To feel anxious about being 34 and delaying TTC?

[undecidedforever2020]

I’m 34 in July. I’m in a relationship of nearly 3 years, we live together (albeit unofficially because of lockdown) and looking for somewhere suitable in our area big enough for the two of us. We both want children and on a daily basis I’m feeling anxious more and more about how old I’m going to be when we are finally ready to TTC. Ideally I’d want to be living together officially, preferably with a mortgage not renting (we are saving for deposit) and be married - I’d be happy with a small cheap wedding. I don’t know if I’m focussing more on this because of everything going on at the moment I don’t have my usual distractions of life but I can hear this biological clock loud and clear. I know women have babies in their late 30s and 40s but I don’t see myself being one of them. I feel like the last year especially last few months have flown by and I don’t have time to waste. How can I calm myself down?!

[peperethecat]

In your situation I would have a discussion with your partner about the timescale and budget for a simple registry office wedding and check you're both on the same page. If you are, aim to do it sooner rather than later (say, within a year?) and then TTC as soon as you're married, or a month or two before if you want to.

Come off hormonal contraception now if you're on it and start tracking your cycles because if you have a problem with ovulation then tracking your cycles can make you aware of it sooner rather than later.

And just keep saving and looking out for a property.