Covid money issues

[Gwilliams83]

Hi all, long time lurker but first time posting here. DH received the devastating news on Friday that his pay is getting cut by a significant amount. While we feel fortunate that he still has his job, it just feels like a blow when we could do with the money now for a number of things. AIBU to feel pretty down about the whole situation? Hoping to hear from people who can relate and give me some positivity!

Why cant you relate? I can relate to someone earning a million feeling sad theh are now earning 400k, 100k to 60k etc. She didn't say they were struggling for food or anything, just a significant drop and probably for a stressful job.

I must be a lesser person to you.

YANBU, it’s totally shit.

I’ve lost my job sadly.

• than you. Sorry, reflective of my shit wage.

A family earning 60k wouldn't be having a nanny!

[bisucit] "stock compensation" ffs.

YANBU- it’s utter shit!

I saw a great quote today. “We’re all in the same storm. We’re not all in the same boat.”

Theukisgreatt

I wouldn't fucking know.

She didn't say they were struggling for food or anything, just a significant drop and probably for a stressful job.

Yes, unable to have a nice holibobs or ramp up the savings must be awful for those in high paid, stressful jobs. Those who are lower pay don't have half as much stress so won't miss their holidays or the roof over their head half as much.

Seriously though, it's not that I have zero sympathy for the OP, but this thread really is badly thought out. I was expecting to hear that the op was worried about choosing between food and rent, not worried about stocks and wondering if it's the right time to hire a nanny . There's a serious lack of 'seeing the bigger picture' here.

“We’re all in the same storm. We’re not all in the same boat.”

Oh god, wasn't followed with #BeKind was it? Sounds like the same kind of wankery.

Yes, mouthbreathingrage has articulated it better than I have done as I have obviously taken the OP too personally. It's very hard not too. Perhaps she can buy some self awareness when she can cash in her stocks.

I’m on maternity pay and my husband is a self employed share fisherman, therefore given very little support. I didn’t know that we could have so little money.

I can sympathise with you! It's very disappointing especially if he has been working hard for the bonus. Presume it is a fair decision as in his company has been affected and can't afford it, rather than just using the current situation as an excuse not to pay it otherwise that would be even worse. My DH has lost his self-employed contract and no prospect of another one at the moment but we will be ok for a few months so trying not to panic.

It’s pretty crass to say ‘we are all in this together’ when there are some people seriously struggling to get by, and can’t afford food.
If you worried about affording your next rent payment or electricity bill, then there are many posters on here that can offer excellent advice, but I don’t think you’re going to get much sympathy about your holiday/gym membership OP.

MouthBreathingRage it was less wankery but I thought it highlighted that everyone has different circumstances.

MouthBreathingRage holibobs....really?

holibobs....really?

I feel you may have missed the tone of sarcasm from my post. My bad .

My bad is even worse!

Just because you’ll miss the beans and she’ll miss the steak. Doesn’t mean your longings are more heartfelt

Seriously? Just because some people will miss the basic of the basics, we should still feel for those missing out on a few luxuries? That missing out on the lowest expectations of living is the same longing as for more savings and a nice holiday?

This place sometimes....

It's ok to mourn the life you used to have, ignore those saying you csnt just because you may be a high earner.

However, maybe look at the positives you have. You can afford a roof over your head and food on your table, the rest of the things you like and miss may return in time.

My husband lost his job at the start of the lockdown as the company kicked out those they could when they realised what was going on - his income was over half our household income. As part of the 'handover' prior to his finish dates deals he has worked on and was due to complete were passed to other people - they got the £££££ commission so I understand the frustration of bonuses etc that you were looking forward to not being paid, but he still has a job.

My DH doesn't and due to a medical condition is not able to get a new job due to shielding - so we are trying to live on less than half the income we are used to - plenty is not going to be paid until he can work again. I would do anything for it only to be savings and luxuries we are going to have to go without.

We have no savings. We both work full time & scrape by.

Just been told by my job today that there will be no bonus or pay rise this year. I have worked damned hard. We had plans for that money-it was going towards my sons birthday & Christmas presents.

However, it wasn’t unexpected.

I am massively grateful that I still have a job (So far).
I am grateful we still have food & a roof over our head.

So you aren’t haven’t money issues

Plus you have savings