To ask about new neighbours

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I found out yesterday that the house next to me has been let.

I've had a history of bad neighbours including a lady whose dogs barked 16 hours a day and I nearly had a breakdown.

Since lockdown, I like everyone else is spending every day at home and I'm horribly anxious about who might move in.

WIBU to call the letting agent (same as my letting agent) and ask them a bit about the new neighbour? Whether it's a couple/family etc?

Please be kind I appreciate I sound a little batshit but I feel really on edge right now

Sorry OP I think in lockdown most people are getting annoyed a little bit with neighbours who usually don't bother them at all.

I feel your anxiety. I am sending you -flowers-

I'm the type who probably would ring the letting agents on the basis of well if they don't tell me anything, nothing's lost, I don't care if they do think I am batshit, but maybe they will tell me something and I will be mentally prepared. I would be very nice and polite to them. I'd ask when they are moving in and what they know.

But like PPs have said, you'll find out soon enough. Update us here if you feel like it. Fingers crossed for a little old lady (quiet, nice).

There's movement next door. It's a man. I didn't peer over the fence in case he thought I'm a freak (which I am) ...

I'm meerkatting every now and again. I'm not sure if he's the neighbour or someone doing handiwork..

I've had a couple of vodkas maybe I'll lurch over and introduce myself 😂

Gave in an freakishly peered over the fence into their kitchen window.

Not the neighbour. Man has a large camera and is taking many photos of the kitchen. Either he has a kitchen fetish or he is taking photos of things that need fixing.

Saga continues... shame cos he looked quite nice 😂

Sounds like maybe he should have been asking the questions about you! You’re bonkers!

@MrsOfBebbanburg

Sounds like maybe he should have been asking the questions about you! You’re bonkers!

Yep

Yes, not the first time I've been called bonkers. In the nicest of ways though... I hope

Sounds like he's doing an inventory

Moved in today. All I know is it's 'girls' don't know if this means 2 women or a woman and her dd, haven't heard anything yet. Her blinds are drawn which gives off some fuck off vibes.

Should I knock at the weekend and introduce myself?

Jesus Christ Op! If you think blinds drawn means fuck off (it doesnt) then why on earth would you knock? Could you maybe find a hobby? Something to peel you off the garden fence. You really need to back off and leave your new neighbours alone.

1. Do you think the letting agents will know enough about them to give you a good enough idea about them?
2. Even if they did, and they knew they were PITAs, do you really think they'd tell you? Even if they were allowed to.
3. What difference would it make knowing? What would/could you actually do about it?

I know it's easier said than done, especially at this heightened time, but you need to let go of the things you can't control.

Having her blinds closed gives fuck off vibes? You sound unhinged

Am starting to think that the person with a problem neighbour isn’t OP.

Op - just stop - you’re making up entire scenarios in your head.

I'm not unhinged, honestly. I'm a nice person!

In 2013 I had a downstairs neighbour who objected to my then 3yo ds running in my flat. She retaliated by blasting rap music at top volume all day while she was working and often at 3am too just to wake me up.
She tortured me.

I have had a deep fear of new neighbours since then as it almost gave me a nervous breakdown.

This is the only reason, I'm aware it's not normal to have this level of anxiety but I have reasons.

Still quiet so far 😊