To feel I can't cope with schools only going back part time in August?

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Just that. I was coping OK with lockdown, and trying to keep positive about juggling kids and working from home til June, then take a few weeks holiday over the summer just to do things with the kids even if still restricted. This week I have received a letter from my son's nursery to say he has a space for the 2020-2021 school year but that due to covid 19 they can't confirm pattern of attendance, as in, they can't confirm if he will have the 30 hours he was having since August. I also have read a lot that primary school might be 2 days only a week or a very day but only morning or afternoon session.. This has really tipped me over the edge as I am dreading having to keep juggling all this for over a year. This really puts a strain in family life and finances because now we have to basically decide on one income only, and not onky that but I don't feel I am that good at home schooling and feel like my kids are going to fall behind. Sometimes I can't believe how everything fell apart so spectacularly and how is the Scottish government deciding this is the best course of action without any regard for the mountain of problems this will bring to a huge amount of families.

YANBU at all, I despair at what people are letting happen to our children, and to women.

YANBU. I'm not in Scotland but it's shit. I hope we don't follow suit in England, it's just not feasible for me with work.

YANBU at all, I despair at what people are letting happen to our children, and to women.

Nothing is happening to our children. They will not be damaged by this.

Also, women?

They will not be damaged by this.

This is really naive. And wrong.

This is really naive. And wrong.

No it's not. Children will be just fine with missing a bit of nursery/primary school.

Yes, women, because it will likely be women having to give up their jobs because of this.

@masonmason what do you mean nothi g is happening to them? Their access to education, interactions with friends and family, choice of activities, in escence their whole routine and way of living has changed. That's what is happening to them.

I honestly think things will be much more normal by say September than we think, partly because of ever increased testing & better treatments etc, but largely because much of this is completely unsustainable longterm. There's a point where we'll collectively decide that it just isn't worth utterly shredding our society, economy and wider physical & mental well-being. And to be honest I think that'll hold true even if there is some kind of second wave (and I actually doubt there will be).

It’s not just a bit of school - DD has been out since March, no current date for return and when/if she does before Sept it will be part time. That’s a lot of school.

It really annoys me when people say this won’t hurt children. I, and many other adults, have struggled with lockdown and not seeing friends - is it so hard to imagine some children might do too?

Not to mention so many people thinking missing a week off school for a holiday is dreadful, but 6 months out of school isn’t the end of the world. Children go backwards over the 6 week summer holiday, 6 months out is definitely going to have an impact. Just because it’s happening to all of them doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. I’m a teacher and I think term time holidays can be really bad for some children (for others not a jot, depends on the child, parents, their normal attendance and how academic they are), and I think this time out of school is going to be catastrophic.

OP, feel for you. Hopefully by August things will be a lot more settled and your little one can go back full time as planned. I have been juggling looking after my baby with my husband whilst working and it’s absolutely draining. We’ve been doing it less than 2monthe once you take holidays out, and it’s been HARD. The thought of doing it long term is horrendous.

what do you mean nothi g is happening to them? Their access to education, interactions with friends and family, choice of activities, in escence their whole routine and way of living has changed. That's what is happening to them.

They will be ok. That's what I mean. Nothing really detrimental is happening. This isn't going to have a negative impact on a nursery child. Yes things have changed, but they will be ok.

It really annoys me when people say this won’t hurt children. I, and many other adults, have struggled with lockdown and not seeing friends - is it so hard to imagine some children might do too?

I was relent meaning their futures. Sorry for annoying you.

YADNU And am so fed up with the sneering when it's mentioned that children and young people are being affected by lockdown!

Of course children are suffering if schools don't go back until September (in England) then children have had little schooling for 6 months. That's a lot of missed learning and it will affect children. And yes depending on the child it will be to a lesser or greater extent.

I feel exactly the same op, I could have written your post. I’m in Ireland and things are very strict here (we can only go 5km still , not much open etc) and schools not back until September. We shut down earlier than the U.K. too , I too was fine (well as fine as we can be with wfh etc) with September but I honestly can’t handle the idea of very part-time , different hours for siblings , more trying to wth with small kids around. I can’t do it with my job.
I honestly can’t even imagine how it will work , the logistics of it all...
I’m really hoping like the above poster that there’s a huge difference in 3 months and it is a good amount of time.
I mean if in three months things aren’t hugely changed then our economy will be so fckt anyway that we might as well just close schools and teach all our kids ourselves ( I’m a former teacher ) and live off benefits as I won’t have a job like thousand others.

Not to mention so many people thinking missing a week off school for a holiday is dreadful, but 6 months out of school isn’t the end of the world.

I don't think missing a week of school is dreadful.

Children go backwards over the 6 week summer holiday,

Backwards? What do you mean?

mason do you currently have an affected nursery age child?

I wish they were doing that here.
We need to think more about who needs to work and how much money we actually need rather than want.
There are going to be many redundancies, so maybe childcare won't be an issue for many anyway.

‘Backwards’ - academically, children are able to do less in September Than they were in July. They forget stuff in the 6 weeks off.

mason do you currently have an affected nursery age child?

Not sure why this is relevant?

I am able to understand that children will be fine in spite of missing some school/nursery without having one in each year group. Kids have missed chunks of schooling before and managed to succeed in life.

My son has his y6 Sats next year I wonder how they will go down.

You're not allowed to be ageist on here except about children.

@modgepodge I agree. I think this will affect kids, specially if it's long term. I was seeing the light at the end of the tunnel but another year of this is just ridiculous, and frankly I think is an over reaction when there is not even enough data to confirm how deadly this virus is (BMJ article says up to 78% of those who get the virus might be asymptomatic), Chris Witty said himself only a very small fraction of people will be hospitalised if becoming infected, yet we are taking these life changing measures?

‘Backwards’ - academically, children are able to do less in September Than they were in July. They forget stuff in the 6 weeks off.

This isn't something I have encountered, however, even if children do forget stuff, children can relearn stuff.

Not sure how we will work the part time school part time at home, but not really got a choice unless things change between now & August 11th 🤷‍♀️