Wibu to travel to parents for childcare while I am unwell?

[SickDad]

My wife and I have both started to get a nasty cough which may be the corona virus, and are concerned we might not be able to cope with our young child if we both get really sick. My instinct is to go up and stay with the parents. It's a bit of a long drive but much nicer than being stuck in London and the plan would be that if it turns out we are not that bad I would be able to have a nice holiday and work on my blog while the boss is out of the office as he is also off sick (and being a bit of a drama queen over it tbh).

I know it's strictly against the "rules" but having done my own risk assessment there is very little risk to me so I think it would be ok? I have never really liked the lockdown anyway as I think we should have been more like Sweden and let the virus run its course culling the weak creating herd immunity for the sake of the economy. Anyway I am sure nobody would notice and I will get clean away with it.

Go for it!!

The North-East didn't have its fair share of the virus back in March.

I think you are really caring and sharing to bring it up north.

Daily Mail, Sun, Independent, Telegraph etc we do not want you picking up on this thread ever, at all.

Once you are better and back home, why not take a few day trips back up there? I'm sure that would perk you up.

You'd be following the instincts of any responsible father.

Anyone who demurs should take a long hard look in the mirror.

HannahStern Sun 24-May-20 23:28:44
The North-East didn't have its fair share of the virus back in March.

I think you are really caring and sharing to bring it up north.
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What has given you the idea that the op and her family have Covid-19 or that they do not have the common sense to fully sanitise themselves and their car before they start the journey?

Sorry, I thought this was another thread: similar subject but very different circumstances so ignore my last post (if you haven't already).

You have an actual child? A real one? Well yes, obviously you are in a pretty unique situation. Get thee hence to your family estate! God forbid your child might watch commie/establishment CBeebies or stream Peppa Pig whilst eating toast.

This has always been allowed (apparently) and within the guidelines so you're fine to travel while sick to vulnerable parents.

Nothing wrong with herd immunity spreading anyway. (According to someone)

If you get questioned just remind people your child has autism and won't cope with strangers. Obviously a family member could come to you or you could wait and see if you need help before pre-emoting it.

Boris says YANBU so crack on

The bluebells are lovely at this time of year.

Great idea, the corona figures are were so high in London that spreading infected people about the country will even things up nicely. It’s practically your patriotic duty.

OP, loving your work! This is the thread that just keeps giving!

Are you far richer than most of us OP?
If so... Drive like the wind..
And if your child had autism.. Nobody else has a child like you... Off you go.

Also remember, it will be fine as it’s not like you’re visiting a lover. 😬

You haven’t been back to update OP. Are you ok? I hope your silence means your diseased family members have all piled into the car and have headed off up north. Remember, it’s a long journey so if you feel sleepy take frequent breaks along the way to buy strong coffee and some energy giving snacks. You probably aren’t all that infectious but try not to cough on anyone if you can possibly help it.

Go for it. But be sure to tell everyone else to stay home. We all have a part to play. Except you.

Go for it. But be sure to tell everyone else to stay home

Good point. Less likely to end up in a traffic jam en route.

Thanks everyone and sorry for that dripfeed about my ds being autistic. I totally forgot to mention that in my OP but that was actually one of the main reasons I couldn't find the right kind of childcare in London.

I know a few people may disagree with the trip but honestly I am very well liked in general, and by my colleagues so I am sure everyone will see my side of it.

Definitely go, I hope you’re packing your terminally mid-90s ‘I dress just like I did at university’ wardrobe as we speak!

Ahh, don't you worry if a few people disagree what do they know?
So many people like playing the martyr now...staying at home when they are ill, not seeing family for 7 weeks, coping with children alone, not even visiting their family in hospital... I mean really, imagine having to live like that, I wonder who on earth wrote those stupid rules!?!

Also well done for reinforcing the idea that parents of children with autism have played a part in their child having it by somehow thinking they're special. We could definitely do with more people thinking we just need to put rules and boundaries in place and the 'autism' will be gone.

I hope you’ve got your speech ready and have got your best Beanie out.

I hear the bluebells are lovely at the moment. Also, there’s nothing, of course, in your code of ethics about behaving with integrity. It’s just fine to put your family’s interests above the law if that’s what works for you. Let me pat you on the back for your fine sense of duty. It’s only lesser mortals who actually, you know, get punished for that kind of thing.