Feel on a bit of a downer, been single for a couple of years now split with father of kids. He's still with the other woman, married. I've had a few dates and a couple of short relationships but they seem to fizzle out when things start to get more serious (neither had met the kids) I think the thought of integrating into a 5 person household scared them - this has been the reason both times, it's too much to take on but surely they knew this from the start as I was honest about having four kids before we even met (online dating) I am wondering if the more they get to know me they realise that the kids dad isn't very responsible and so it mainly falls on me and they are worried to take this on. I am not asking for someone to financially hold us or be their dad, I guess I have questioned to myself though how things would work if for example another adult moved in. I am so used to doing things myself. I guess it's got me questioning really what I am looking for? I feel like am I destined to be alone forever? (And being alone doesn't scare me - I have great family and friends support and see them all regularly) but it would be nice to live with someone and have that closeness again. Should I just wait till they are older? They are 11 and under.