Drank a beer

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So I drank one of my husbands beer and he called me cunt for drinking it.
We're in a rural setting but about a 15/20 minute walk to the nearest shop if i/he wanted more alcohol. Would you really call your oh this over a beer or just say fuck it and walk the shop ( when unable to drive and just get extra?) no children btw

Nope, never. But it's not a word I ever use anyway.

I'm pretty sure if you look at your relationship he's probably abusive to you in other ways as well.

This is not reasonable behaviour OP.

Was it the last one? DH just ate the last McVitties Gold bar biscuit and I’m venomous

I’ve seen this posted in reverse from outraged women complain their husbands have drank their wine or eaten their chocolates. The man in normally called for everything.

Horrible thing to call someone you're supposed to love.
If my dh had a limited number of beers that he especially bought and was looking forward to he might be annoyed if I drank one, he wouldn't call me names though.

@Laaalaaaa I'd say it either way. Calling someone something nasty for eating/drinking the last of anything is uncalled for - I don't care what it is or who it is.

It's hardly crime of the century, is it?

He should just get another. His language is worrying, does he do this often?

Honestly, it depends. I guess if you're posting about it here then you don't have the kind of relationship where you might jokingly call the other person a cheeky cunt or something like that, so if it was said to hurt or in anger then obviously it's not reasonable.

That's quite... dysfunctional

Sorry, I'm quite easy going but that is unacceptable. There will be loads of posters in here in a bit asking about his alcohol depenedency and telling you to LTB. However, that was unacceptable over something so trivial and does need an adult conversation between the two of you about his comments.

I wouldn't call a partner a cunt, but I'd be pissed off if they drank a beer I was planning to have myself, particularly now when I'm limiting trips to shops.

He sounds horrible

Agree, if DH called me that it would be in jest and I wouldn't be offended I am from glasgow after all. If he said it in anger then it's not ok. On the flip side if I took the last of his beer then he wouldn't be best pleased. If he took the last of something of mine I wouldn't be happy.

He's obviously in the wrong but there must be more to this. I assume this is a one-off outburst or you wouldn't be asking about it. Check if he's ok? I don't like beer but there are certainly times when I've been absolutely gagging for a piece of cheesecake (or whatever) only to discover the cunt I married has scoffed it (I love him with all my heart). I'd think he's probably feeling pretty guilty and ashamed of calling you that but also that he might've stepped over into that stubborn place where he won't admit it was wrong...

Even if it was the only one and he'd been looking forward to it, cunt is OTT.

Is there more to this ?
It sounds a bizarre ( and unacceptable) over reaction.

Depends, my close friend and colleague is a born and bred eastender and uses cunt as a term of endearment, to others it's the most heinous thing you could say. Context is important.

Do you frequently take his share of things? Did you buy equal amounts of treats and you've had yours then taken his too?
It's never appropriate to call someone a cunt, but were you fair to take his beer?

How many beers or alcohol did you / he have left in the house? Did you know he was looking forward to drinking it? Is the beer seen as 'his' and he thought you should be drinking your own gin / wine?

Far more info needed before anyone can give helpful suggestions.

Nah. I'd chin the cunt

I'd be pretty miffed if my husband drank my last beer without asking to be fair. But I'd never dream of using that word and I certainly know my husband wouldn't either. However, I know a woman who uses this word all the time (even in jest when talking with friends) so I suppose it depends on your every day relationship.

Why should he just get another? Who drunk it should get another!
I wouldn't probably call you a cunt if I were him, but i would certainly think that, if you drunk last one and then pointed out I can just walk half an hour to get new one tbh...

Or! Even if it wasn't a last one but when we were in a shop and you did "nah, I don't want any" so I would by number for me... Just for you to dip into my stash later... Yeah. C word would appear somewhere. I hate when people do it with food, hate it with drinks too

I would never call someone a cunt full stop. But actually I dont call people names (outside of a jokey "you dipstick" when someone does something silly).

Well, I suppose I'm unusual on MN in that it's not a word I'd use to, or even about anyone, let alone my husband.
Having said that, I wouldn't have drunk a beer if it was the last one without at least asking my husband if he wanted it. That applies to other items of food and drink, not just beer.
It's a matter of mutual respect and consideration as far as I'm concerned as he'd behave the same way.
So, it seems that you drinking the last beer and him calling you a disgusting name just shows that you have a very different relationship to one that I would be happy with. But that's OK as long as you're both fine with being like that to each other. I treat others as I would like to be treated.