For putting my foot down and not allowing DH to build a.pond in the garden?

[Pixiefringe]

Background: We have a very active 13mo and I am due our second in July.

It's common sense IMO to not have bodies of water in your garden with babies and toddlers about. But a quick Google search shows it's not recommended you have a pond until your children are 6yrs and above.

didn't even get the chance to talk it through properly before he's decided to buy the liner and spade

WOW.

Well he will fucking find that the second he digs it out and puts that pond liner down you'll be at it with the kitchen scissors, won't he?!

How fucking dare he be so high-handed as to think he can make a decision like that without your agreement. Ponds are dangerous. It will be a flat NO when he comes home or kitchen scissors time, I hope.

@fizzygreenwater i literally cut the liner up with the kitchen scissors while he was digging 😅

Hahaa good on you!

I was also going to suggest putting him into the hole he digs.

GOOD!!!!!

As others said you can get a grill to go over them sit on top of water and that strong u can walk on them

That would be a hard no from me too.

My cousin drowned in a pond at the age of 7 in a relatives garden. I warned my husband that any pond in any future house we have will first be filled with a truck load of concrete. I will never forget the funeral. Then after several years of knowing MIL and she my concerns she overhauls her garden and adds in guess what - a pond! She used to see her grandchildren. Well not anymore and she can sulk all she likes. Do all you can to prevent your husband getting a pond is my advice.

I grew up with a pond in the garden - a big, deep pond. No accidents, ever. My DCs go to my parent’s house where there is a small but relatively deep pond in the garden. No accidents.

Ah it's obviously fine then. All those kids that have died in ponds must've just been being melodramatic.

But were these ponds that had a grill over them?

@Oysterbabe at what point did I ever say or imply melodrama? I didn’t. I shared my experience of ponds which could have been reassuring.

@dml13

We took out our pond when we moved into our house and our children learned to walk. As someone said to me, it only takes a second that you don't have your eye on them.

There is no way I’d have a pond if I had children. It’s asking for trouble.

I wouldn't want a pond dug with children until safety stuff was discussed and already bought, if at all.

One of my early memories is slipping into a pond and nearly drowning. DF got there in time thankfully. It is an awful memory which gave me a lot of nightmares but I'm lucky compared to the alternative.