Who is right, me or DH?

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So today, the weather has been absolutely glorious and I have been working from home with both kids now for what feels like forever. I have one DC who is delighted with the situation, and the other who is miserable as sin, misses friends, grandparents, going out etc.

The dispute between me and DH has arisen because I have let the DCs off their school work for the day so that they could enjoy the weather and play together in the paddling pool. They have done work every single day since school closed and have been trying really hard. My reasoning was that we don't often get weather like this, things are a bit shit at the moment and they deserve to have some fun.

Since he got home from work (critical worker and so has been out of the house every day as normal), DH has been fuming with me for letting the kids have a day off. His view is that it was a 'school' day, and they should have been working. The older one has got year 7 assessments after half term and he should have been working/revising.

I don't think IABU, but am doubting myself. Views?

You're right. I can be a stickler but we had today off, eating ice lollies and playing in a paddling pool.

He sounds very rigid. Sometimes it’s nice to be a bit more relaxed about life.

We pretty much did the same today. Did an hour of homework with dd this morning, only because it had to be in by lunchtime and she needed my help finishing it. Ds’s did no work and played on roblox in the garden all morning. I gave them an early lunch and then they were in the paddling pool until dinner. I wanted to make the most of the sun, while we have it. They can catch up with their work at the weekend but our weather for next week is rubbish, so this day off was worth it for me.

It's good to let kids take breaks. I didnt do any work with mine last friday. To me, the world as they knew has been turned upside down and they are handling it well, but I do fear for the psychological impact of all this. Letting them have a day of fun is a good way to take care of their mental health. You're spot on OP.

Carpe Dieme

Sorry but I'm with your husband here, I think you have created a rod for your own back here as every time there's a nice day your kids are going to think it's an opportunity to sack off the school work.

What do you mean we don't get many nice days, ever since lockdown started the weather has been freakishly glorious.

I think it's a confusing message and not a great life lesson tbh.

It's half term next week. Do some extra work if it rains one of the days.

The only good thing about 2020 is that there is flexibility in unexpected places.

What do you mean we don't get many nice days, ever since lockdown started the weather has been freakishly glorious.

Depends where the OP lives. It's hammered down a few times where we are, been freezing cold and high winds.

I doubt they're going to think every sunny day from now on means no work. One's in Year 7, not a toddler.

We bunked off today and went den building and had a picnic and walk in the woods. We've been driving each other crazy so was much needed family bonding time!

You're right. I would have done exactly the same. Label it an inset day and be done with it. There's got to be some perks to home schooling and one of them is choosing when you have an inset day.

You're right. Wellbeing is more important than another day at the mill, especially with this weather and in the runup to half term. I have a week of annual leave next week - we won't be going anywhere, but I am so looking forward to just not working (am working from home).

I will make sure they catch up the work they missed today over the next week (DS did attend the zoom calls he was supposed to be on, so at least he didn't waste the teachers' time). I hope I haven't made a rod for my own back, and they don't expect the day off every hot day, they are generally good kids though, so hopefully not.

What a joyless plank...seems he's not alone though🙄😊

It was world 🐝 day today 😊 consider it a field trip day!!

He's not your boss -remind him of that!

God of course you are right! He sounds an absolute arse, or he’s being one on this occasion anyway.

We didn’t do any work today.

Your right he's wrong school work can happen another day and even schools have fun day trips , spots day etc

@FrancesHaHa
It’s an Insect day, searching for mini beasts in the garden 🤣
OP you are right, this day will have been a lovely experience / memory for you and your children.
Your husband is probably very stressed and needs a similar day himself.

Plus let's be honest with what's going on in the world having a fun day and missing a bit of school is nothing in the grand scheme of things

@IncrediblySadToo
Joyless plank
🤣😂🤣
I enjoyed world bee day too, watching «my» mason bees buzzing about their business.😊

I did the same today. YANBU. Tell him to get a grip.

Having a nice day enjoying the sun and each other's company is much better for both of them.

Good job he isn't married to me. One of my DC is doing the bare minimum of school work and some days he stays in his pjs all day

Joyless plank may be my new mental name for him, thanks for that

We did the same. Today's learning, life is for living!

DH can do a catch up day with them on Saturday if he is that arsed.

When you say they've been working every single day, does that include weekends, school holidays and bank holidays? If so, it makes your decision even more reasonable.

Tell him it was essential school curriculum work - PE, social communication, physics and maths (checking out water volume and flow in the pool), nature study in the garden, music (if you had the radio on), art, etc.