used to drive me up the wall. What's the rush? I quite enjoyed the end of my pregnancy but everyone else seemed desperate for it to end. It's similar now with 'is he walking' 'is he talking' etc, PIL especially don't seem to be able to enjoy the here and now without wanting to rush to the next stage

Maybe you're being insufferable and they want it to stop 😂

Seriously though I've had a difficult family and my main family is my chosen family of people in the same boat. It is so much better to have people who care and are excited about the new baby than have people who don't care. How many times do you see on here alone "no one cares about your baby but you".

I thought it was now against advice to drink raspberry leaf tea?

Try being 2 weeks overdue and people ringing and saying' oh you're still there then?' Er yes I've just answered the phone to you!
And that was 32 years ago, must be even more annoying now there's mobile phones and social media!
At least I could go out without a phone constantly pinging

YANBU
Have your DH answer all calls/messages from now on. You need some peace and quiet.

"We'll let you know when baby arrives" and repeat. I had a planned section and didn't tell anyone other than my mum who was driving us to the hospital when it was so nobody could keep on at me. It also gave us as long as we wanted just the 3 of us. So no YANBU those people are hounding a woman who is 39 weeks pregnant!

When we told people we were expecting we made a point of saying that we're not telling anyone the due date because we don't want to be hassled pointed look at annoying SIL all they know is I'm due some time in July and that birth makes me anxious so don't bring it up.

At this point, if I were you, I'd just reply that you'll tell them when the baby is born and to leave you alone. They can be excited without being annoying. If they keep asking, block them on everything you can and leave your partner to deal with them.

I went 11 days over with both mine. Could have choked everyone. I ended up venting to ny mum who did a quick ring round and stopped everyone else bombarding me with messages

Oh OP I’ve just clocked your username- Rosie would tell them to eff right off!!

YANBU - hold it together OP! One more week to go (maybe

You have every right to be pissed off.

A little bit of it could be that you're anxious (perfectly natural) so be kind to yourself, and tell DH that you need it from him and his family too.

Also just ignore them. They'll then phone DH to find out what's going on and piss him off. Then he can deal with it.

From one grumpy pregnant woman to another, YADNBU!!

I keep getting people saying "how are you?" Then when I say something normal e.g. bored, fed up of lockdown, looking forward to the weekend etc etc they keep going with "yes but how are you" etc. What they mean is "give me details of your pregnancy symptoms". I refuse to engage but stay polite i.e. "I'm fine, how are you? How's the kids" etc and then they get annoyed at me!

This is why I'm going to tell everyone my exact due dare. What they don't know is that due to medical reasons I'll be induced at least two weeks before. So I'll be in lanour when they don't expect it yet.

Next time at a few weeks to your due date.

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