Wibu to travel to parents for childcare while I am unwell?

[SickDad]

My wife and I have both started to get a nasty cough which may be the corona virus, and are concerned we might not be able to cope with our young child if we both get really sick. My instinct is to go up and stay with the parents. It's a bit of a long drive but much nicer than being stuck in London and the plan would be that if it turns out we are not that bad I would be able to have a nice holiday and work on my blog while the boss is out of the office as he is also off sick (and being a bit of a drama queen over it tbh).

I know it's strictly against the "rules" but having done my own risk assessment there is very little risk to me so I think it would be ok? I have never really liked the lockdown anyway as I think we should have been more like Sweden and let the virus run its course culling the weak creating herd immunity for the sake of the economy. Anyway I am sure nobody would notice and I will get clean away with it.

You need to think of yourself OP. I mean, what if your wife gets more sick than you and you're forced to pick up the slack parenting your own child with no woman around to help?!

Just avid bluebells and nosy locals and you should get away with it. Were you really that bothered about your elderly parents health anyway? Surely childcare comes first

Thanks I think my Boss will agree it's the responsible thing to do. He's a great guy and it makes me feel almost guilty that I gave him that drink I had coughed over the other day. Still that's probably just a coincidence and luckily no one saw.

Of course the rules don’t apply to special people like you! The rules are just for the plebs. Special people can’t spread covid19!

It’s absolutely fine. Like everyone else on Mumsnet who’ve asked the question. They’ve been told it’s fine so I don’t see why it would be different for you?

Make sure you have you red-hot blackmail portfolio with you, just in case any concerned citizens nosey proles hey wind so you can make sure your colleagues have your back or else

*get not hey

I read this with tears welling in my eyes. I wish more men were great fathers like you, putting themselves their children first and making hellishly long journeys to safeguard their family. You're doing nothing wrong and and I suspect your boss won't mind either. If he makes a fuss just gently remind him you know where the bodies are buried and he'll soon be rallying everyone around to support you.

Best of British chummy!

OP just make sure you get a new beanie so none of your parents' neighbours or anyone who could remember you in their villiage recognise you, and you will be fine.

It's a long drive but don't worry you can break it up with trips to the service station, just remember to sing Happy Birthday while you wash your hands!

I mean Prince Charles buggered off to his holiday home taking the virus with him, it's good to take our lead from those above us.

Well it sounds like you are just being a good parent so go for it. Like you say you can just turn it into a jolly if your not actually that bad, see the family and all that.

OP how many children does your boss have? As he knows he can then tell you how to be a great father.

Well those do sound like exceptional circumstances.

Just make sure you cough into your sleeve when you are in the motorway service station.

The “rules” are only for people without common sense anyway so I’m sure you’ll be fine.

@Gingerkittykat Prince Charles wouldn't use a mere service station - too risky.

You may have read several previous posts on MN where posters are absolutely against this for anyone else. And probably most of the general public, because , you know, the whole Stay At Home thing.

Ignore them!

You're instincts are more important than anyone /anything else. Oh, and free childcare for you you poor thing. Sounds exhausting. Take a rest while you're up there.

Boris says all parents will agree it's ok. So again, ignore MN and any other sane person. Boris and his circle think it's ok. That's really all that matters. And your instinct of course.

Take a change of t shirt with you. That red one needs a wash.

Rules don’t apply
To rich educated with toddlers. Go ahead

Will no one think of the neighbours.

Nice one sickdad

If you can get your wife to write an article talking about locking down at home once she’s better, that should throw people off the scent for a bit.

Just make sure the locals where you’re going aren’t staying too alert.

Don’t forget that if there happens to be a birthday whilst your up there, you can have a nice day out if you’re feeling better. You sound like a parent who follows their instincts, well done.

Of course you should go! If you have the virus there is also the added bonus of being able to take a couple of day trips once there to infect as many others as possible. It’s all about a herd immunity, this brilliant mind that works for the government told me all about it......

You are such a good parent and believing you had 'no alternative' but to travel so far when knowing you are both as parents going 'to be incapacitated by coronavirus' - you are only acting 'responsibly, legally and with integrity'

Wish the rest of us had have known that

Still you have a good/lame boss who would let you away with it.

Go for it

I really tried to see the funny part but you’re a bit too late for the party, is been milked enough and is extremely boring now

Seems fine to me 🤷🏼‍♀️ Maybe stop at a motorway services (are they open?) on the way as you’re not feeling well - you’ll need the break