Would you report someone for having friend round their house atm?

[Lardlizard]

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First off, how nosy are you to notice a friend walking into your neighbours house?!

Second off, they're not impacting your life in the slightest, if there were 20+ people having a loud party then fair enough, one person going to your neighbours house isn't really any of your business

Third off, I presume by "report" you mean to the police? They have much more to deal with than 1 nosy neighbour

No.

I don't like lockdown. I don't agree it's necessary.
I don't like snitching.
I don't dislike my neighbours or want to hurt them.
I don't know their situation, how painful or difficult Lockdown may have been for them.
I've been reported for things before, and it was horrible. I learned to distrust everyone.

Pick any of those reasons. They all apply. They are why I would not report.

No. Theres all kinds of reasons why someone might go to someone else's house. Absolutely would not get involved.

Wow, feel so much better for getting out this afternoon, we had been at home for over two months as we were in quarantine before the lockdown began, so I’m so glad it’s changing now, over two months is a long time, felt so great to get out and drive the car a decent distance, and just have a joke and a laugh, I’ve said I’ll go and see my brother as well tomorrow, and next week, have a day trip to the beach, as the weather is set to be good. This is why it’s always a good idea to sit on thoughts for a bit before reacting, there was something else I almost nearly did this week, but I’m glad I didn’t now. cheers for the advice, the good weather sure helps

Glad you are letting your hair down and relaxing a bit OP, sounds like you needed it

You sound like you just wanted a reaction. Immature.

"Ive been to my friend’s house lots of times and her to mine. "

While everyone else has to stay home? Why are you special enough that you get to break the law?

I wouldn't report this because it's not a big enough infringement, but that doesn't mean it's OK. Not sure about the new rules in England now, but this was definitely not allowed last week.

No.

This might be the most unanimous AIBU thread I've ever seen!

The police do nothing. There have been tourists staying at holiday homes down the road from me for weeks, reported to police multiple times by different people but nothing has been done. What makes you think they care about someone having a visitor?

Plus I think we’re reaching the point where some people are struggling with their mental health and their need for contact is greater than their need to protect themselves.

OK well off you go then OP, do what you have to do and use your own judgement. At least it will give your neighbour a short break from being spied on.

No. Sometimes people need support. If they were having a party in their back garden it would be different but a single visitor, no.

My neighbours have family visitors several times a week and they dont do social distancing. Yet they had a good whinge when my nephews came to fix my security alarm and we had to test it. Most of the work was outside and you are allowed to have essential household equipment fixed provided the workmen have no symptoms. Im not going to snitch on them but I have as little to do with neighbours as possible.

I wouldn't report them even though i think most people who are breaking the rules are selfish b* who are spreading the virus and putting lives at risk. I despair that this virus will never go away due to this arrogance/ignorance.

Fuck no, and I pray that I never become that sort of person or am ever unlucky enough to live next to such trouble-making busy bodies.

Whenever you're tempted to snitch on your neighbours, think about whether you want to be the type of person that the Stasi relied upon.

ReturnofSaturn Thanks, you’re right I sure did for you too.

I'd not snitch but I was very passed off to find out a free had been having a kid round for a play date at her house.

I’m in Scotland and from what I can see our rules are clearer. It pisses me off a bit when people choose to flout the rules but I wouldn’t report them.

We’re all missing our friends and most of us can probably find ways to cope - but not everyone can. I have carers and medical staff in the house each day for my husband and have been warned in writing not to have guests in the house - if I do I risk losing his care package.

It’s none of my business what others do - I’ve seen neighbours having people in then see them on a Thursday evening clapping for carers. I’m a bit judgy at their double standards!

No. I couldn't be sure on the circumstances and tbh it's not really my business.

I'll do what I can to keep myself safe.
Others can do what they feel is right for the .

FWIW in about 10 days I will see both my parents at the same time and probably with 18 DD. I can't even guarantee will will stay 2m apart, and if it's raining it might even be inside.

It'll be at or after my nana's funeral.

And just over month ago we saw BIL and had him stay here as FIL was dying and he lived too far away. We saw him and his family for the funeral too and 18 DD did not stay 2m away from her young cousins as they were upset during the service and she comforted them both.

It's breaking the rules but sometimes it's common sense too.

Mind you 3 days after seeing my parents the Government things it's safer for me to be in a school with over 180 children and dealing with the same number of parents for drop off etc. I know personally which risk seems greater and which I'm happier taking the risk.

OP to be clear, it is still against the rules to do this. However, as this thread demonstrates, adults (including me) are using their judgement to assess their own risk, circumstances and need. Those of us in serious relationships but not cohabiting face potentially months and months apart if we follow these rules (and a socially distanced walk in public isn't going to sustain a relationship forever). So I have seen him, for one weekend, since March. I see my parents in their garden several times a week. These visits and all the others people have described on here are not going to prolong the lockdown or cause a second Spike. Large gatherings where people will relax and forget about passing plates, drinks etc are entirely different but I still wouldn't report them because I'm not a dick.

No. It's not my job to police other adults. Even before restrictions were slightly eased, I wouldn't have done either.

I went round to a friends house on Friday just gone for the first time since lockdown, but entered through the side gate, so didn't have to go into the house. Stayed in the garden throughout, and bought a thermos of my own coffee.