Drank a beer

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So I drank one of my husbands beer and he called me cunt for drinking it.
We're in a rural setting but about a 15/20 minute walk to the nearest shop if i/he wanted more alcohol. Would you really call your oh this over a beer or just say fuck it and walk the shop ( when unable to drive and just get extra?) no children btw

I think it's unhealthy to feel so strongly about a beer that it's worth jeapordising your relationship over it. What a nasty word to call your partner.
It is a dick move to drink the last of someone else's stuff without asking though. DH asks for a glass of my wine occasionally and even though I'd always say yes he asks any way. I would think he was an arsehole if he just helped himself.

Is it normal in your relationship?
You drinking his beers and him calling you a cunt?

I never drink beer and dp does. If I were to have one, I would ask him first, just like if he fancied a gin and tonic he would ask me. There wouldn't be any name calling. I get the impression there is a mutual lack of respect in your relationship OP and things are worse than just the beer.

Hate the word, it's hard and nasty.
A pp suggested he just go and get more, but I think it's only polite for you to do that if you've had the last one and they're usually all his.

I cried when my dh finished off the ice cream & I knew I couldn’t get anymore for a few days. It’s a bit sad for a 43 year old mum of 3. He was horrible to call you that name though.

Well its not nice to call anyone a cunt...but last week i was really looking forward to a bottle of my favourite cider after a busy day. I went to the fridge and my Dh had drank it. I called him a greedy bastard. If the shop is only 15mins away you can get yourself down there and buy some more after he apologizes for calling you a cunt.

Cunt is on a par with bitch. I never understand why people are scared of a word. My friend from Austrailia uses it as a greeting! It only depends on his feeling behind it. My husband will use my full name when we argue. It sounds awful and the intention is to hurt me. However he's my dh and I'm not scared of him. I could call him a cunt I guess as it's such an awful word!

Well it depends, doesn’t it?

I frequently call my husband a cunt - when he eats something I was looking forward to, when he loses more weight that me, when he beats me at a board game.

Do I mean if? No. Do I say it with venom? Absolutely not? Is this banter acceptable to him and both ways? Yes.

If he was aggressive and it’s part of a pattern of vile behaviour then your husband is awful.

But if it was in the spirit of a joke because you drank the last one and it’s a bit of banter then I couldn’t get worked up.

No one can really be sure because these incidents will differ from relationship to relationship.

Someone could write your OP almost word for word with ‘lighthearted’ in brackets and it would be completely different in tone.

If we want something and it's the last one, we would ask the other if it's okay. Normally it's fine. I wouldnt expect a c word thrown at me though. That's horrible. Maybe you should talk with him and explain that you want to share the beers from now on, so to buy more next time. A few weeks ago I started buying waffles (to toast for breakfast, for the children.) My husband asked if he could have the last few. I said no because they're for the children. I'd already asked what he wanted me to buy for his breakfasts and I got them. He said okay and ate something else. I'm buying him some waffles of his own on Monday! I think your partner is being disrespectful, you don't deserve to be spoken to that way.

No I'd never call him names in a situation like this and he would never do that to me either. I do appreciate that some people use words more freely and with less meaning, but I would be really shocked if he ever called me that. Managed to communicate through various times in past 22 years without it.

I might be annoyed and say "well that was the last one" "I was looking forward to that" or similar.

Can you both not drive because you are both drinking? Might start to wonder why he cant just drink a non alcoholic drink if he has already had some alcohol.

Is cunt a word normally used in your house?

I know people don’t like the word and that’s absolutely their choice. I wouldn’t use it in front of my mother but I personally don’t have an issue with it

Agree if husband had taken your treat, your alcohol, there would be uproar on here. Did he plan to drink them tonight? Have you taken his last one?

Christ, some puritanical cnuts on here!

Seriously, it depends on context and vibe.

Me and oh often call each other things, usually exaggeratedly or in dark humour. We need context here.

If Entirely serious, then yes, He’s bad news.

He's being selfish and rude. I'd be a little grumpy if other half finished something of mine, which he does often. However I'll also steal his snacks so it swings in roundabouts. We'd never be that pissed with one another. What's the point unless it's the last of that item in the world, buy more?

Apparently «cunt» is officially the most offensive word in the English language.
However if you google / research the origin of the word, it’s actually quite interesting.
You could perhaps educate your partner OP, then order yourself a takeaway, wine, dessert, and refuse to share 😊

He's being selfish

How is he selfish 😂😂

You drank his last beer. If dh ate or drank my last anything I'd be pretty cross.

You need to rename thread 'I drank dh last beer'

I prefer the words 'twat' or if very cross 'f××ker'

Are you still there OP
Or have you passed out from the beer?😊

JenNtonic 😂🤣😂

It depends on whether it was jokey and whether you say things like that as a joke. We call each other greedy bastards or blame Dave (an imaginary man who lives with us who we blame for everything), but we’re both joking and we’re both okay with it. If it’s said as a joke and the other doesn’t like it then it shouldn’t be said again.

Well I wouldn't be happy as I don't like the word but it depends on context.
Angry and shouting is not ok.
Jokey probably ok.
We usually ask if its the last of something if anyone else wants it but our corner shop is a 5 minute walk away so nobody could get that bothered about it.

I’ve been pissed off with DH when he has eaten/drank something that was specifically mine - more than once he has actually finished it and not replaced it. Yeah, I’ve called him an arsehole under those circumstances.

@DrDavidBanner 🤷🏻‍♀️😂🙂