is 15yo dd eating too much?

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i've posted on teenagers, but i haven't gotten many responses, so i thought i'd post here for traffic.
15yo dd has been eating more recently and i don't know if it's too much or not, she's a healthy weight, not like a beanpole but not fat.
today she's had
2 slices of vegan cheese on seedy toast and a milky coffee made with oat milk and stevia for breakfast
about 5 wedges, 4 mini falafels, 3 oreos and a small handful of salt and vinegar crisps for lunch
4 more oreos as a snack
and will be having chickpea and roasted vegetable soup for dinner with a slice or two of seedy bread
and homemade apple cake with custard for pudding
and she usually has a bowl of cereal with oat milk before bed, so i imagine she will tonight too.
thank you for any responses

@TooOldForSims, they don’t contain animal product ingredients but they do contain animal products due to cross contamination. So they are not vegan, it does obviously depend on how strict a vegan one is, but they are not vegan. The FAQs contain further information for those who have allergies.

Ps add fruit and veg to snack on and cut the late night snack if she gains weight

Oreos are tiny aren't they? I occasionally buy them for DD and can easily eat about five.

Sounds fine to me.

My 5 year old has eaten

A bowl of rice crispies
A pack of belvita biscuits
A ham and mayo sandwich, grapes and apple
A pack of pom bears
Vegetable pasta with cheese

Teenagers always eat a lot- they're growing and have a high metabolism. my 14 year old eats more than me, I remember eating as much as my dad at mealtimes at her age. I was never overweight!

Ah, I've just realised I buy the oreo thins. Still, seven biscuits over a day is not much for a teen. I used to buy myself a box of chocolates at that age and happily eat my way through them.

Doesn't sound like a lot AT ALL. But like pp said, can she up her veg? That's it.

Put it into myfitnesspal, it really isn’t a lot of calories

I think the issue is more the (lack of) nutritional value rather than the calories.

i've never commented on what she eats to her, as i'm so worried she'd fall down the same path i did.

sadly there is no surer way of bringing this about than anxiously monitoring her weight

even if you don't say anything she will notice if you are looking at her to see if she is gaining weight (as you must be, as you were saying you would restrict her food if she gained weight)

she will notice if the thought of her eating (or not eating) makes you anxious

if I were you I would work very hard to find something else to be interested in while you're eating together

don't look at her plate, don't add up what she is eating, distract your mind, find something fun to talk about

bake with her if you think that would be a fun thing to do, not to allay your anxieties re her food intake

your eating disorder and your fear of that coming back is your cross to bear, part of your burden in life

your dd should not have to engage with that fear

She is 15, not 5, so shouldn't have her life that closely monitored anyway. Why is she not allowed to eat in her room? Do you have a super-precious carpet? If I were you I would relax rules at a time like this: teens need a certain amount of unsupervised time and just at the moment she can't have it like she ought to.

That's not too much and you're very controlling. It's odd to count how many biscuits she's eaten.
Teens who are growing and not just in height but also in brain power need lots of food.

Do you insist on her being vegan too?

My teenagers both eat probably double what I eat. They are not fat but very healthy and sporty. I'm a woman on my 40s so I have less appetite, and if I ate to their rates I'd balloon in weight.

@ChristmasFluff i'm glad your son has managed to not have a disordered relationship with food, i hope my dd manages too. i'd hate for her to have to suffer like i did.

they don’t contain animal product ingredients

So they're vegan then.

@corythatwas we bake together sometimes as a fun activity, and we both enjoy it. i don't do it to monitor her food. we rent our flat and i don't want to take chances that any food will be dropped into the carpet.

My 16 yr old DD thinks that's ok.Her diet varies day to day.
She hasn't had snacks for the last 2 days because we've eaten them all.In fact I think she eats more than your dd as she has been baking so has had scones ,jam and cream and made focaccia too,cake in a mug last night and that's this week on top of her normal diet.

Nope my 7 year old eats more then that is breakfast today he had a bowl of bran flakes with an apple and a pan au chocolate then snack some grapes and crisps lunch 3 wraps with salad in and pepperoni and a banana tea he wants a chicken dinner with about 5 veg and he will have cake as pudding

I would expect to maintain or slowly lose weight on that, albeit I am in my thirties. To me it's not that much food.

It is very carb heavy. Not enough protein & fruit/veg to keep her full.

Falafel is usually pretty fatty.

Does she like tofu? Dd enjoys tofu flavoured with miso with salad veg/rice noodles/quinoa

Baked crisps are usually better than normal ones.

@Bookoffacts no i didn't insist. me and dh are vegetarian and asked her if she wanted to continue eating meat and fish, and she decided she didn't, so we were all vegetarian for a while, and then a few months ago she decided herself she wanted to be vegan.

@Comefromaway yes she likes tofu, but i couldn't find any today so i couldn't pick any up for her to have.

I don't think that sounds like much at all but I guess it also depends on how active she is throughout the day too

fun activities are fine, caring about a rented carpet also fine

but taking so much interest in what your 15yo is eating that you will know how many slices of cheese they had just because you happen to be in the same flat with them (unless Oliver-Twist-levels of poor) is not fine

you simply should not be looking, not engaging your brain with this

15yos need freedom, and if not actual physical freedom (not achievable in lockdown) then at least the kind of freedom that comes from a certain amount of parental inattention

Nothing wrong with a bit of fat, @comefromaway

If it's cauldron falafel, they're pretty dry, anyhow.

so they're vegan then.
Um no. Did you read the FAQs? The ingredients may not be of animal origin, but they have animal products in them. It isn’t complicated. Strict vegans would not consume them. But many people ignore the fact that they are not vegan.

awww op I know how you feel, I binged when I was younger too then went the opposite way. You’re doing great being concerned but it sounds like she’s totally fine.

That doesn’t sound a lot to me at all - I’d eat more than that now as a non-growing adult. I’d certainly have eaten way more as a teenager. For reference I’m 5’4 and about 50kg - however we’re all different so surely it’s about whether it’s the right amount for her and if she’s a healthy weight then it probably is?