My son is turning two soon and still naps 1.5 to 2 hours a day. Everytime we meet up with his dad he doesn't let him finish his nap and finds a way to wake him. We usually meet him outside at the park or something and on the way back he falls asleep in the car. I feel that he should be allowed to finish his nap. On these days it is open ended with no time limit, neither his dad or me has anywhere else to be.
Before now we'd all be in the same car and his dad will kiss him or jingle keys or hum or something else seemingly innocent that wakes him. Even though I ask every time that he doesn't. He says he isn't trying to wake him up but it always seems to happen after one of these things happen.
Today with the social distancing we were in separate cars, so I thought he could finish his nap undisturbed today. We had been for a long beach walk and were getting some food on the way back, maybe have another walk when we were closer to home again. His dad taps on the window and asked what the plan is, I say wait for him to wake up. He says okay, then goes to open the door saying that he's going to wind up the window that keeps falling by a couple of mm. I say no, do it later, let him nap. He goes back to his car and calls my phone. I rush to pick it up and say please stop trying to wake him. He says he's not he just wants to know the plan. So now we are having a back and forth, with me telling him I already told him. And so bubs wakes up now because I'm talking. And now I feel annoyed because its every time I feel he finds a way to wake him up.
I say I don't know why he won't let him sleep. And he says because I didn't get out to talk to him while he naps (the car door sound usually wakes baby up), that he wants his time with us and that I can't stop the whole world for a baby to sleep.
I really don't know if I'm wrong here. I don't know that much about kids, should I wake him up at the next destination even if he has only had 20 mins? He never goes back off and often gets cranky if he misses his sleep. I'm struggling to see a good reason for waking him, it can be boring waiting for someone to sleep but isn't it part of normal parenthood? If we had tickets to be somewhere or a time limit I'd understand but we're all together for the day til it peters out, I don't get the rush? Am I being too precious or should baby be allowed to finish their nap?