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Aquiliga · 2020-05-27T12:28:09+00:00

We have just accepted an offer on our jointly owned property. I have single handedly dealt with all the meetings with the Estate Agent and the follow up paperwork. AIBU to be incandescent that when we received a letter from the Estate Agent this morning addressed only to my DH? It's not like they even know him (other than when he briefly called into the office for them to take a copy of his passport).

FantaIsFine · 27/05/2020 21:36

Sorry, should have said, never married

TreeTopTim · 27/05/2020 22:51

I would be tempted to pull out or maybe just threaten to pull out unless they sort themselves out.

Luckily I have never had this because I would go mad. You would hear me shouting in space.

LMc2020 · 27/05/2020 23:14

Wow... just wow!

I’m sorry but if all the worry and anger I had in the world is the fact a letter came addressed to my husband and not me the world would be mighty fine!

Have you ever considered that the Estate Agent is working from home, trying to juggle work, housework, and childcare due to the current pandemic? Heaven forbid they’ve made an ERROR! They’ve apologised what more do you want?!

For those who have said cancel your contract, be grateful that your Estate Agent is up and running, dealing with pretentious customers. Majority in my area are closed, or running on Skelton staff due to many being furloughed. Now is not the time to be berating someone... a gentle “Hi this property is in both names can you please ensure future correspondence has both names” would have been sufficient.

In case you didn’t gather my opinion is YABU

ItsNotAGameOfSubbuteoMatthew · 27/05/2020 23:28

I've just had a look at the conveyancing letter I was sent and it says to Mr and Mrs D L Matthewson (e.g. name). Our joint email is Daniel and Emily Matthewson so I have no idea how they know his middle initial! And the letter is addressed to Daniel and Emily despite me signing off the emails and making all the phone calls. That is pretty shit. And the conveyancer is a woman!

TARSCOUT · 27/05/2020 23:33

Wow... just wow!

I’m sorry but if all the worry and anger I had in the world is the fact a letter came addressed to my husband and not me the world would be mighty fine!

Have you ever considered that the Estate Agent is working from home, trying to juggle work, housework, and childcare due to the current pandemic? Heaven forbid they’ve made an ERROR! They’ve apologised what more do you want?!

For those who have said cancel your contract, be grateful that your Estate Agent is up and running, dealing with pretentious customers. Majority in my area are closed, or running on Skelton staff due to many being furloughed. Now is not the time to be berating someone... a gentle “Hi this property is in both names can you please ensure future correspondence has both names” would have been sufficient.

In case you didn’t gather my opinion is YABU
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User7764217 · 27/05/2020 23:37

Had the opposite problem. All correspondence addressed to me and no mention of my husband. I think it must just auto fill!

ScreamingBeans · 27/05/2020 23:43

Have you ever considered that the Estate Agent is working from home, trying to juggle work, housework, and childcare due to the current pandemic? Heaven forbid they’ve made an ERROR! They’ve apologised what more do you want?!

It's an error born of sexism. I work from home and juggle all the stuff but I haven't become racist or sexist as a result, why should an estate agent?

cariaaad · 28/05/2020 00:32

I recently got new windows. I own my home, bought it before I met DP, he moved in with me. I sorted out the quote, arranged the installation, was present when they fitted windows and paid the company. DP might have popped home briefly when they were there fitting them.
Got completion letter addressed to Mr and Mrs Cariaaad (we are not married) then guarantee letter addressed to Mr Cariaaad only 😖. Mr Cariaaad doesn't even exist
Makes my blood boil!!

LivingThatLockdownLife · 28/05/2020 02:18

Had this with both house moves in last 5y. For the second move I accessed DH email and sent everything from there. Boy oh boy did that speed the process up.

Still the mortgage statement arrives addressed solely to Mr LTLL. It's a joint mortgage since we earn equal salaries!

Why is the property market still stuck in the 1970s? It's ridiculous.

TwoShades1 · 28/05/2020 06:01

I get a bit of a reverse with hotel bookings. I always make the booking and put it in my name “X Shades”. When we arrive we are usually greeted as Mr and Mrs Shades except we aren’t married so DP has a completely different surname to me. Always makes me smile.

TreeTopTim · 28/05/2020 08:51

@LMc2020 this thread shows that it isn't a lockdown problem like you are suggesting.

It is everyday sexism and has been quietly going on for years and needs to be pointed out and stopped.

Washyourhands48 · 28/05/2020 09:04

Aw, you know what? There’s bigger things to worry about. YABU.

FlamingoAndJohn · 28/05/2020 10:39

@Washyourhands48

Aw, you know what? There’s bigger things to worry about. YABU.

Well yes there are but does that mean that we have to let every day sexism stand because of it? It might only be a small detail but it is a part of a much bigger picture of how women are viewed.

MinnieMountain · 28/05/2020 11:13

There will always be bigger things to worry about @Washyourhands48. It doesn't mean we should ignore the smaller things.

Personally I think that sexism is a very big thing to be concerned about.

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Aquiliga · 28/05/2020 11:51

MinnieMountain: There will always be bigger things to worry about @Washyourhands48. It doesn't mean we should ignore the smaller things.Personally I think that sexism is a very big thing to be concerned about

Here, here!

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Malin52 · 28/05/2020 12:04

Not estate agent related but a long time ago in the age of planes..

My job takes me around the world. I am gold status with Emirates. I have flown very long distances with them innumerable times. Despite paying with my credit card, me being the lead passenger and my supposed lofty status with the airline, the minute I paid for my partner (not DH, so we don't even share surnames) to fly with me the confirmation came in his name! He's never even flown with them before! The reminder to check in sent to MY email address was in his name. When I paid for an upgrade to business class the email was addressed to him! When we settled into our seats he was welcomed first and I wasn't addressed as MsMalin but MsDHname!

Fumming hun!

NinjaPig · 28/05/2020 13:05

I had this when buying my last car - the money was ALL mine, left to me when my Mum died & I knew what I wanted etc.paying cash for the whole sale.

I went in to one dealershop & he started talking to my husband, who pointed out it will be my car, so he should talk to me (which he mostly did) and when it came to discussing the money, he started trying to talk with my Husband again! He pointed out again that it was my car, but the salesman laughed and sad "but I bet he's paying, right?"

I got up, called the kids (who were drooling over an Audi) and said "right - we're off - I'll go to Chelmsford instead" and walked off.

The salesman called my husband back, who pointed out AGAIN, that it was my cash and my car, he was only there to supervise the kids whilst I took the test drive & signed the paperwork.

Went to the Chelmsford Dealership who got it straight away, spoke to and discussed everything with me, called me for any clarification and gave me a huge bunch of flowers when my car came in - guess where I'll go for my next car!!

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Aquiliga · 28/05/2020 13:42

NinjaPig

Excellent work!

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