To find these women a tad bit annoying?

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I come from a small village and there is a Facebook group which is mainly for the residents, although anyone can join in. Think of it as an information board, however a lot of people use it as a sounding board (a fair few arguments on there previously). People normally post pictures of the beach and mountains or information in regards to businesses and the shops here, things like that. Anyway - when lockdown started, two ladies who just so happen to live down the road decided to start the “community corner” which consists of boxes and boxes of donated food, sweet treats and toiletries. The purpose of it is so that when people are on their daily walk/exercise they can stop by and pick something up if they fancy. The kids also love it as sometimes cake and sweets are left there. It really is a lovely idea, however there seems to be a post on the Facebook group by these ladies every single day.

They are normally complaints about how someone has taken the hand sanitiser (left for people to sanitise items before taking them if they want to), taken too many slices of cake or dumped (donated) “rubbish”. The other day she specifically asked for book donations but then complained that too many had been donated, so imo people can’t win. Just this very morning, she has complained that someone has taken the hand sanitiser again, that people have no respect and are ruining this lovely activity for everyone. Whilst I agree it must be annoying having to constantly supply the same item over and over again, I can see why someone might have seen it and thought it was an item that had been donated and was up for grabs.

She has specifically said that she doesn’t want to do it anymore as it’s causing her a lot of stress. Of course people were quick to reply and stressed that she was doing a fantastic job (which I agree with) and that she shouldn’t give up just because of other people. She’s now said she’ll see how she feels later and make a decision then. Imo, nobody asked her to do this. It was a lovely idea to start with and has obviously brought a lot of happiness to the community, but if it’s causing someone so much stress surely the best thing to do would be to end it, right?. The very same ladies decided to (again, nobody asked them to) walk through the village yesterday and pick up all the discarded litter as our local litter picker isn’t currently working due to the pandemic. They’ve now complained that there are two black bin liners full of rubbish taking up the space in there black bin .

Imo, if people want to do something out of the goodness of their hearts then it should be just that and not for recognition, appreciation or attention. I do believe these ladies want appreciation and recognition for something that they started. The sensible thing for me to do would be to leave the group, but I enjoy looking at pictures that a local photographer posts occasionally. AIBU to find these ladies a tad bit annoying?

Yes, i know someone like this - volunteers every year to be class rep, run things to do with the PTA, arrange “outings” for the kids (ie. organising a year 6 end of year trip which cost £30 per child despite the school having already organised activities we had to also pay for), takes part in running the local tennis club etc etc.

And then moans and moans and moans about how busy she is, how no one has paid the money, got back to her, put the tennis balls back etc etc and acts like she’s Jesus nailed to the cross!

I think she wants everyone to regard her as generous and community minded but really her motivation is her own “having to be in charge of organising something/keeping busy” issues.

Just don’t fucking volunteer or STFU!!!

I remembered why I left little villages now, mind numbingly boring.
Not just the community spirited ones, but the ones who moan about the moaners, OP.

"Tad bit" is one of those odd Americanisms, like saying "ten ex" for 10 times ("10x") or "I could care less" instead of couldn't.

I go with Jeepers and Bleepbloopblarb just above - if it riles you, get off the group/unfollow/whatever. Some people are just self-martyrs, either intentionally or not, and there's rarely any stopping them. Remove the irritation from your life.

You can snooze people I think, then their posts wont come up on the group for you. There's a lot of irritating things of community Facebook groups at the moment, at least they are doing something I suppose, rather than most of the irritations!

As a PP has said said... this is virtue signalling at its worst.
Try and ignore it or feign poor WiFi if anyone asks.
You don’t need this.

Block them so you don't see their posts

Sounds irritating to me.

Tautology aside, this is martyr-ish behaviour. They whinge because they enjoy it. Just ignore the; they want the attention. We've a couple like this at work that do all of the charity stuff and then expect endless pats on the back and get stroppy if they're not forthcoming.

I agree with you op. There’s definitely a new breed of lockdown martyrs. They don’t think anything is worth doing unless everybody appreciates the effort they’ve gone to! They want to be one of the heroes but really they can’t be because they don’t really want to do what they’re doing and they don’t really actually like other people!

I'd put up with their behaviour as a trade off to live in a village by the sea and the mountains.
Snowdonia or Scotland OP??

Be very grateful you dont live in our village! My 18/19 year old sons did a "voluntary" litter pick recently (after I made them move their arses) and posted a pic of themselves with 5 bin bags and the tag line "We are fucking stars".

Box of random food left out on the street sounds kinda gross.

Tell her not to leave sanitiser out. People can use their own gels.
And tell her to stop doing it if its causing her stress, life's too short.
People like her put themselves out and then regret it. Not worth getting bothered about, we're all different!