To be a bit miffed my DP is planning to visit his family in Europe

[thinsulation]

DP and I live in Scotland, he wants to travel to France this weekend to stay with his family (and enjoy the nice weather) for up to 3 weeks. I’ve been working from home since the start of quarantine (and have limited contact with people as I’m in a risk category) and am a bit upset because if he leaves I’ll be by myself in the house until he returns/quarantine is lifted.

I’ve said that I won’t be going with him because I don’t think it’s right in the current situation, he’s currently making up his mind what he is going to do. I haven’t told him that I’ll be upset if he decides to go, because I don’t know if I’m BU!

[Maduixa]

One other thing to consider - the UK govt had been talking about introducing a 14-day mandatory self-isolation period for anyone coming into/returning to the UK. It's still unclear if they'll even do it - apparently the travel industry has been lobbying against it - but Grant Shapps has said a few days ago that it would (could?) start early June, and it looks like arrivals from France are no longer excluded. So he could find himself required to self-isolate when he comes back, depending on the timing.

My (unofficial) source is here, they've been updating it with info as things change: thepointsguy.co.uk/guide/uk-14-day-isolation-for-travellers/

[mencken]

stupid bastard alert!

along with all the other reasons, FCO say 'no non essential travel'. That means no travel insurance. So he goes, and he has the kind of accident that can happen to any of us at any time, and he needs a medevac or worse - bye bye house.

[NeutrinoWrangler]

I wouldn't like it, either. My husband's family all live abroad, and unless there were some truly urgent reason he needed to go now (saying goodbye to someone on their deathbed, essentially), I'd be upset if he chose not to delay a visit to a safer time.

It's not unreasonable to tell him how you feel, but he may not be happy to hear it.

[KitchenConfidential]

but he's not being unreasonable to want to go and spend time with his family

He’s not unreasonable to WANT to, but in the middle of a global pandemic he’s VERY unreasonable to do so and leave his vulnerable partner on her own for nearly a month to boot.

[insideoutsider]

Some people, even though they are surrounded by people they love and that love them, feel incredibly lonely being away from home. I'm away from home and only my children could keep me from going home to my family during this pandemic - and they have because they are young and I'm not taking them travelling!

I know OP is his family too but it's to the point of desperation for some, to just be at home with family to save their mental health. He probably hasn't thought of how impossible it will be and how restricted his movements will be.