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AIBU?

Would you report someone for having friend round their house atm?

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Lardlizard · 16/05/2020 10:48

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WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 16/05/2020 11:25

No
New neighbour has had people round constantly but she might have mental illness and company keeps her happier ? Just a thought but I do not know others circumstances so I would not report, Nope.

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TooTrueToBeGood · 16/05/2020 11:28

I bet you volunteered to be the milk monitor at school.

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Rebelwithallthecause · 16/05/2020 11:29

No
You never know someone’s situation

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fishonabicycle · 16/05/2020 11:29

No.

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amijustparanoidorjuststoned · 16/05/2020 11:30

No. The government don't care, so why should we?

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UnhappyMondays · 16/05/2020 11:30

Voted YABU which I took to be “No I wouldn’t report”

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Sparklingbrook · 16/05/2020 11:32

Maybe we are all unsure of the rules

Err no.

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CHIRIBAYA · 16/05/2020 11:36

Absoutely not.

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maddy68 · 16/05/2020 11:47

No. You don't know the reason for them being there. It could be a mental health issue, suffered a bereavement etc.

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Bloomburger · 16/05/2020 11:51

No I wouldn't.

I've had 2 clients round this morning, we kept 2m apart outside, it's in the guidelines for me being able to work.

I'm sure I'll have raised eyebrows though 🤷🏻‍♀️

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SeriouslySoDoneIn · 16/05/2020 11:56

With kindness OP, perhaps focus less on your neighbour right now? I know there’s not much else to do during lockdown but you seem a little obsessive lately, it can’t be doing your mental health much good.

Had the same issue with my neighbour, constantly has people going in and out of her flat. The noise and them all sat coughing right beneath my windows (smokers cough I think, they’ve all coughed for years!) is doing my head in, but it’s none of my business and in normal times I’d not have a problem with it. I have to keep reminding myself that the only reason it’s bothering me is because I’m alone with 3 children and too scared of catching this virus to risk having people come over. If it wasn’t for feeling so alone I’d not have an issue with her having her family and friends visit and I’d really like to keep a civil relationship for after lockdown - we still have to stay neighbours!

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ChocolateQuiltedShitPig · 16/05/2020 12:03

Seriously. Who has the time to monitor other peoples activities then go to the trouble of reporting it.

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Lardlizard · 16/05/2020 12:04

Well now it seems ok to visit people, I’ve decided to go and see one of my best friends, can’t wait 👏🍷
Tbh it’s confusing times right now, all a bit yeah but no and we can’t all stay home forever

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Lardlizard · 16/05/2020 12:05

I’m gonna hop into be bath, do my hair and make up and put something nice on, have a spritz of perfume, blast out some happy music and go and see one of my best friends

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Nicknacky · 16/05/2020 12:05

It’s not confusing at all. You are just too fucking nosy for your own good!!

And for the third time, who were you going to report them to?

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NoCaseToAnswer · 16/05/2020 12:11

Have a nice time OP! It'll do you good to stop watching your neighbours and relax for a few hours.

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Mammyof22020 · 16/05/2020 12:12

No! It doesn't affect you and none of your business.

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onesmalldog · 16/05/2020 12:13

Yeah, do it OP.

Do your part in creating a society where we're all watching each other and snitching on each other for such heinous crimes as visiting a friend.

Don't worry that you don't know the full facts, just get on in there and stamp it out.

You can then sit there and feel proud of yourself for being such a good little citizen.

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LittleCandle · 16/05/2020 12:13

No, because its none of my business. Perhaps you need to mind your own business and find something to keep yourself busy, OP.

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Bluntness100 · 16/05/2020 12:16

Are you thr carper fitter lady who was spying on your neighbours? And wanted to report them for having carpet fitted? Now because everyone said no it’s permitted you’re grasping at reporting the friend?

I think we all know you’re not going anwhere, other than to sit and watch your neighbours and wonder what you can call the police on them for.

This just isn’t right. Let it go.

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Puffalicious · 16/05/2020 12:16

Ridiculous. Worry about you and yours not other people. Where has this mentality come from? It really is worrying.

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NeverForgetYourDreams · 16/05/2020 12:17

No. If I can go to my office with another person 2m away in same room then I can have my mum round at mine 2m away. At least I know where's shes been !

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Thurmanmurman · 16/05/2020 12:18

No because I'm not a dick.

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 16/05/2020 12:18

I don't think it really is confusing - if you can stay home, do. If you can't, then do what you can to mitigate that (social distancing, covering faces with mask if required, hand washing and exercising caution).

I don't need to visit my friends because I'm doing ok. If my friends phoned me in distress and needed me, I'd go. I believe strongly that the impact this is having on people's MH could do so much harm and it's everyone's duty to remember that - we don't know what's going on with our neighbours MH and if they need to see people in order to stay calm and take care of themselves, I have no intention of judging.

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PleasantVille · 16/05/2020 12:18

I wouldn't report it but the obvious extension of this is that we all are OK to visit whoever we want with no restriction which is exactly how the 2nd peak will happen.

It can't be OK for one but not for all, whether we like it or not the past 50plus days have been very successful in keeping the numbers of infections manageable and that's one of the tests for getting out of this so best we stick with it.

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